What are your "Top 5" skills?

[Snow601]

What makes a top skill is not only your ability in doing that skill, but the relevance having that skill is to you in your personal success journey. For example, you might be great at eating hotdogs for hotdog eating contests, but you don't care for it anymore--I wouldn't personally call that a 'top skill' (unless you also pride yourself on it). In essence, these are growth skills, and we all can at least name five of them. These also may be what helps us simply do our work. I think it's a good idea to have such a list available for those moments to help build confidence and give direction when needed.

For me, in no order

• Artistic eye for aesthetics--my ability to make visually, aesthetically pleasing designs both via media and environments.
• Writing ability--my ability to affect people emotionally with the written word, describe things concisely, and tell good stories.
• Intrapersonal communication--my ability to express myself, be authentic, whilst also building rapport.
• Artistic eye for intellectual design--my ability to make systems that work mechanically and inspire through the beauty created by the product. E.g., designing an interactive English-learning activity.
• Analytical skill with an artistic lens--my ability to see the art and poetry in things; understanding human meaning.

These may change as I think about them more.

Your turn. What are your top five skills?

 

[Hyacinth]

What makes a top skill is not only your ability in doing that skill, but the relevance having that skill is to you in your personal success journey. For example, you might be great at eating hotdogs for hotdog eating contests, but you don't care for it anymore--I wouldn't personally call that a 'top skill' (unless you also pride yourself on it). In essence, these are growth skills, and we all can at least name five of them. These also may be what helps us simply do our work. I think it's a good idea to have such a list available for those moments to help build confidence and give direction when needed.

For me, in no order

• Artistic eye for aesthetics--my ability to make visually, aesthetically pleasing designs both via media and environments.
• Writing ability--my ability to affect people emotionally with the written word, describe things concisely, and tell good stories.
• Intrapersonal communication--my ability to express myself, be authentic, whilst also building rapport.
• Artistic eye for intellectual design--my ability to make systems that work mechanically and inspire through the beauty created by the product. E.g., designing an interactive English-learning activity.
• Analytical skill with an artistic lens--my ability to see the art and poetry in things; understanding human meaning.

These may change as I think about them more.

Your turn. What are your top five skills?

Interesting… I am quite literally drawing a blank. I am finding all of my thoughts are usually externally focused. If, instead, you had asked me what are the top 5 skills of many of the key people who provide valuable input on this forum I can come up with 5 skills in a matter of seconds for each member. However when I am asked to internally focus I seem to struggle more in my thinking and analyzing traits. Same with feelings. All of my thoughts and feelings are externally focused as my primary cognition as opposed to being internally focused so I can quite easily navigate others’ feelings and skills and quite easily label and explain what their strengths are and why they are feeling that way and behaving that way. Again when I try to internally focus on my own, I find it much more difficult to label and navigate through my own skills and with my feelings I seem to push through them rather than to simply feel them. My own feelings discomforts me, others I have sat with my whole life so they’ve become a part of me. Quite literally all of my focus appears to be on external factors and on how improving, drawing out, and making others feel seen, heard, and valued is my primary core function. Doing the same for myself draws a complete blank for me. Don’t get me wrong, I know I have them I am just finding this question extremely difficult. Apparently self evaluation is definitely not one of my strong suites
I would need quite a bit of time pondering this before I could list 5. Sorry this probably isn’t helping you but it’s not for lack of trying. Not sure if others on here struggle with the same but I’m just giving my honest feedback towards your question.

 

[Hyacinth]

Oh and I thought of something else, not sure if it’s a skill or not but when I enter a roomful of people I will almost always gravitate to the one person alone by themselves and focus all of my time, attention, and observations on them so they are made to feel they belong in that space as well. I will study them, try to pick apart why they chose to sit alone as opposed to part of the group. Generally the personality types that command attention with their presence don’t need the same attention as those who never get it or see it. My mindset will always naturally gravitate to the “lowest person on the totem pole” so to speak and the ones overlooked and at the bottom because I’ll automatically want to boost his or her confidence within the dynamic of the environment. They bring just as much value to a space and are worthy of time, attention, and input into the going ons as much as the ones that everyone in an environment automatically likes and hangs out with. The ones who already get it daily in their interactions don’t tend to ever need this so I tend to leave them be and focus on solely the ppl who feel unseen and unvalued within a group setting. That’s how I’ve always behaved and I can’t undo it. Those at the top already have all the confidence that they need however those at the bottom usually needs me to push it out for them which is why they are my primary focus inside whatever environment I find myself in. I have been this way since childhood and likely will always be this way. If however they are just sick, want to be alone, or are just naturally quiet then I will simply sit with them quietly and not talk so they know that they’re never alone and that someone truly cares. They may not pick up that that is why I’m there since I will never voice it out loud to them but that’s why I would be sitting with them. And my favorite movies or shows are always the feel good underdog shows where the least likely rises to the top and feels happy because generally they are the ones made to feel worthless or are the most often misunderstood so it brings me joy when they finally experience the opposite of their experiences in life because it’s usually a long time coming. I’m thinking of a few of my closest friends and I’m smiling. Even if they never see this light of day in their own personal lives I still smile because I can visualize it in my mind and even the thought alone makes me happy. Most of them happen to be INTJs because they keep to themselves and their dark humor no one understands or gets so I will sit with them and let them know I see them and that their brains interests me and their dark humor doesn’t bother me at all. Many types find them insensitive because they tended to be blunt and speak truth. I however value their input and know they’ll never lie to me and they give me their honest opinion on everything so I’m never left guessing. This is just a quick example of those in my life who have gotten shunned who I know personally. I doubt all INTJs struggle with fitting in but within my friend groups they tend to have been the ones I struck up conversations with and why I did so and why I have such solid friendships with them to this day.