Esfp
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I have a few good friends and colleagues that are ESFP. I do appreciate and admire the way they approach life, and how they take many things at face value. Reading in to everything is tiring and overated. Simplicty can be beautiful. All the ESFPs I know are also very quirky, friendly, good natured and go to many lengths to maintain group harmony. Its amazing how much detail they notice around them. I think INFJs have much to learn from ESFPs.
I know one that is highly intelligent and does have a great deal of depth, not in a philosphical way, but instead has a deep love and appreciation for the world and living in the moment.
Another of my ESFP friends is really shy but she makes such an effort to talk to everyone and doesnt judge anybody. I used to work with a ESFP male that was extemely selfish, self absorbed and shallow, but I dont think he was representative of ESFPs.
One of my business partners is ESFP and he studied law because he was pushed into by his family while he was younger. He did extremely well, but never had the heart to actually practice law because of his loving nature. He has built 4 successful businesses for himself now simply by the excellent way he can befriend people, his easy going nature and his willingness to be hard working and practical. I love him dearly and think he is wonderful but I have been annoyed at him a few times for being too passive, naive and spontaneous. He is a great businessman, so he is pretty well organised but I found I had to push him a lot to get things done on time. I pretty much had to direct him and tell him what to do. I didnt enjoy this because I hate telling people what to do and being responsible for them, but he didn't seem to mind though.
Although he tries to be honest, it is always more important for him to keep the peace and get along with everyone. I often misinterpreted his indirect nature as dishonesty, but I realised in time that he was being honest to himself by keeping the peace. He is non-confrontational to a fault though. I had to take the defender role quite a few times so that others wouldnt take advantage of him.
What I love most about him was his sponataniety and the fact that he was up for anything. A lot of fun to be around. And very 'easy' company.
I dont know if I would be interested in dating an ESFP though. I get along really well with them and enjoy doing things with them but I crave deeper converstaions about the things that are close to my heart. I love talking about politics, science, philosophy, religion, spirituality, and human nature and while my ESFP friends will tolerate this for a while, they seem unwilling to engage about these topics for long. Sometimes my friends just start looking really bored or they will just change the subject when it gets too heavy. The same as when Im out partying with ESFPs, I have fun for a while and thoroughly enjoy myself but then I need to retreat into a corner and just space out for a while. I love ESFPs in moderate doses.
I know one that is highly intelligent and does have a great deal of depth, not in a philosphical way, but instead has a deep love and appreciation for the world and living in the moment.
Another of my ESFP friends is really shy but she makes such an effort to talk to everyone and doesnt judge anybody. I used to work with a ESFP male that was extemely selfish, self absorbed and shallow, but I dont think he was representative of ESFPs.
One of my business partners is ESFP and he studied law because he was pushed into by his family while he was younger. He did extremely well, but never had the heart to actually practice law because of his loving nature. He has built 4 successful businesses for himself now simply by the excellent way he can befriend people, his easy going nature and his willingness to be hard working and practical. I love him dearly and think he is wonderful but I have been annoyed at him a few times for being too passive, naive and spontaneous. He is a great businessman, so he is pretty well organised but I found I had to push him a lot to get things done on time. I pretty much had to direct him and tell him what to do. I didnt enjoy this because I hate telling people what to do and being responsible for them, but he didn't seem to mind though.
Although he tries to be honest, it is always more important for him to keep the peace and get along with everyone. I often misinterpreted his indirect nature as dishonesty, but I realised in time that he was being honest to himself by keeping the peace. He is non-confrontational to a fault though. I had to take the defender role quite a few times so that others wouldnt take advantage of him.
What I love most about him was his sponataniety and the fact that he was up for anything. A lot of fun to be around. And very 'easy' company.
I dont know if I would be interested in dating an ESFP though. I get along really well with them and enjoy doing things with them but I crave deeper converstaions about the things that are close to my heart. I love talking about politics, science, philosophy, religion, spirituality, and human nature and while my ESFP friends will tolerate this for a while, they seem unwilling to engage about these topics for long. Sometimes my friends just start looking really bored or they will just change the subject when it gets too heavy. The same as when Im out partying with ESFPs, I have fun for a while and thoroughly enjoy myself but then I need to retreat into a corner and just space out for a while. I love ESFPs in moderate doses.
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Oh no... I feel a mini standing-on-a-soapbox this-is-what-you-should-do sermon coming.... (here we go):
If it's a friend be friends if it's a guy, maybe you should go out on a date and see. The S lesson for INFJs to learn is to live our lives not vacillate constantly about wether it's ok to live in the world. you can't not do it. This is your life's story, you write it as you go.
As for S-types: Life's like a symphony orchestra. You need a whole bunch of different sounding instruments to play a piece. My S friends I'm forever indebted to for giving me the tools to understand the value of the present moment, cause that's ultimately where us temporal beings live... or at least our temporal parts...
The rest is a different matter, we'll leave out of this discussion.
And MBTI is just a general guideline as to how our cognitive functions work and you can derive some very general guidelines from it but to determine what a person is about you have to get to know them one on one. I think it's good to keep an open attitude and see what happens ;D
If it's a friend be friends if it's a guy, maybe you should go out on a date and see. The S lesson for INFJs to learn is to live our lives not vacillate constantly about wether it's ok to live in the world. you can't not do it. This is your life's story, you write it as you go.
As for S-types: Life's like a symphony orchestra. You need a whole bunch of different sounding instruments to play a piece. My S friends I'm forever indebted to for giving me the tools to understand the value of the present moment, cause that's ultimately where us temporal beings live... or at least our temporal parts...
The rest is a different matter, we'll leave out of this discussion.And MBTI is just a general guideline as to how our cognitive functions work and you can derive some very general guidelines from it but to determine what a person is about you have to get to know them one on one. I think it's good to keep an open attitude and see what happens ;D
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Yeah, it was mainly just a reason to talk about it. I understand the limits of MBTI. I'm 30, this isn't my first time around the block. lol
Haha... Ok.
(There are a lot of younger, more inexperienced, INFJs on this forum...I thought you may have been one too...oops, my bad) I'm 32 and my husband's an ENFP. He's a good man. Very loving and caring. We don't sit down to discuss our beliefs in detail etc. unless for a specific purpose (happened brieflytwice in 5 years) and personally it doesn't bother me a bit. We have the same core values and that's all that matters. Apart from that it's just I say poh-taah-to, you say poh-teh-to. ;d Works for me. I was so much more abstract and disconnected from the nitty gritty of living when I was younger I spent a lot of time splitting hair four ways. Now I try to live more. I was just looking for a person with the same values as I, before I met my husband. I'm less concerned as to how he came to have those values, than that he has them. ;D You know a tree by it's fruits, as they say.
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Such as?
CindyLou
Get over it
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Haha... Ok.
I know exactly what you mean. He seems to balance me out a little, drag me out of my shell, my bubble. It's calm yet fun in his world, I'm interested in it. Thanks.
