INFJ Forum

It is what it is, there are many who have issues that are far worse than mine.

You're very brave.

So what are the dogs doing to piss you off?

I had to stop fighting the pain, and learn to accept that it will always be there in some form...I look at it now just as a part of who I am...my given perspective,

It took a while to learn to accept that.
Glad you are doing well!
Anything new and exciting going on?

Oh my lord....one dog is constantly trying to get in my lap....when I'm eating, watching tv, reading...sleeping...constant constant ....always trying to get up. Then when you shoo her away she yelps like you hurt her...ugh. The other dog has to hear constant soothing encouragement to eat all her damn food when my Mom isn't here.....annoying.

Yeah, I totally get you. We're doing a lot of that radical acceptance type work in DBT at the moment. Something I've had a lot of practice with! I have a lot of respect for you : )

Lots going on here. Started seeing a family support worker. My daughter is enjoying that so much and im feeling a little less like im drowning.
Also got my college application in, so fingers crossed!
How about you?

lol this is why im a cat person.

I know right?
I have two cats at home... Mishou and Dandy Lion.
Lol
Thanks for your kind words, it's very encouraging, I appreciate that.
Glad that you have some weight off your own shoulders too...my own Son sees a family counselor...mostly because his Mom is impossible to live with and is now doing some of the same shit she used to pull on me while we were married to him.

He will be fourteen in the fall.
What are going to college for!?
Awesome!

oh wow can't believe he's that old already! How are you finding the teenage years now? Isobel is only just seven, but damn, she's gone into difficult little child mode. Starts early!

This is just a years course, will be taking into to archaeology, sociology, english lit and politics. Hopefully going to major is Psychiatric Nursing.

I just now had to shoo that dog away...lolol.
Ugh.
Well my Son is not really the one with the issues as far as I'm concerned...she blames everyone for everything besides herself.
She has even blamed me...and recently him...for it raining.
She's fucking crazy.
She picks fights out of thin air and never accepts apologies.
She has a serious problem emapthizing....it's not that she can't...it that she chooses not to.

That is really great!
That's a commendable choice of profession!
If you ever need any help with anything, let me know!

oh goodness, sounds a little like my father. I can empathise with that situation. I hope your son is doing ok and therapy helps him to see it's not his fault and gives him some coping mechanisms.

thank you! I'm very excited. I always knew I'd get into some kind of helping profession, but the nursing degree is both exciting and scary.

Oh....and if what you are talking to her about is not interesting she walks away as if there was nothing going on.
Conceited and rude.
Though...she is better than she used to be.

Just remember to always side on the side of the patient.
I know in the OR, it was very common for people to become jaded and forget that these are people...not operations.
If they tell you something is wrong...never dismiss that...and go with your gut...treat them as you would a friend or family member and you can't go wrong. Sorry, unsolicited advice..lol.

No, it's appreciated, thank you! I actually spent a good bit of time in hospital when I was younger and had a nervous breakdown. I think because of that I already have some good models of what to be and what not to be. Even still, wards can be exhausting and not getting burnt out/ jaded is a serious task, you are totally right.

Yeah....especially as an INFJ, you have to get a handle on putting your emotions to the side sometimes to do your job the best way possible...just remember to have some kind of way to let that suspended emotion out...preferably before you get home and get into a blow out fight with your SO.
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There were many times I would just sob in my car after work to let those emotions out...some hit the gym...some hit the bottle.
Take care of yourself too...burn out is a very real thing

Yeah, my psychologist is the one encouraging me to go for Psych nursing. One of my doctors was absoloutely delighted with my choice the other was like oooh...

I think that's a great thing about going into it in my late twenties / thirties. I think I'm going in with eyes wide open.

the nice thing these days is psych nurse are running the show. Psychologists are more over seers now. I could work in a hospital setting or i could pick up shifts for extra cash and work in day treatment/running groups etc. It's diverse.

Do miss the OR?