What do you care about?

Melkor

Melkor

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Well...
I was asked this question today, by an INFJ no less, and found I couldn't answer.
What do I care about?
What does that even mean? What could I not do without? Or what do I like? I suppose I need something to listen to everyday, and I couldn't function without frequent bottles of water or my psp...
I was then informed that nothing phases me and I don't react to much.
Well that feels wonderful most of the time. Except when people talk about their dying mother or latest depressive phase, and I just stare and try to change the conversation. Leading everyone to think me heartless...
Just curious, as ever, but what does an INFJ care about?
Really.
 
I care most about spiritiuality and connectedness in that this permeates and enriches each instant of one's existence. It also send ripples into all the more practical and mundane things of life and impart them with meaning.
 
Is your emotional distance because you don't care and can't relate to others feelings? Or is your emotional distance because feelings overwhelm you and you need distance to stay balanced? Development of your feeling function will require that you look at your emotions and try and make sense of them. Should I care is the question you seem to be grappling with, not what do I care about. It would seem as a Thinker that you need to establish the premise that caring about things is desirable before your rational self would allow you to find things to care about.

In a forum full of Feelers I would think it would be easier to ask them what they don't care about versus what they do. The hallmark of the type is a well developed attachment to not only others but ideals and causes. So the blanket question--what do you care about has a very large pool of answers.

At the top of my "things I care about" list is my family.
 
I care about people, being what I feel is right, and keeping a driving purpose in life.

I care about how other people feel, usually being the one that ensures everyone's feelings are accounted for in a group decision and keeping the peace with compromises and consolations where necessary.

I care about upholding my perceived rights for myself, more noticing when I fall short on them than when I succeed in upholding them. I'm working on this, but that's a slow process.

I care about keeping a driving purpose in life, making sure that I'm working towards a larger cause, be it for myself or others. It gets me out of bed in the morning.
 
Pretty much everything.
 
I guess that depends on your definition of 'care';

I'm fascinated by the multiverse, physics, astronomy, geology, biology, chemistry, technology, sociology, et cetera... I care about these any myriad branching subtopics that come from them.

I ~care~ about what's going wrong with us as a specie, largely in part because it was all preventable with a mass epidemic of responsibility and forethought on everyone's part. Normally, I'd like to just enjoy nature and feel good about living sustainably, and only have as many kids as I feel comfortable having, and eat what I like enjoy to eat, etc... but I have to CARE about these things because mass human irresponsibility has turned otherwise mudane behaviors into geno-suicidal trends that double as what is already the 5th largest extinction level event in all of fossilized history and is likely to skyrocket right up to the top. It sounds cynical, but if we all cared about this, we wouldn't have to as it wouldn't be a problem!

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Melkor said:
Just curious, as ever, but what does an INFJ care about?
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Can change daily for me. I used to wonder what I wanted from life and had no answer. Now I have several things I want from life and get to be depressed at my inability, lack of ambition, and bad luck at achieving them.

What those things are...
1) A relationship, but not a relationship just to have a relationship. The *right* relationship. I have no clue what that means, either. I know the sort of woman I want, but is that the sort of woman that is right for the type of relationship I want... I don't know. Very often I think the people we are attracted to, are the worst matches for us in relationships; I am not above this tendency.

2) Upon achieving 1, I want to be a father.

3) Before I can achieve 1 and 2, I require more income. Females require that they have gifts purchased for them. (I've noticed this does not apply to hot guys who seem to get attractive women even if they are deadbeats without jobs nor sense of responsibility.) So the type of women I date require that I buy them stuff at least. Plus, kids require it too.


Keep in mind I'm 26. I didn't want any of this 2 years ago... and I kind of miss not wanting it. It's a more carefree life to desire little.
 
This will probably sound kind of hippie dippy but...primarily I care about connection, whether that be to other people or animals or to the world in general. Connection to life. Also truth, knowledge, love.
 
neptunesguns said:
This will probably sound kind of hippie dippy :lol:but...

primarily I care about connection, whether that be to other people or animals or to the world in general. Connection to life. Also truth, knowledge, love.
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+1

This first - and what everyone else said in general.

BTW - I agree with Sonyab.
 
neptunesguns said:
This will probably sound kind of hippie dippy but...primarily I care about connection, whether that be to other people or animals or to the world in general. Connection to life. Also truth, knowledge, love.
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Hippy dippy or not I like it!
 
neptunesguns said:
This will probably sound kind of hippie dippy but...primarily I care about connection, whether that be to other people or animals or to the world in general. Connection to life. Also truth, knowledge, love.
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This primarily for me too. I care about feeling connection to the people I'm with on a micro-level, but I also care about the overall connection I sense between all things on a macro level.

Also, I care about expression. I care about the expression of others, and I care about being my fullest expression of self.
 
When it all comes down to it, all I really care about is having a well-defined purpose and a deep meaning to whatever I'm doing. I see that others can easily do things without feeling that connection, and they do not care. I could never be like that, although I try.
 
Hmm.
I'm still shallow, immature, and selfish, so very often I ended up caring about my own emotional growth and/or sanity, then relationships, then the future.
Every now and then though, I try to reflect that very same care towards others.

So...
Emotional growth and/or sanity, then relationships, then the future.
 
ideas
life/goals
 
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