sapphiresky
<3
- MBTI
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- Type 4,6,9
Hello everyone. I am curious to know if this is normal behavior for INFJs and how to cope with it. I was frustrated because I haven’t been able to make any solid friendships in the past years. I have been attempting to meet new people, but I also like to have my own personal space. When someone has the expectation to hang out and keep in touch all the time, it makes me uneasy, and would just rather be alone.
I want to hang out with people, but being needed or available all the time gives me terrible anxiety.
I met two women at a children’s playground. One of them invited me to meet with them twice a week for playdates so our kids can play. I have seen the other woman at the park frequently. We only exchanged a couple of words once and then she would just stay on the opposite side of the park and wouldn’t let her child play with my child. She didn’t seem to acknowledge my presence each time. Other times, she would leave right after I came to the park. I tried to not let this bug me but found it rather strange.
Now that the other woman properly introduced us, her attitude has changed towards me and she has been sending me text messages. Including one where she asked if she could come to my neighborhood pool on Memorial Day. I declined because I had plans with my husband. I find it odd because we rarely know each other well yet.
They also seem to want to meet more than twice each week to go to eat out and I think this is excessive. I think is ok to meet twice a week for playdates and would prefer to keep it that way but I would rather spend weekends with my family. I can meet with them once a month but I think they want to meet often.
Now I feel like a bad person because I don’t have the energy or desire to meet them that frequently and I hate making lies or excuses.
I want to hang out with people, but being needed or available all the time gives me terrible anxiety.
I met two women at a children’s playground. One of them invited me to meet with them twice a week for playdates so our kids can play. I have seen the other woman at the park frequently. We only exchanged a couple of words once and then she would just stay on the opposite side of the park and wouldn’t let her child play with my child. She didn’t seem to acknowledge my presence each time. Other times, she would leave right after I came to the park. I tried to not let this bug me but found it rather strange.
Now that the other woman properly introduced us, her attitude has changed towards me and she has been sending me text messages. Including one where she asked if she could come to my neighborhood pool on Memorial Day. I declined because I had plans with my husband. I find it odd because we rarely know each other well yet.
They also seem to want to meet more than twice each week to go to eat out and I think this is excessive. I think is ok to meet twice a week for playdates and would prefer to keep it that way but I would rather spend weekends with my family. I can meet with them once a month but I think they want to meet often.
Now I feel like a bad person because I don’t have the energy or desire to meet them that frequently and I hate making lies or excuses.