Good Ole INFJ Thread

[invisible]

i am really starved for a good old infj thread about infjs and what it's like to be an infj. i would love to hear some latest member experiences of being infj. members who are not infj are also invited to contribute their recent experiences of being infj but you have to pretend that you're infj when you're writing it.

right now i am a very shorted out infj. my infjness has been taxed to the maxxx and i have gone into don't-givafuck mode. in which i get ideas that i am basically above everyone and shouldn't have to bother with any of their shit at all. which is very at odds with how i feel comfortable and want to be. i don't like it much.

am i still an infj then? please tell me. or tell me when you were a shorted out infj. or anything else. etc.

 

[Galileo]

I have this inner idea that absolutely everything in the whole entire world should be fair.

and when I say everything, I mean everything. even boardgames and all other competitions. I lose so much because of this haha.

I gave away half my free parking money the other day in monopoly...
to the extent that I pay more attention making sure stuff is fair on everyone than actually winning games sometimes...
and I get so angry when I see instances of unfairness, and in my line of work that's all the time.

I am constantly in situations where I have to explain to people why their atitude or actions are unfair...

I am also very often disappointed by the ineptness of other people when considering the feelings of others...I argue all the time with my best friend who is an INTJ about why his actions might be the best for him but don't take into account how other people feel about them...and he just doesn't get feelings at all!

infjy enough?

 

[Free Mind]

i am really starved for a good old infj thread about infjs and what it's like to be an infj. i would love to hear some latest member experiences of being infj. members who are not infj are also invited to contribute their recent experiences of being infj but you have to pretend that you're infj when you're writing it.

right now i am a very shorted out infj. my infjness has been taxed to the maxxx and i have gone into don't-givafuck mode. in which i get ideas that i am basically above everyone and shouldn't have to bother with any of their shit at all. which is very at odds with how i feel comfortable and want to be. i don't like it much.

am i still an infj then? please tell me. or tell me when you were a shorted out infj. or anything else. etc.

I get this too, quite often actually. Someone brought up work to me today and I instantly had an array of thoughts that made me transcendent and non caring for so many people. It's become quite a default mode almost...I think it's stopping me from 'getting on' with my life in areas I should be trying to excel in. D=

I have this habit of just not keeping up friendships, it's why I hardly have any friends because I don't keep it alive, I seem to rely on others doing it for me otherwise I just won't bother. Not sure if that's INFJ but I've read many things on this forum with people having a similar 'problem.'

Recently I realized quite a few things about myself. One of them being I've lost my balance. Being alone so much and enjoying being alone so much has screwed up the balance I once had, I am just this little cave dwelling introvert at the moment and I am finding it hard to get the ball rolling in other areas...

Being an INFJ during all this has just made me stick to it more, I think. I'm always up for self improvement and being alone helps me with this. I was speaking to someone last night about how much I hate being around people too much and if I had to be a lot of the time I would start to go crazy. I need to improve myself, a lot really. I also can't deal with small talk and boring chats. I seem to always want to be deep within conversations about the most interesting subjects and when I am not I simply ignore the people I am speaking to. T.T xD

 

[Blind Bandit]

Recently I realized quite a few things about myself. One of them being I've lost my balance. Being alone so much and enjoying being alone so much has screwed up the balance I once had, I am just this little cave dwelling introvert at the moment and I am finding it hard to get the ball rolling in other areas...

Being an INFJ during all this has just made me stick to it more, I think. I'm always up for self improvement and being alone helps me with this. I was speaking to someone last night about how much I hate being around people too much and if I had to be a lot of the time I would start to go crazy. I need to improve myself, a lot really. I also can't deal with small talk and boring chats. I seem to always want to be deep within conversations about the most interesting subjects and when I am not I simply ignore the people I am speaking to. T.T xD

Same here, interacting people offline seems like such a chore right now.. ughh

 

[Galileo]

I have this habit of just not keeping up friendships, it's why I hardly have any friends because I don't keep it alive, I seem to rely on others doing it for me otherwise I just won't bother. Not sure if that's INFJ but I've read many things on this forum with people having a similar 'problem.'

I get this a lot. I am the sort of person who has to be contacted first by most of my friends, for the most part. and then some big event will happen to make me realise what a crappy friend I've been and I'll want to repare all the damage and I'll start being more communicative and for a while that will work until I realise that that's just not me nad I'll relapse into my old self again....

 

[Free Mind]

I get this a lot. I am the sort of person who has to be contacted first by most of my friends, for the most part. and then some big event will happen to make me realise what a crappy friend I've been and I'll want to repare all the damage and I'll start being more communicative and for a while that will work until I realise that that's just not me nad I'll relapse into my old self again....

Yup. This is what I want to work on, really. I'd like to improve myself a little. Right now I'm just a jerk of a friend.

 

[Norton]

i am really starved for a good old infj thread about infjs and what it's like to be an infj. i would love to hear some latest member experiences of being infj. members who are not infj are also invited to contribute their recent experiences of being infj but you have to pretend that you're infj when you're writing it.

right now i am a very shorted out infj. my infjness has been taxed to the maxxx and i have gone into don't-givafuck mode. in which i get ideas that i am basically above everyone and shouldn't have to bother with any of their shit at all. which is very at odds with how i feel comfortable and want to be. i don't like it much.

am i still an infj then? please tell me. or tell me when you were a shorted out infj. or anything else. etc.

I think this is a common INFJ feeling. My INFJ son gets overwhelmed with the tendency of his friends to unload their problems, and associated emotions, on him. Everything becomes too much and a bit of anger is the result. When that happens he just wants to retreat into his introversion and become a hermit for a while. My INFJ wife is a physician so she is dealing with situations fraught with emotion and pain but, as a professional, she has learned to protect herself at the same time that she remains open and sensitive to her patients. We have made our home a calm, relaxing haven where a strong introvert can recharge comfortably.

 

[This]

Alright, In this thread I'll share how I've really been feeling lately;

To be honest I feel alone and yet not lonely. I want someone to hold, to kiss, to love. I don't have friends I have "clients" I hardly talk to my friends anymore, I'm too busy with the concerns of my business relationships. But I am 23 years old, I feel like I've totally isolated myself from anyone my age. Most of the people I talk to are married and approaching retirement age. I know what is in the best interest of myself and the best interest of my future, and I know that I have managed to accomplish more than many my age (There is honestly nothing else quite like feeling of owning your own business.)
I knew some of the things I would have to sacrifice, but like I've said. I'm 23, I'd rather not care, I'd rather be free to do all those wild crazy stupid things that you're supposed to do in your 20s. To be madly in love and filled with such passion that the rest of the world completely escapes from my reality. My heart is screaming.

 

[Jill Hives]

I'm finding myself in that mode too.

 

[MindYourHead]

I have this habit of just not keeping up friendships, it's why I hardly have any friends because I don't keep it alive, I seem to rely on others doing it for me otherwise I just won't bother. Not sure if that's INFJ but I've read many things on this forum with people having a similar 'problem.'

I get this a lot. I am the sort of person who has to be contacted first by most of my friends, for the most part. and then some big event will happen to make me realise what a crappy friend I've been and I'll want to repare all the damage and I'll start being more communicative and for a while that will work until I realise that that's just not me nad I'll relapse into my old self again....

Yup. This is what I want to work on, really. I'd like to improve myself a little. Right now I'm just a jerk of a friend.

Guilty.

I've done a lot of reflecting on this.

I look back and see that when I was younger, (Childhood thru High School) there were so many in my group of friends that there was always one of them contacting me. I never gave much thought as to having to put in effort to make contact myself.

As we went off to college, began careers and family, we split off and didn't connect as often. This is normal despite thinking when young that "We'll be buds all our life! Yeah!"
I still left it up to others to contact me. Slowly, I was contacted less, and less.
I discovered after joining Facebook and connecting with some old friends, that despite wanting to be contacted, I actually hated that they would call me since that would then obligate me to reciprocate.

It's fucked up.

It is nice to know I am in good company and not alone in being this way.