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Dominant/Tertiary Loops and Common Personality Disorders
by simulatedworld

I wrote this article a while ago for Per-N. I think understanding the dynamics of types who overemphasize the tertiary, while suppressing the balancing influence of the secondary, is vital to understanding why some people are difficult to type and seem to appear as "hybrid" types.

In fact, there are no hybrid types--but it's easy to get confused if you don't understand what happens when someone depends primarily on two functions oriented in the same direction.

Here we go:


Dominant-Tertiary Loops and Common Personality Disorders



People often ask, why can't my top two functions both be introverted (or extroverted)? The answer is that they can, but that this invariably causes personality imbalance/disorders, and if this is the case for you, you may not be the type you think you are.

Lately I've been noticing that a lot of typological mistakes and misreads are the result of a couple of incorrect assumptions about functional structure. I'd like to dedicate this article to describing the phenomenon known as Dominant-Tertiary Loops, where the natural secondary function is suppressed, poorly developed or otherwise not valued as highly by the individual's ego as the tertiary function.

First let's remember that the standard function arrangements of the 16 types merely represent the ideal balances for each of sixteen different ways to conceptualize ourselves and reality. In reality, they don't always show up in exactly that order of emphasis. Let's look at an example:

To start with I'll use my own type, ENTP. Here's our functional breakdown:
Dominant Ne
Secondary Ti
Tertiary Fe
Inferior Si

But what happens if Ti is poorly developed? This most commonly happens because the tertiary function's common directional orientation with the dominant can make it seem more comfortable than the secondary! Our perception (obviously) relies on Ne, but with Ti not doing its job, we're forced to relinquish judgment to the tertiary (and less able) Fe.

We end up with Ne+Fe as the most dominant attitudes. If you don't see why this is a problem, consider the significance of intro/extroversion:

Extroverted attitudes attempt to make the inner self more like the outer world's objective ideal.
Introverted attitudes attempt to make the outer world more like the inner self's subjective ideal.
A balanced psyche requires significant influence from both internal and external stimuli--too much introversion and we retreat entirely into ourselves and ignore all outer world influence to an unhealthy degree; too much extroversion and we are not able to remain in touch with what is important to our subjective internal selves, and become far too dependent upon external conditions and attitudes of others.

All too commonly I see people make the mistake of assuming that using T more than F automatically makes an xxTx type. In a healthy, balanced individual that's true, but when an ego becomes more dependent on the tertiary than the secondary, that's no longer the case.

For instance, I once mistook an INFJ for INTJ because he had poor secondary Fe and relied primarily on Ni+Ti. At the time I used only MBTI sliding scales and didn't know functions yet, so since I saw primarily N and T I figured he would be an NT type. To the casual observer he would appear to be using N over S, and T over F, so he must be an NT type, right? Wrong! He is not an NT type unless his iNtuition and Thinking are oriented in opposite directions.

One really interesting result of this confusion is that each dom-tert loop type starts to look very similar to the dom-tert loop form of the type sharing only its first letter! For example:

INTJ: Ni Te Fi Se

ISFP: Fi Se Ni Te

This is exactly why many unbalanced personalities have difficulty fitting themselves into a single Jungian archetype. Unsurprisingly, if the INTJ above would improve his Te, and the ISFP would improve his Se, each would balance out the monopoly introverted attitudes currently have on his perspective and lead himself to much greater personal balance and contentment.

For example: A certain user on typologycentral agonized over her type for months, creating numerous long threads and repeatedly changing her mind. My initial impression was ENFP, which I shared but which she promptly rejected. After reading about function attitudes she described Te and Ne as her most prominent functions--at this point I changed my guess to ESTJ, which may seem like a bizarre jump if you don't understand dom/tert loop functions, but it's really not:

ENFP: Ne Fi Te Si

ESTJ: Te Si Ne Fi

So if you pick up mainly Ne and Te in someone, don't presume that he's an NT type--in fact, he's probably not. Depending on which is dominant, he is most likely either ENFP (Ne+Te with poor Fi) or ESTJ (Te+Ne with poor Si).

Ironically, this user's primary personality imbalance was poorly developed secondary Fi--it turned out she actually was an ENFP providing a perfect example of over-dependence on extroverted attitudes. She reported placing far too much emphasis on the approval of others and couldn't introspect enough to figure out which type was really her. Without a strong introverted function she was left a poor sense of individual self, and showed it through her dependence on the opinions of others to determine her type. She was looking everywhere but the right place--inside.

So how does this over-dependence on introversion (or extroversion) manifest itself in each type? I believe this phenomenon is responsible for (or at least involved with) a lot of common personality disorders:


ENTP/ESFJ: Ne/Fe or Fe/Ne--Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This type often behaves impulsively and manipulatively, needing constant approval and admiration from others, running around investing in new thing after new thing but never developing the self-confidence of a strong subjective perspective. Fe used negatively may use its awareness of the cultural standards of others to intentionally offend or upset them, in order to service Ne's curiosity about the patterns in their responses. If Ti/Si were working properly, it would give the user a balancing sense of personal, subjective importance and free him of his dependence upon the adulation and unconditional acceptance of others. (Horrible example: Patrick Bateman from American Psycho.)


INTP/ISFJ: Ti/Si or Si/Ti--Schizotypal Personality Disorder. I see this most commonly in INTP dom/tert loops (Ti+Si), resulting in totally giving up on attempting to obtain the social/interpersonal connections that inferior Fe drives them to unconsciously desire. Schizotypal people are seen (and typically see themselves) as having such unusual thoughts and behaviors that widespread social acceptance is nearly impossible. Ti thinks, "I cannot find any logical explanation for social rituals" and Si reinforces this self-isolating, risk-averse behavior by constantly reminding the user: "Remember how badly this went last time you tried?" If Ne were doing its job, it would remind the user to continue experimenting to find a new approach. In the ISFJ version, Si becomes ultra risk-averse and refuses to try anything new or unfamiliar. If Fe were doing its job, the ISFJ would learn that some risk is necessary in order to uphold obligations to others and avoid living in total solitude. Deep down, these types really do want social connection and ritual (Fe), but have found themselves so poor at it that they simply give up trying.


ESTP/ENFJ: Se/Fe or Fe/Se--Histrionic Personality Disorder. This tends to manifest itself in terms of exaggerated, aggressive sexual behavior and physical impulsiveness. Since reflecting the outer world is the only thing that matters, whatever will shock, impress, or otherwise affect others enough to include the user in their social rituals is what has to be done. Real empathy is rare as this type requires constant thrills or conflict--in the ENFJ version, this often results in excessive sensitivity to perceived "rudeness" or failure to respect the user's preferred cultural custom (Fe), combined with tertiary Se responding aggressively through implied threats of brute force. (e.g., Vito Corleone: "I'll make him an offer he can't refuse"--gives a surface appearance of respecting the cultural standards of negotiation, but implies that refusal to accept this "offer" would be quite unpleasant for the recipient!) If Ti/Ni were doing its job, the user would find a sense of balance and comfortability with himself, granting him the ability to discover what is subjectively important to him, rather than constantly shifting with the tide of cultural and social trends.


ISTP/INFJ: Ti/Ni or Ni/Ti--Schizoid Personality Disorder. These types are socially incompetent for lack of trying, because they see little to no value in significant interaction with others. They live in their own abstract worlds, constantly second-guessing themselves as Ti poses a framework for a problem and Ni shoots it down as too definitionally precise. Without any real external input, these two functions will dream up all sorts of elaborate systems and implications for them, only to repeat their own self-defeating behavior, never bothering to emphasize putting any of its intense ideas into practice. Frequent disregard for rules, laws and other forms of behavioral standards is common, as no function provides any significant sense of external influence. If Se/Fe were doing its job, the user would recognize the value of connecting with others and of paying attention to their needs, preferences, habits and appearances.


ESFP/ENTJ: Se/Te or Te/Se--Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (not the same thing as OCD)! I've seen people mistake ESFPs in Se+Te dom-tert loops for ESTPs because they can be so insistent upon controlling their surroundings. These types epitomize enneagram type 8, as they are aggressive, blunt, confrontational and not the least bit afraid of hurting anyone's feelings. Inside they require the approval of others to a much higher degree than they let on, as Te insists on controlling and organizing external surroundings to ridiculous proportions, while Se pushes any naysayers out of the way with aggressive force and a take-no-prisoners attitude. Territorial and looking for any reason to display their power, these types are some of the most difficult to deal with of all dom-tert loops. If Fi/Ni were doing its job, these types would stop to consider that their actions have negative implications for others, and that aggressively taking charge is not always the best solution in every situation.


ISFP/INTJ: Fi/Ni or Ni/Fi--Paranoid Personality Disorder. These types are your typical conspiracy theorists; they cling deeply to their personal values and can find a conspiracy to assault or attack those values everywhere they look. Chronically distrustful of others' intentions for no legitimate reason, these types are certain they are the only ones who really know "the truth." The inferior function, Te or Se, can sometimes lead to an unconscious desire to attract the attention of or lead/organize others in efforts to expose the nefarious conspiracies they invariably see everywhere. If Te/Se were doing its job, these types would be able to look around them and observe empirical evidence that most of their theories are probably not reflected in reality, but as they rely almost entirely on internal validation, Ni will go to any lengths to justify Fi's emotion-based suspicions. (I mentioned Dale Gribble from King of the Hill in a previous article--he's a perfect example.) There's also this guy Victor on typologycentral who's such a perfect example of this it's absolutely ridiculous. Click here to enlarge


ENFP/ESTJ: Ne/Te or Te/Ne--Borderline Personality Disorder. The ENFP I described above may have been one of these types. They simultaneously desire to control and dazzle others with their extraordinary leadership and grandiose performances. For the ENFP, this tends to take the form of insisting on consistent, scheduled attention from others for his/her artistic or creative gifts, while for the ESTJ it tends to manifest itself in terms of indignation when others refuse to follow every detail of the user's "visionary" leadership style. This combination, ironically, makes the user extremely dependent upon others for meaning, never really finding a sense of internal balance, no matter how hard he works to create and delegate. While Te leads these types to desire structure and discipline, Ne continually contradicts it by insisting on impulsive displays of creative freedom. Often self-denigrating over the inability to control Ne's impulsive explorations, Te will go to any lengths to keep the user in a position of power and influence, where others must defer to his authority. If Fi/Si were doing its job, these types would recognize that what they're looking for cannot be found outside themselves--they must learn to sometimes live for themselves and only themselves, and forget about external results for a moment.


INFP/ISTJ: Fi/Si or Si/Fi--Avoidant Personality Disorder. Often scarred by some intensely negative past experience with opening up too many of their private emotions, this type compulsively avoids social situations and interaction with others. They are fiercely sensitive and may exaggerate or misconstrue perceived negative emotional intent in the words or actions of others. They will sometimes project their negative feelings onto others (Fi), as Si tells them that if I were to behave this way, I would have to be very upset, so anyone who behaves that way must also be. These types often have a chronic problem with trusting the intentions or motivations of others, refusing to share private information with even their closest friends and family. They are so deeply sensitive that they refuse to risk being hurt by attempting deep connections with others--you'll see this a lot in ISTJs with Asperger's. If Ne/Te were doing its job, these types would maintain a heathy grip on the importance of letting go of the past and trying something new in the name of accomplishing a greater goal, but some of these remain total recluses for most (if not all) of their lives.

^Side note on the above: I believe this is the case for the currently banned user JTG1984, as he consistently describes his strongest functions as Si and Fi. He identified as ISFJ, but I believe he simply assumed that using more F than T must make him an F type, which it doesn't. He displays little to no Fe, and thus is probably not an FJ type. He seems most likely to be an ISTJ dom-tert loop, Si+Fi.
 
These types often have a chronic problem with trusting the intentions or motivations of others, refusing to share private information with even their closest friends and family. They are so deeply sensitive that they refuse to risk being hurt by attempting deep connections with others
My ex-crush who is an INFP is like that—he finds it hard to open up even to his closest friends likely because he was rejected in the past, socially and emotionally. I think he has avoidant issues because he avoids being attached to other people by curating a version of himself that he isn’t and believing he would never be loved for his scars. That’s why I didn’t bother telling him that I saw the real him—it would do no good except frighten him further with the risk of exposure.
 
Side note on the above: I believe this is the case for the currently banned user JTG1984, as he consistently describes his strongest functions as Si and Fi. He identified as ISFJ, but I believe he simply assumed that using more F than T must make him an F type, which it doesn't. He displays little to no Fe, and thus is probably not an FJ type. He seems most likely to be an ISTJ dom-tert loop, Si+Fi.
What happened here? Just curious, but shouldn’t you have to do something really offensive to get banned from this forum? Hope it wasn’t anything too bad, though.
 
What happened here? Just curious, but shouldn’t you have to do something really offensive to get banned from this forum? Hope it wasn’t anything too bad, though.
Not sure. Im thinking the only way you can get banned here is if you consistently pick fights and mess with the other members of this sight just to humor yourself. Likely he had far too many insecurities to use this forum properly and had been warned several times about his behavior before he was banned. Just a guess though since im new here and never came to this sight before this month.
 
Not sure. Im thinking the only way you can get banned here is if you consistently pick fights and mess with the other members of this sight just to humor yourself. Likely he had far too many insecurities to use this forum properly and had been warned several times about his behavior before he was banned. Just a guess though since im new here and never came to this sight before this month.
Oh, that’s reasonable. And btw speaking from personal experience I just got my first “dislike” on this forum (though my message was as harmless as a bunny rabbit). Not a big problem but I may have overreacted a little by clapping back with a self-written song on top of a clarification of the post that was unfortunately “disliked”. If you’re interested (because that episode shocked me senseless) it’s in the “awkward moments (dance/prom)” thread, though you might not remember it. (PS: low-key casting aside my pride and seeking support and validation due to my emotional inability to cope with hate :( lol)
 
Oh, that’s reasonable. And btw speaking from personal experience I just got my first “dislike” on this forum (though my message was as harmless as a bunny rabbit). Not a big problem but I may have overreacted a little by clapping back with a self-written song on top of a clarification of the post that was unfortunately “disliked”. If you’re interested (because that episode shocked me senseless) it’s in the “awkward moments (dance/prom)” thread, though you might not remember it. (PS: low-key casting aside my pride and seeking support and validation due to my emotional inability to cope with hate :( lol)
Eh probably a troll. I don’t think everyone on this forum is an INFJ tbh and there will be some types that troll INFJs disliking and sometimes causing problems just to mess with us. You’ll have that on any sight where we tend to accept anyone in without being able to vet who the person actually is in advance and finding out if they’re on here just to mess with the members or not. I know it’s hard but try to shake it off. At my age I have to really care about the person for it to hurt or bother me otherwise 99% of the time I go through life completely unbothered or else it takes a huge team and crowd to go against me to bother me because honestly that would affect anyone no matter who they are having that many ppl hate on you simultaneously at once but fortunately other than jr high and high school I’ve only ever had that happen to me once (it just happened to be recently). Most everyone else just lets me be or I don’t care enough about their opinions to let it bother me. I’ll be honest I don’t remember the post but the trick is in this day and age to try to be less sensitive which I know is hard for our type but the world outside is not friendly and the earlier you can build emotional resilience, the better, even if that requires to go to a therapist to try to deal better with past hurts and how to armor yourself to handle it for the future so you’re not always coming from a place of being wounded because trust me, I get it, but the outside world is cold and uncaring and the earlier you get used to that the more you’ll remain unbothered. I’m thinking the dislike button is just invisible to me too because I haven’t seen anyone use it since I’ve been on here so I wasn’t even aware that we had one.
 
I’m thinking the dislike button is just invisible to me too because I haven’t seen anyone use it since I’ve been on here so I wasn’t even aware that we had one.
Same. I can’t even find that button, the only response I can give is “like” which is probably for the best since I wouldn’t know what to do with a dislike button if I had one.
 
Oh, that’s reasonable. And btw speaking from personal experience I just got my first “dislike” on this forum (though my message was as harmless as a bunny rabbit). Not a big problem but I may have overreacted a little by clapping back with a self-written song on top of a clarification of the post that was unfortunately “disliked”. If you’re interested (because that episode shocked me senseless) it’s in the “awkward moments (dance/prom)” thread, though you might not remember it. (PS: low-key casting aside my pride and seeking support and validation due to my emotional inability to cope with hate :( lol)
Ah I went back and read it (sorry I hadn’t gone into that thread ever) I see that he is #1 a guy so his ability to understand where you’re coming from is lower and #2 doesn’t understand that you’re a teenager and for teenagers their high school years tend to mean a lot to them so every hurt, every scar, every rejection is very hard for us as INFJs at that age. I get it, I really do and his follow up as to what he said afterwards is again because he simply can’t understand where you are coming from and likely his life has been hard too so while you were posting your thoughts in the hopes that it’ll help other young INFJs like yourself he was merely misunderstanding.
 
Ah I went back and read it (sorry I hadn’t gone into that thread ever) I see that he is #1 a guy so his ability to understand where you’re coming from is lower and #2 doesn’t understand that you’re a teenager and for teenagers their high school years tend to mean a lot to them so every hurt, every scar, every rejection is very hard for us as INFJs at that age. I get it, I really do and his follow up as to what he said afterwards is again because he simply can’t understand where you are coming from and likely his life has been hard too so while you were posting your thoughts in the hopes that it’ll help other young INFJs like yourself he was merely misunderstanding.
Ohh… he followed up? I didn’t see it, I actually blocked his messages because I can’t cope with toxicity. Lol
 
Ah I went back and read it (sorry I hadn’t gone into that thread ever) I see that he is #1 a guy so his ability to understand where you’re coming from is lower and #2 doesn’t understand that you’re a teenager and for teenagers their high school years tend to mean a lot to them so every hurt, every scar, every rejection is very hard for us as INFJs at that age. I get it, I really do and his follow up as to what he said afterwards is again because he simply can’t understand where you are coming from and likely his life has been hard too so while you were posting your thoughts in the hopes that it’ll help other young INFJs like yourself he was merely misunderstanding.
I have to admit the experience scared me as well as my feelings being hurt. Genuinely curious here—what did he follow up with? I’m too scared to unblock. It kinda triggered my childhood bullying scenes and hit a nerve in my system. Which is only reasonable, really.
 
And thanks for seeing me. My initial intention was to help young girls like me who have ever felt like their pain was dismissed or wronged. I don’t have a mean bone in my body and upon close inspection I didn’t see anything that was wrong with my post, and what he did was a violation of my sense of safety (I apologize for reacting dramatically; it could have been a misunderstanding but that doesn’t excuse their other person’s behavior)
 
I have to admit the experience scared me as well as my feelings being hurt. Genuinely curious here—what did he follow up with? I’m too scared to unblock. It kinda triggered my childhood bullying scenes and hit a nerve in my system. Which is only reasonable, really.
Nothing important and I get it. You were merely helping the other girl who was sharing the exact same high school experiences so his commented personally I feel should’ve been kept to himself. If I am in disagreement or I’m not interested in a post because it’s a high school girls prom experience and I haven’t gone to prom in a really really long time so it doesn’t pertain to me then I just skip over those threads or keep scrolling and pay it no mind. I don’t participate in the threads that don’t interest me because it seems pointless. I simply don’t have time for that and I like to spend my time being helpful. Just keep him blocked if it helps you and go about your day.
 
And thanks for seeing me. My initial intention was to help young girls like me who have ever felt like their pain was dismissed or wronged. I don’t have a mean bone in my body and upon close inspection I didn’t see anything that was wrong with my post, and what he did was a violation of my sense of safety (I apologize for reacting dramatically; it could have been a misunderstanding but that doesn’t excuse their other person’s behavior)
Oh I knew your intention and saw it for what it was right away but never feel bad for voicing how you feel. You’ll only get banned on here for being outright disrespectful towards someone I would feel and I read through all of it and could sense you were hurt and it is okay to feel the way you feel. You’re human. We all need validation sometimes and I totally understand that.
 
Nothing important and I get it. You were merely helping the other girl who was sharing the exact same high school experiences so his commented personally I feel should’ve been kept to himself. If I am in disagreement or I’m not interested in a post because it’s a high school girls prom experience and I haven’t gone to prom in a really really long time so it doesn’t pertain to me then I just skip over those threads or keep scrolling and pay it no mind. I don’t participate in the threads that don’t interest me because it seems pointless. I simply don’t have time for that and I like to spend my time being helpful. Just keep him blocked if it helps you and go about your day.
Thanks for your thoughtful reply~ I think I should try to get some sleep now and not let it bother me too much (at least it fueled my creative rage…)
 
Same. I can’t even find that button, the only response I can give is “like” which is probably for the best since I wouldn’t know what to do with a dislike button if I had one.

If you're on mobile, hold down the like button
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I've been wanting to get rid of the dislike button for a long time now, I'll look into it, as it's not in the spirit of INFJs generally.
It was originally added flippantly.

If you're a reasonable person, you have no reason to be worried about getting banned.
Sometimes people just want to troll, sometimes they get caught up in looping or other toxic behavior for various reasons.
We all go through tough times in our lives.

If you have any issues, feel free to PM myself, @Asa or @aeon

Update: Ok I removed a couple of them, for some reason the heart emoji isn't loading properly but that'll get fixed later
 
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