Julia
Community Member
- MBTI
- infj
Having intuitive responses to people is rather fundamental for INFJs, so this thread is an opportunity to explore this a bit.
I have a continual sense of inner conflict over how much to rely on my instincts about people. I realize that I have been conditioned with various prejudices like anyone and so these can influence my gut reactions. However, i still do tend to look beneath the surface when interacting with people. Part of this results from my natural tendency to amass a great deal of detailed information about a person. Behavioral cues in their words and non-verbal responses stick in my head naturally. My mind natural forms these into patterns in a continual, fluid process. Because I continually take in more details, the pattern is always shifting. It is like watching a river pass.
When interacting with a person, I tend to get impressions about what feels like their inner impulses that are restrained by civilized etiquette. Like a woman I saw slam her fist on a table and got a certain look in her eye when a friend didn't show up to a lunch date, and then later seeing that same look in her eye directed at me. I felt in my core that she had a desire to slap me, but society's rules held her at bay. I can often feel when someone wants to cross a boundary, but doesn't. Overall people "feel" quite primitive to me when I interact. This makes them somewhat threatening. I have trouble trusting in the conventions of society because I have a continual sense that given the right opportunity the person would cross the boundary - that it is a thin, fragile line that holds them at bay.
I have a continual sense of inner conflict over how much to rely on my instincts about people. I realize that I have been conditioned with various prejudices like anyone and so these can influence my gut reactions. However, i still do tend to look beneath the surface when interacting with people. Part of this results from my natural tendency to amass a great deal of detailed information about a person. Behavioral cues in their words and non-verbal responses stick in my head naturally. My mind natural forms these into patterns in a continual, fluid process. Because I continually take in more details, the pattern is always shifting. It is like watching a river pass.
When interacting with a person, I tend to get impressions about what feels like their inner impulses that are restrained by civilized etiquette. Like a woman I saw slam her fist on a table and got a certain look in her eye when a friend didn't show up to a lunch date, and then later seeing that same look in her eye directed at me. I felt in my core that she had a desire to slap me, but society's rules held her at bay. I can often feel when someone wants to cross a boundary, but doesn't. Overall people "feel" quite primitive to me when I interact. This makes them somewhat threatening. I have trouble trusting in the conventions of society because I have a continual sense that given the right opportunity the person would cross the boundary - that it is a thin, fragile line that holds them at bay.