larcipelago
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I recently spoke to my lady friend. She is an assistant lecturer and very feminist.
The benefit of being an INFJ is people throw everything to you, yeah ... Just like a garbage bin.
She explained her annoyance about how men tend to look over her appearance rather than what she said. In particular, she was speaking in a webinar forum, where she, in my opinion gave a stunning speech, and deliver strong substance about the topics. The video was broadcast via simulcast, including Youtube. What dissapoint her when she saw comments that embedded some words she consider as "sexist".
They are: "Sweety, Pretty," etc. I get her point, since she is one of a rare female profesional working in man-dominated field. She wants people to listen to what she said, not look at how her look.
To give an illustration is like in this Youtube comments:
As I find it interesting, I ask her:
"Dont you get flattered at all people call you pretty, sweety?"
She: "I have passed through that period. No flirting could work for me."
Me: "Let me clarify with an example, if this lady speaks noone will use any sexist word like: sweety, pretty. Rather people will listen to what she say?"
She: "Somethung like that."
Me: "I have watched your performance. You delivered strong arguments. But since you raise this point. May I give you a bit suggestion? Do you know why in many tv station we dont want a lady news anchor to dress over attratively, that is exactly to avoid your kind of complaint. People look at you more than they hear you."
Here is the debate starting.
She: "That is so sexist. Why cant a beautiful lady talk smart and you boys listen carefully?"
Me: "Coz we wont. It is in the nature. What can you expect? There are some wank*rs outhere may take a picture of you for their private business in their room? Also, there are teenage girls noticing your eyebrows, lipsticks, making you inefficient speakers. If you want to be viral, then you got the recipee, be pretty and a bit revealing. but if you want profesional boys to listen, something must be changed with your appearance. I bet you were over excited you want to look pretty in the forum right? Dont, just be descent. So, it is your word that matters, not your look. That is my advise."
She: "(silent) Despite all your words sound sexist to me, may be I will take it, but still it isn't fair. Who doesnt want to look pretty.
Me: (laughing) just let it go sweety, it is the way the world is.
I met many more feminists like that, I am wondering is there any of you, ever has similar case, where some compliments made by boys became sexist words in your ear? Are there many feminist here?
The benefit of being an INFJ is people throw everything to you, yeah ... Just like a garbage bin.
She explained her annoyance about how men tend to look over her appearance rather than what she said. In particular, she was speaking in a webinar forum, where she, in my opinion gave a stunning speech, and deliver strong substance about the topics. The video was broadcast via simulcast, including Youtube. What dissapoint her when she saw comments that embedded some words she consider as "sexist".
They are: "Sweety, Pretty," etc. I get her point, since she is one of a rare female profesional working in man-dominated field. She wants people to listen to what she said, not look at how her look.
To give an illustration is like in this Youtube comments:

As I find it interesting, I ask her:
"Dont you get flattered at all people call you pretty, sweety?"
She: "I have passed through that period. No flirting could work for me."
Me: "Let me clarify with an example, if this lady speaks noone will use any sexist word like: sweety, pretty. Rather people will listen to what she say?"

She: "Somethung like that."
Me: "I have watched your performance. You delivered strong arguments. But since you raise this point. May I give you a bit suggestion? Do you know why in many tv station we dont want a lady news anchor to dress over attratively, that is exactly to avoid your kind of complaint. People look at you more than they hear you."
Here is the debate starting.
She: "That is so sexist. Why cant a beautiful lady talk smart and you boys listen carefully?"
Me: "Coz we wont. It is in the nature. What can you expect? There are some wank*rs outhere may take a picture of you for their private business in their room? Also, there are teenage girls noticing your eyebrows, lipsticks, making you inefficient speakers. If you want to be viral, then you got the recipee, be pretty and a bit revealing. but if you want profesional boys to listen, something must be changed with your appearance. I bet you were over excited you want to look pretty in the forum right? Dont, just be descent. So, it is your word that matters, not your look. That is my advise."
She: "(silent) Despite all your words sound sexist to me, may be I will take it, but still it isn't fair. Who doesnt want to look pretty.
Me: (laughing) just let it go sweety, it is the way the world is.
I met many more feminists like that, I am wondering is there any of you, ever has similar case, where some compliments made by boys became sexist words in your ear? Are there many feminist here?