orangeappled

I've said it and wants to say it more, have a fantastic, an excellent festive time and many a celebrations into the New Year. A prosperous and bountiful, abundant and dreamy yet relaxing and benevolent start to the New Year.

Your some kind of alright.

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I see an elitist aspect in INFPs, but mainly enneagram 4s (of which I am one). It's a tendency to identify with your tastes (ie. music, art, etc), and consider yourself superior to others because of it. Or to feel you're so unique that no one can understand you (although to a point, I maintain it is true for many INFP e4 types ). True, it's quite different from TJs, and a lot more subtle. There's also the excessive humility side of the INFP that obscures this. Really confidence is not a yo-yoing between self-deprecation and elitism, but that's what an unhealthy INFP can look like. I think your personal identity broadens as you mature (and become healthier), so you don't have this restrictive image of yourself to live up to, and so your sense of self-value is less threatened & you can drop the shield of elitism.
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Wouldn't that be more of a kind of snub, I'm trying to think of the word, elitism sounds uncharacteristic. More like untainted ideals, or ideals held highly enough that there is an air of tall, a height. Still trying to place the word, elitism just doesn't ring true at all. We can be all kinds of snobby about our ideals and stubborn to the point of ridiculous. Though elitism? something I'll have to explore further.


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Yes, in some ways, no, I don't think so, never! . I could be ornery, moody, stubborn, and argumentative (no wonder I tested INTP ). I still can be, but not so much. Of course, the teen years are always the worst.
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Way to allude the question, ooh so feisty.


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Oh, I don't disagree. But I found emotions in other people overwhelming when younger, and my own embarrassing (as they reveal something of how you feel), and so I did dampen them down (maybe my e5 wing ). It was not anything I put thought into, but a knee jerk reaction. I'm finding this a lot more typical for INFPs than others might imagine. I would really avoid being affected emotionally by anything. As an adult, I find my feelings so much more refined when I allow emotion to have their fair part. It's the exact opposite picture of how some paint emotions, something that clouds thinking; they very much aid in figuring out feelings.
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Why would this be the case when INFPs are meant to be emotionally aware beings, why would we detach so much from our emotions when that's supposed to be our strength? I know I've done this too when I'm guarded, okay well thats been the case most of the time with my INTJ family. lol

What's with the sulky look.
Sure...
Make with the whip or something.


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As for older INFPs in or nearing mid-life (I am only 27 after all), I notice a definite surge in confidence, a clearer direction in life, some peace made with the world & its flaws, further refined ideals & feelings & better at articulating these, and they have a better grip on their sensitivity & emotions. The cool thing is they still keep their unique interests & outlook, childlike whimsy, and tend to reach their potential when others are burning out. I look forward to this...
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Me too, sounds like a dream.


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1) having more awareness of others, less absorbed in my own inner world of imagination & feeling, less focus on self-fulfillment & my identity, & realizing that fulfillment involves others; also seeing myself more kindly with this awareness, instead of holding myself to an impossible ideal
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This is an interesting premise.


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2) developing more healthy self-confidence, as opposed to a bitter elitism
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Clarify this, I see the elitism pronounced in TJ modalities of thought more than NF. I certainly know that self confidence is a way however missing the most important aspect, self belief, through a proper alignment in self belief with personal identity and spirit do we become rather and develop healthy thinking and feeling patterns.


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3) developing my compassionate/empathetic side, which did not really develop until my late teens, and it continues to refine. I suppose I am becoming nicer & nicer by the day . When I was younger, I was definitely not the sweet INFP of some profiles... As this side has developed, I've found relationships a bit easier
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Feisty, arrogant, conceited, pretentious, insincere? Pick one, explore the dark side.


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4.Taking as many opportunities as possible; it's broadened my perspective, lessened regret, made me more interesting and well-rounded on the whole...theory & imagination can only take you so far, some experience is necessary
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Unequivocally true! However when experience is in absence whats left but theory and imagination. Seems that way sometimes.


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5) embracing being a Feeling type and who I am in general...less shame & a sense of defectiveness
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Why would that bother you? Emotions and feelings are epicenter to being enlightened. For without them, thoughts nor feelings would manifest. Thoughts are created from feelings. Logical thoughts are emotional triggers, however much is denied, in essence. The heart knows more than the mind, how much stronger peoples resolve might be with a cooperative and cocreative heart and mind rather than an isolated mind to the heart that thinks living in a box is better than living in a field.

Hahha doing well hay hay, say OrangeAppled would you be happy to talk about your attitude to life?

I mean you know how our preferences change according to life experience and such and that we become more mature as we experience more and such. How would you describe INFP maturity. I know I don't think of myself as mature per say. Although most would think otherwise, however I feel there is a lot of immaturity to get through on my part at least. Then I would want to understand when do you feel you are mature or start thinking that we are no long in their what I call late blooming attitude and stage and start taking charge of our lives. Starting to be our own creator of our life paths rather than our limiter in our life paths as it were. Why would we get bogged down like this, what purpose is there to analysing and starting things much later than others.

Greets Ya. ^_^

oh man, i totally was having coffee with my infp friend the other day and she asked me "have you ever read posts from this one user on typologycentral? i think her name is 'orangeapplied'?" LOLZZZZ. see, you are popular!

I LOVE your avatar! Zorro all the way

whoa. literally 2 two days after i posted that last comment, i met an infj girl who likes me, i like her, and we're totally smitten. also, completely astereotypical for infj. just goes to show you typing only goes so far, maybe?

yeah admittedly i don't go on here much either anymore. i've given up on infjs (in real life). they never like me!

Ah! another INFP! we must collect!

Amelie! I just watched that movie

You have the same avatar pic that lurker has on her profile!

Wow! Look at those big beautiful INFP eyes you have there!