Is this INTJ guy a friend or wanting more?

He's a wimp and wants more.
 
Tell him you are getting mixed messages when he behaves like (list of behaviors) and ask him if he wants something more. Simple, direct, to the point, all cards on the table and everyone knows where they stand. Then take it from there. Good luck.
 
if he has a gf – move on. If it bothers you – just ask the way it is, be direct, then you'll know everything for sure. Don't be afraid. If anything... he'd be a subject of ridicule, not you.
 
Gabriella said:
I live in Texas and attend college, does this INTJ guy like me as more than a friend? I have known him for over a year.
Last year we talked a LOT on instant messenger, but this year not so much.

He does the following:

Prolonged eye contact
Teasing and poking fun
Taking time out to come and talk to me
Laughing at jokes I make
Smiling profusely
Casual taps on my arm
Helping me out with tasks
A few compliments
Standing close/leaning in
Asks me for equipment or food
Being warm and nice
Sit next to me

But, he has a gf and has mentioned her once, and hasn't asked me out.

Is he just a REALLY good friend OR WANTING MORE?

And what should I do?

What do you INTJs/anyone else think? THANK YOU
BIG LOVE FROM THE U.S
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How long has he been dating his gf? Could be he really appreciates your friendship, or was once attracted to you before dating his girlfriend. People can't help who they are attracted to, and that being said, since he's not messaging you as much, he's probably attracted to you, or appreciates your friendship, or both, but that being said, he probably is keeping more distance so as not to make things awkward. That being said, how do you know that he is an INTJ? INTJs are usually pretty inexpressive, it could be it's a more extroverted type. The real question, is are you attracted to him?
 
Sadie said:
Tell him you are getting mixed messages when he behaves like (list of behaviors) and ask him if he wants something more. Simple, direct, to the point, all cards on the table and everyone knows where they stand. Then take it from there. Good luck.
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Pretty much this. Being direct about these matters is best approach, especially when dealing with an INTJ. Unless he's an asshole, he won't ridicule you but will take what you've said seriously and let you know what he thinks on the subject.
 
Uhh I think you may be over-reading the situation. Just because a guy is nice doesn't mean he is hitting on you. Whether or not he would want to have sex with you if you threw it at him is irrelevant since you can safely assume he would probably (hes a guy), but the stuff you provided doesn't indicate to me that he is hitting on you explicitly. I sit close to female friends all the time, hug them, share feelings and stuff, and I don't want to be with them. The periodic touch on someones naked skin while in conversation is a pretty textbook way to relax people and bond with them, its not always flirtation. But if you are going to make this a situation you should just ask him up front.
 
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