True or False? The more you focus on your own life, interests, health, etc., the more the opposite sex (or same sex if you are homosexual) is interested in you.
Curious to hear personal stories.
I say yes.. 100% And for three easy reasons..
1) When a person sees us smiling, confident, and strong - happy, it leaves them wanting to know more, wanting to know why.. It creates intrigue, an air of mystery. They're wondering what is going so well within us that we smile that way.. It's inviting.. People gauge how much faith they should put in us often by watching how much faith we put in ourselves.. If
we know ourselves better than anyone else and
we are giving off the vibe that we are worthless, or no good.. then the warning signal is out there like a plume of pungent gas.. an odor people will smell.. Conversely if we walk head high, happy and radiating confidence.. not arrogant and conceited, ( yes, most ppl can tell the difference ) then we say to the masses... "Hey, I'm happy and secure. I believe in myself and thus you can believe in me too.. Think of it this way: The very fact that we show we know our "
worth" denotes there
is "
worth" to be claimed within us..
2) Because people can be sadly insecure in themselves and when they see someone who seems "hard to get" they feel much better about themselves if they can "catch" you.. Like "landing the big job".. so to speak. #trophy wife / husband.
3) Because there will
always be people who are sexually attracted to "le thrill of the hunt" ... People who love the psychological game, the
dance, involved in the chase phase of love.. I cannot claim that I might not be guilty of this one myself, and I know for sure that many INFJ I know are like this, even when they wish they weren't.. o.o