Trifoilum
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I wonder why does society as a whole are prone to glorifying our mental willpower to the point of treating it as some sort of panacea?
Willpower is good. I acknowledge that completely.
I do get that personal growth is important. And that a lot of personal growth is fueled and kept running by our willpower.
I also get that putting responsibilities at the world and everything outside us can be destructive and just as imbalanced. Surely all of us know someone who keeps blaming the world and never moving, never growing, never trying.
Not to mention people who deludes themselves into seeing invisible hands and conspiracies playing behind everything happening in this world/ in their life.
But this seems to be more than that.
From social injustice, poverty, to psychological disorders and abuse, it is treated as if just your mind alone is enough to solve them all. Or at least, that your mind alone can drive you to the exit.
"If you keep your mind to it, you'll succeed."
bootstrap economy,
"just leave them!" whenever talking about people in abusive relationship,
"you're just not trying hard enough,"
"you're just lazy".
these sort of thing.
Because from my standpoint an unhealthy (do note of this) fixation of putting responsibility to ourselves do seems to cause a great dose of self-blame -- bearing the weights of the world on your shoulder, having to change oneself to keep everyone happy, always thinking one is not good or worthy enough...
Not to mention that not every problem are caused from inside. Abusive relationships, systemic discrimination, drug abuse, poverty... they have external factors playing; something that may be beyond our reach. Something that should not be accepted (much less with serenity), but cannot be changed. We can nudge ourselves to reach something better-- and truly for some, it's just what they need, a nudge-- but......
It seems to be just as imbalanced and risky as entirely blaming the world for the bad things that happened in one's life.
And yet, people seem to dislike those who complain about the world more.
Those who failed to break through their barriers and conditions are seen as morally or spiritually or intellectually or personally inferior.
Worse, they are deemed as if they aren't trying.
While those who bears the responsibility are hailed as paragons of virtue and bravery-- which, to some point, they are, but it was made as if everyone can do this.
Which is definitely not the case.
I wonder why.
(of course, opposing viewpoints are welcomed too, after all surely this matter is more complex than what I'm depicting.)
Willpower is good. I acknowledge that completely.
I do get that personal growth is important. And that a lot of personal growth is fueled and kept running by our willpower.
I also get that putting responsibilities at the world and everything outside us can be destructive and just as imbalanced. Surely all of us know someone who keeps blaming the world and never moving, never growing, never trying.
Not to mention people who deludes themselves into seeing invisible hands and conspiracies playing behind everything happening in this world/ in their life.
But this seems to be more than that.
From social injustice, poverty, to psychological disorders and abuse, it is treated as if just your mind alone is enough to solve them all. Or at least, that your mind alone can drive you to the exit.
"If you keep your mind to it, you'll succeed."
bootstrap economy,
"just leave them!" whenever talking about people in abusive relationship,
"you're just not trying hard enough,"
"you're just lazy".
these sort of thing.
Because from my standpoint an unhealthy (do note of this) fixation of putting responsibility to ourselves do seems to cause a great dose of self-blame -- bearing the weights of the world on your shoulder, having to change oneself to keep everyone happy, always thinking one is not good or worthy enough...
Not to mention that not every problem are caused from inside. Abusive relationships, systemic discrimination, drug abuse, poverty... they have external factors playing; something that may be beyond our reach. Something that should not be accepted (much less with serenity), but cannot be changed. We can nudge ourselves to reach something better-- and truly for some, it's just what they need, a nudge-- but......
It seems to be just as imbalanced and risky as entirely blaming the world for the bad things that happened in one's life.
And yet, people seem to dislike those who complain about the world more.
Those who failed to break through their barriers and conditions are seen as morally or spiritually or intellectually or personally inferior.
Worse, they are deemed as if they aren't trying.
While those who bears the responsibility are hailed as paragons of virtue and bravery-- which, to some point, they are, but it was made as if everyone can do this.
Which is definitely not the case.
I wonder why.
(of course, opposing viewpoints are welcomed too, after all surely this matter is more complex than what I'm depicting.)
