that is exactly how it works for me. that link of yours sugest that Fi is about finding out how other people feel like by imagining how you yourself would feel like in the same circumstances. And Fe is about finding out what people mean by certain actions in a relationship context, right. I seem not to be able to do the first because I'm preoccupied with the latter. I have to make sure my behaviour is comform the norm and everyone is ok with me (out of shame exactly) before I can start caring for other peoples feelings and helping them and making relationships harmonious. Do you do that too? I wish i could skip the Fe stuff and do the Fi thing instead, it would make my life much more fullfilled!