Peekachoo
Newbie
- MBTI
- INFJ
This has been an issue that has stuck on my mind for months.
tl;dr: Getting things off my chest, Questions, and I am a INFJ while boyfriend is a ISTP.
I've been told before that I appear to be "incapable of loving my partner" when it comes to being in a relationship. It has been so far one of the most painful things to hear. I feel overly self-conscious about that ... Like, how is someone incapable of loving when they know they've always truly loved that person? I’ve been directly asked if I know how to describe what love feels like … Then, that’s when when the typical INFJ “cannot compute, cannot generate response” comes into play. I know how love feels like, of course, but I can’t express it how I would want to express it … I mean, I thought I’ve always provided my love for others like every other normal person. My best friend has told me that I don’t express it too well and that I’m very awkward about it. Though, the thing with her is that she has always been so accepting and understanding that she’ll always assure me that it’s ok to be myself. She makes sure to let me know that she is very well aware that I love her. Unfortunately, this hasn’t been the case for my boyfriend. He’s convinced that I don’t love him how I’m suppose to love someone normally. He questions all of the time whether or not I do love him. Apparently, I do not express it enough or express it "correctly" (to this day I don't know what 'correctly' is suppose to refer to) and I'm being jeopardized for being an "awkward" lover. One of the first prime examples was my lack of cuddling.
I’ve always felt that I am naturally loving and caring. I’m overly emotional as well. Just by hearing that I am awkward when it comes to love had me instantly in tears.
Anywho, anyone feel like just making a public service announcement on your Facebook and telling the world something along the lines like, ‘I’m here, I’m queer, get used to it”? but you know, “I’m said personality type, take the time to read this article all about it and please take it seriously.”
Anyone feel flustered at the lack of expression you have as an INFJ or any other personally type that adheres within that issue? I honestly wouldn’t have known that I was this way until my boyfriend and best friend decided to bring it up.
My boyfriend knows that I am an INFJ (he’s an ISTP) but if I ever were to tell him to just keep reading up on INFJ’s he’d probably dismiss me as being too obsessed with the whole personality type scene. (I do get easily obsessive over things. lol)
tl;dr: Getting things off my chest, Questions, and I am a INFJ while boyfriend is a ISTP.
I've been told before that I appear to be "incapable of loving my partner" when it comes to being in a relationship. It has been so far one of the most painful things to hear. I feel overly self-conscious about that ... Like, how is someone incapable of loving when they know they've always truly loved that person? I’ve been directly asked if I know how to describe what love feels like … Then, that’s when when the typical INFJ “cannot compute, cannot generate response” comes into play. I know how love feels like, of course, but I can’t express it how I would want to express it … I mean, I thought I’ve always provided my love for others like every other normal person. My best friend has told me that I don’t express it too well and that I’m very awkward about it. Though, the thing with her is that she has always been so accepting and understanding that she’ll always assure me that it’s ok to be myself. She makes sure to let me know that she is very well aware that I love her. Unfortunately, this hasn’t been the case for my boyfriend. He’s convinced that I don’t love him how I’m suppose to love someone normally. He questions all of the time whether or not I do love him. Apparently, I do not express it enough or express it "correctly" (to this day I don't know what 'correctly' is suppose to refer to) and I'm being jeopardized for being an "awkward" lover. One of the first prime examples was my lack of cuddling.
I’ve always felt that I am naturally loving and caring. I’m overly emotional as well. Just by hearing that I am awkward when it comes to love had me instantly in tears.
Anywho, anyone feel like just making a public service announcement on your Facebook and telling the world something along the lines like, ‘I’m here, I’m queer, get used to it”? but you know, “I’m said personality type, take the time to read this article all about it and please take it seriously.”
Anyone feel flustered at the lack of expression you have as an INFJ or any other personally type that adheres within that issue? I honestly wouldn’t have known that I was this way until my boyfriend and best friend decided to bring it up.
My boyfriend knows that I am an INFJ (he’s an ISTP) but if I ever were to tell him to just keep reading up on INFJ’s he’d probably dismiss me as being too obsessed with the whole personality type scene. (I do get easily obsessive over things. lol)