Oh my god oh my god. Should I ask this guy out?

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So I had dinner with a friend of mine last night. It was a bit awkward because I don't actually know her at all and actually never have hung out with her when a different friend of mine wasn't present.

But after that was done (~20 mins), she took me back to her apartment so that I could meet her roommate, who she kind of wanted to set me up with. I met him and another one of her roomies and we played pictionary (I lost). It was pretty fun and everybody was laughing. I was making people laugh and people were making me laugh. But this guy seemed sort of disinterested in a way. I wouldn't call it aloof or really ignoring but I just felt this sort of wall he put up.

He's super extroverted and very good looking but as my friend said "he dinks around with getting to know people so you'll have to be patient" and also that he's "fickle". In a way, I'm sort of fickle in that way too. It's sort of the unfortunate thing about being introverted, I get to know people without revealing a whole lot about myself. If it was a wall he put up though, it's a bit funny in a way considering how extroverted he is.

But when I got home, my friend texted me and said that "he would probably go on a date with me I asked".

He's for sure more experienced than I am (not hard to be) and a year ahead of me, if that matters.

I'm kind of up in the air of what to do. I friended him of FB and he accepted that night, if that matters. I guess there's no harm in it though.

Any advice, complements, ideas for first meeting? Is it totally lame to ask him to coffee over facebook?
 
o_q said:
omg!
NO

p.s. tl;dr
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Really? I tried to keep it concise. Next time I'll keep my relationship questions to one sentence. But seeing as I never have relationship questions due my lack of relationships, I feel like I should be allotted a higher word count.
 
if you are interested in this guy then you should ask him for coffee, why not. it wouldn't be an awkward get together if things didn't click. it's a good opportunity to meet a new friend if nothing more.
 
What is the protocol for gay people to ask each other out? Which asks which?
 
uberrogo said:
What is the protocol for gay people to ask each other out? Which asks which?
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Well the girl asks the guy in the gay relationship because vaginas look like spiders.

IRL, there isn't any protocol. It's kind of nice because there aren't any expectations you need to fulfill like in straight relationships but at the same time, there's no guidance for it. It's both a blessing and a curse.
 
JGirl said:
if you are interested in this guy then you should ask him for coffee, why not. it wouldn't be an awkward get together if things didn't click. it's a good opportunity to meet a new friend if nothing more.
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I have to agree, it might be a bit better to ask him in person, but I don't think it's that lame over facebook. Coffee is a good choice for a first, or it has been so far... with my limited experience.
 
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if it were me, i'd see if that chick would invite me over again and maybe have her *conveniently* leave or something...maybe ask him to coffee then... if he's interested he'll go. but either way you should definitely ask :)
 
if you do ask him and he turns you down, don't just stop facebooking with him. maybe he needs time to chat back and forth for a bit. but i'd still ask
cuz i'm impatient
 
^ I agree to another get together :3
 
Your doubt may be an answer in itself. Perhaps first spend some time getting to know him better and decide from there.
 
Ask your friend if she thinks it would scare him off, but I would let him come to you. :*
 
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