How anal retentive are you?

Lucidmoon

Lucidmoon

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And is that a part of being an INFJ? Curious...

I would say I'm pretty AR and even more so after the last five years. IDK why and sometimes I know it's going too far but just "letting go" doesn't always help.
 
INFP here - i am totally anally retentive. I've tried very hard to let go over the years, but it sooooooooooo hard. So, you're in good company. :D
 
It's called being a J type.
 
I apply a degree of order to my existence, more than others perhaps, but not to the degree it causes any problems, or sets off any alarms for me or others.
 
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I would consider myself somewhere in the middle of the anal retentive spectrum, leaning slightly toward it. Some things cause me to become much moreso than I naturally am.
 
I never used to think I was, but I've noticed that I really am pretty anal about things. Things that really shouldn't even matter. For instance when my husband was here he put the blanket on the bed sideways. And I couldn't let it be. I had to change it. It bugged me like crazy. And if certain things aren't done in a specific order I get antsy about it. There is a "right" way to do things in my eyes.

I do my best to control my urges to jump in and fix it though when it is logically inconsequential even if it makes me grit my teeth though, because I can totally understand how this would be really obnoxious to people...haha...
 
I am pretty flipping anal retentive, and I try to make others be anal retentive as well as often as I can (in particular if you have to work with me). I do have a forgiving side though, but I sure as well will tell you if you are violating my sensibillites with things.
 
IndigoSensor said:
I am pretty flipping anal retentive, and I try to make others be anal retentive as well as often as I can (in particular if you have to work with me). I do have a forgiving side though, but I sure as well will tell you if you are violating my sensibillites with things.
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must poke buttons...
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I can be but I don't actively enforce it. It's more an internal thing and over unusual things anyway, ergo it isn't a problem most of the time. Just:
A) Don't be dumb
B) Explain actions that are questionable/odd
C) Respect my way of doing things, I try to be as efficient as possible so you start talking down about my things shit will go south fast.
 
IndigoSensor said:
I am pretty flipping anal retentive, and I try to make others be anal retentive as well as often as I can (in particular if you have to work with me). I do have a forgiving side though, but I sure as well will tell you if you are violating my sensibillites with things.
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I'd like to think that anal retentiveness is kind of a life saver in a chemistry lab! There is a certain protocol that must be adhered to in order to get the desired results and not blow yourself to pieces! hahaha...

But seriously.


On a semi related note...

Does it bug you when people don't read the manual that comes with something they are trying to put together and then start complaining about how hard it is to put together? My dad does this and it drives me freaking nuts.

I'm thinking "Did you even LOOK at the instructions? Read the guideline, then ask questions. If you have questions, maybe you should READ the manual! Whoever wrote that has people like YOU in mind!"

I flip a couple pages and can tell them exactly what needs done and I am left standing there wondering why they didn't think to do the same obvious thing.

Sigh.
 
*talks down about Kavalan's stuff (don't swear)* Kidding, just kidding! *stares*

I always think of anal retentive as fussy. I am not a fussy person. I do have to work at being a bit more flexible. Not that I am totally rigid but recognize a tendency to want things my way.
 
These are good responses... They've got me thinking - what things are you more anal about?

The blanket one cracked me up. That's me. So is lining up papers on my desk (when I was working) so that everything is at a 90 degree angle (if put away) or 45 (if in use). If everything in my cupboards was colored you'd best believe I'd have them stacked in rainbow order. It bugs me when my daughters toys (such as stacking cups) aren't created this way. The cups are colored out of order?! LOL
 
^lol

from wiki:
Freud theorized that children who experience conflicts during this period of time may develop "anal" personality traits, namely those associated with a child's efforts at excretory control: orderliness, stubbornness, a compulsion for control,[1] as well as a generalized interest in collecting, possessing, and retaining objects.[2]
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by that definition i'm not very AR. i can be stubborn at times though
 
My Dad and his Mother are extremely anal retentive. I however don't see the point behind most of the things he feels he needs to do.
 
Not at all. I live in chaos.
 
Kavalan said:
must poke buttons...
:m058:

I can be but I don't actively enforce it. It's more an internal thing and over unusual things anyway, ergo it isn't a problem most of the time. Just:
A) Don't be dumb
B) Explain actions that are questionable/odd
C) Respect my way of doing things, I try to be as efficient as possible so you start talking down about my things shit will go south fast.
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You sound exactly like my fucking istj brother.


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And for my sake, could someone define anal retentive, just so I know what I am calling myself.
 
When it comes to colours, I can be.

Every piece of clothing in my closet is in rainbow order, followed by black,brown,grey,and white....My jewelry box is organized in a similar fashion.

The books on my shelf are organized by date and preference. They must stay that way. My CDs are organized by genre, date, and preference. My cleansers/exfoliator/toner/etc, must be lined up and stacked in the exact order that I use them throughout the day. I can't tell you how much it irks me when one of my brothers moves something and doesn't put it back in the right place.
 
Haha I think I can beat you all with this example:

Years ago when I was married, I couldn't stand the arrangement of our bedroom furniture. It bugged me for weeks. I mentioned it a few times, but my then husband (ENTP) was happy with it and didn't want to help me move anything. Finally one night I just lay there to frustrated over it, that I woke my ex husband up in the early hours of the morning to help me re-arrange things. He was SO mad about that but I could not find it in myself to care about how he felt.

Sigh, and now we are divorced.
 
Ria said:
Haha I think I can beat you all with this example:

Years ago when I was married, I couldn't stand the arrangement of our bedroom furniture. It bugged me for weeks. I mentioned it a few times, but my then husband (ENTP) was happy with it and didn't want to help me move anything. Finally one night I just lay there to frustrated over it, that I woke my ex husband up in the early hours of the morning to help me re-arrange things. He was SO mad about that but I could not find it in myself to care about how he felt.

Sigh, and now we are divorced.
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OCD much?
 
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