Quality vs. Quantity

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What qualities do you look for in people? Qualities that make you think I would like to know this person better.
 
I look for a self deprecating sense of humor
 
Sadie said:
What qualities do you look for in people? Qualities that make you think I would like to know this person better.
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You didn't mention anything about quantity.

It's not clear what the thread is about.
 
Quantity is a quality of physical matter.

So when it comes to qualities in people that are appealing, the question may be about physical qualities, or non-physical qualities.


Anyhow, to answer the question: great intelligence, coupled with great humility are very appealing qualities to me.
 
People who are open and honest with themselves, who understand others on their own terms, gives people a chance to be who they are without too much judgment, someone you can feel a connection with without having to try so hard or do anything for them or to please them. People who are just as interested in the things you're interested in and like sharing those interests. People who don't require you to be something else but yourself and are comfortable with you as well.
 
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The qualities I look for in anyone:

  • Intelligent conversationalists
  • Engaging sense of humour
  • Commonality in interests
  • Those whom have a wider perspective of the world
  • Gentleness of spirit

That list obviously gets added to for a romantic interest, but I'm exceedingly picky about those whom I choose to associate with.
 
intelligence
sense of humor
self confidence
calm nature
 
Sadie said:
What qualities do you look for in people? Qualities that make you think I would like to know this person better.
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I don't look for qualities within people generally speaking, but I always get a feeling if they would be worth knowing or not. This tends to be rather moot as most people are intimidated by me in person, those that are not...I can tell if they are genuine or a user. I like to know the genuine people.
 
Skathac said:
I don't look for qualities within people generally speaking, but I always get a feeling if they would be worth knowing or not. This tends to be rather moot as most people are intimidated by me in person, those that are not...I can tell if they are genuine or a user. I like to know the genuine people.
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Why do you think that people are intimidated by you in person?
 
black.raven said:
Why do you think that people are intimidated by you in person?
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I have a rather imposing frame and I have been told my eyes see right through people...this is apparently a constant if I am in a good mood and smiling or have a stern look on my face as I mull things over in my mind/concentrate on the task at hand. Otherwise people have a difficult time reading me, even when I am being genuine. I suppose in the cases of some they have been treated badly in the past and cannot quite tell if it is a facade or a truth. *shrugs* They called me Spooky when I worked for the university. Sometimes I accidentally scare people because even though I am as large as I am they fail to notice me until I am right there beside them.
 
black.raven said:
The qualities I look for in anyone:

  • Intelligent conversationalists
  • Engaging sense of humour
  • Commonality in interests
  • Those whom have a wider perspective of the world
  • Gentleness of spirit

That list obviously gets added to for a romantic interest, but I'm exceedingly picky about those whom I choose to associate with.
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Do you like to associate with people who are themselves exceedingly picky?
 
Flavus Aquila said:
Do you like to associate with people who are themselves exceedingly picky?
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Yes, I think I honestly do. I find those that are specific about the people they choose to associate themselves with have a greater understanding of who they are as people and what they want out of the relationships they create. I have experienced little better than conversation and debate with like-minded people.

I'm not negating the notion of friendliness, I think I am a nice person to everyone I interact with, but there is a difference between my acquaintances and my friends.
 
Genuine said:
People who are open and honest with themselves, who understand others on their own terms, gives people a chance to be who they are without too much judgment, someone you can feel a connection with without having to try so hard or do anything for them or to please them. People who are just as interested in the things you're interested in and like sharing those interests. People who don't require you to be something else but yourself and are comfortable with you as well.
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This post was sooooooo Fi. Qualities I like in other people are ambition, determination, openness, genuine, responsive, and a strong sense of self without needing to hit someone over the head with it.
 
I think it mostly depends on my situation and what I want out of life when I meet them, whether or not they want the same thing, and exactly how I'm going to be able to fit into their life/they can fit into mine… all of the other stuff is really unimportant.

But of course, there are things that are definite dealbreakers as well…

Quantities I like: 5 and 8.
 
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Thanks everyone for your thoughts.

The first things I notice in people are integrity and a healthy sense of self. Other than that my preferences include but aren't limited to people that are interesting to me in some way. A person I can learn from. Someone that has more experience/ability in areas that I admire and doesn't mind sharing that experience/ability in a non-overbearing, non-competitive manner. They can be any age. Compassion. It's obvious to me when someone is compassionate, it shines like a beacon of light. It's also just as obvious when they aren't. Flexibility and the willingness to look at things from another's perspective with kindness and respect. A fun and healthy sense of humor that isn't at another persons expense. Common interests.
 
Genuine said:
People who are open and honest with themselves, who understand others on their own terms, gives people a chance to be who they are without too much judgment, someone you can feel a connection with without having to try so hard or do anything for them or to please them. People who are just as interested in the things you're interested in and like sharing those interests. People who don't require you to be something else but yourself and are comfortable with you as well.
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Willing to be open and honest with themselves. What a great attribute. If someone can't be honest with themselves how are they going to be honest with me or other people. We're all guilty of denial at some point or another, but visiting denial and choosing to stay there are two totally different things. I like what you said about people that aren't overly judgmental also, and folks that don't require you to be something other than yourself. All nice qualities.
 
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