INFJ on a Building Site.

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I think I would recommend that any INFJ stay well clear of a building site.

For me...it's just horrid and I hate it right down to the bone right now. I would like to think that other building sites don't have as many 'idiots' or different people on them, but the 1 I am currently working on, oh my, I collide with pretty much every person there with their. "Don't think, just do it" attitude. Each and every conversation is mainly filled with chatter and pathetic remarks about women in vulgar ways. And when they start trying to talk to me about it, I just have no idea what to say and just carry on shovelling the 10 tons of crap that they left me to. I don't like the idea of me being able to be extremely hurt in the procedure of earning a bit of money also, this site is extremely dangerous currently with 2 metres drops all around me and huge diggers swinging their arms around, they have even managed to tip a 3 ton dumber truck over 2 times in the last few days...It’s become 1 of those things where I wake up at 6am and just feel like crying. I could quit at any time, and I think I will soon. I think I might prefer working behind a counter in McDonalds. This hard physical labour and people I have to put up with, it’s killing me mentally and physically.

I come home and become so tired I cannot even bothered to read a book, or continue learning something useful. I feel as if I am becoming, 'normal’ and it’s not a good feeling whatsoever. Oh my, this has really turned into a huge rant. I just felt the need to vent this out, it’s highly annoying at the moment and I feel as if I’ve lost a bit of my calm attitude. Any help would be greatly appreciated. I even find myself muttering under my breath horrible things towards the people I work with, which I would never normally do.





:m169: Horray for Work.
 
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I worked framework for about a year. It was interesting learning about some of the basic principles of architecture, something I haven't studied, but yea the vulgar talk and over-abundance of alpha-male complexes is a bit disconcerting. Fortunately, I was only working with 1 guy so it wasn't too bad. I can't imagine trying to integrate with a large number of employees that all share that same attitude. It would feel like working with a bunch of apes.

If it is affecting you that badly, and you don't think you can reconcile, then get out of there.
 
I would have a hard time in that situation as well. Generally I can flip on an extraverted exterior for the sake of getting along with people I work with to make things go smoothly, but sometimes I simply cannot relate or feel like I can ever fit in- especially with groups of people like you describe.

I think I would be happier working behind a Mcdonalds counter too... Which I have actually done lol. It's not so bad there believe it or not.

But you have to think of your own mental and physical well-being. If I had a job that made me want to cry as soon as I woke up I don't think I could stay.
 
I just tried to quit over the phone, and apparently they had a chat earlier on today which included me, and they apparantly know I am not cut out for all this 'crap', they said, 'soon', which I consider to be a while, I will be put on easier jobs doing interior work like decorating, so until then, I still have to go in. Where the fuck did my choice to quit whenever I want go to? xD

I was ready to wake up in the morning and write a CV and run around the shops for the day, just to celebrate my quitting of this job. The joys of life...

Thanks for the replies also, it's nice to know i'm not just some wimp who can't put up with all this.

Ima hope all this other stuff doesn't continue for much longer.
 
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Your boss found a use for you. So your boss was nice enough to find a place where you may belong. These "apes" have mothers and fathers brothers and sisters cousins uncles aunts ect. They just don't act like you. It's good to learn how others act and how you react. All of the energy you spent not liking them just made you miserable in the end. I bet none of them even worried about it. And it sounds like they were trying to include you in what they were doing. Even if you thought it was wrong or vulgar they were still reaching out to you. It was just not in a way you choose. It takes time for people to get to know you and what and how you think. If your not saying anything nobody knows how to treat you in the end..
 
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Your boss found a use for you. So your boss was nice enough to find a place where you may belong. These "apes" have mothers and fathers brothers and sisters cousins uncles aunts ect. They just don't act like you. It's good to learn how others act and how you react. All of the energy you spent not liking them just made you miserable in the end. I bet none of them even worried about it. And it sounds like they were trying to include you in what they were doing. Even if you thought it was wrong or vulgar they were still reaching out to you. It was just not in a way you choose. It takes time for people to get to know you and what and how you think. If your not saying anything nobody knows how to treat you in the end..
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Guess I forgot to mention that. I have said a few things and they do know what i'm like, kinda, but the conversations continue regardless. He was nice enough to let me carry on because he is working on my dad's house, and my dad's always in this worrying state that I need to be working all the time otherwise I will never get a job, and sit at home all day. I don't mind them, I just don't get along with these people all that well, I have known them for quite a while really.

I do have a tendency to be really negative once the streak starts, and it's something I should work on. This whole working on site thing has been a bit of a wake up call really.


EDIT: Yeah, they do try to include me every now and then, but as I said I don't have a reply, and I can be a bit too shy for starting of a conversation that fits my needs, I can do it 1 to 1, but...with all these people, I find it hard.


EDIT: I did try to like them, all the other things they include me in, I put a positive outlook on it, and give them a smile. I am not all that negative once i'm on the site. I've just learnt, this work really isn't for me. (:
 
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I have learned that in life if you can find a man useful your both saved the trouble of hating one another. Some people are just impossible to get along with. I find them to be unreasonable. Physical labor is hard work and it's not for everyone. It's good that your finding what you like and don't like. Your Dad is right to keep you working. Through work you can make connections and learn so that in the future you may find something your really good at. I hope work gets better for you...
 
Free Mind said:
I think I would recommend that any INFJ stay well clear of a building site.

For me...it's just horrid and I hate it right down to the bone right now. I would like to think that other building sites don't have as many 'idiots' or different people on them, but the 1 I am currently working on, oh my, I collide with pretty much every person there with their. "Don't think, just do it" attitude. Each and every conversation is mainly filled with chatter and pathetic remarks about women in vulgar ways. And when they start trying to talk to me about it, I just have no idea what to say and just carry on shovelling the 10 tons of crap that they left me to. I don't like the idea of me being able to be extremely hurt in the procedure of earning a bit of money also, this site is extremely dangerous currently with 2 metres drops all around me and huge diggers swinging their arms around, they have even managed to tip a 3 ton dumber truck over 2 times in the last few days...It
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Normal ain't my thing. (:

And snobbish? Naa, I just don't agree with being a sheeperson. Feels weird to me.
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We must have a different definition of snob.
 
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