What do you look for?

TigersGoRAWR

TigersGoRAWR

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I don't know about you... but I really dislike the modern way of clothing etc.

I'm a girl, but I'm not one of those girls who wears fake tan, make up, low cut tops or anything stupid like that. I don't make any effort with my hair unless its REALLY special...Personally... I prefer the way people used to dress back in the old days. I love the amazing old-fashioned dresses. I like that people had pale skin.. I have pale skin and I love it.

I don't understand the whole make-up/fake-tan thing..... everyone is beautiful, inside and out. Wearing all that rubbish is like trying to be someone else...

what do you think? :)
 
Whats wrong with looking different?
Its a tribal thing and most humans adhere to. So to say its rubbish is a little strong, rather its not for you. Some people like to look how they feel and adorn themselves with make up and sparkle.
I do to love the older cuts for both men and women but that is a design preference which I mix with modern pieces. Also women have more choice fullstop, with the advent of the internet you can buy any style or piece including vintage and antique. Men get jeans, a shirt or a variant of military gear.
 
I dont have a problem with people looking different... it's not for me no, but I mean the extreme that girls go to nowadays o.O with the make up and things...
 
I used to go against the stream because I didn't want to be influenced by others, but then I realised that by purposely doing the opposite, you let them influence you.
So now I do whatever I'm more comfortable with.
Also, I did not belong to any subcultures who rejected conformity, but who ironically set their own values to which their members had to conform to.
 
Isn't this better titled What Do You Want to Look Like?

I agree with Korg (heaven forbid!) Inclusive versus Exclusive is a better ideology to embrace. Creating us versus them categories breeds dissention. What about those people who are not born with pale skin? You are certainly entitled to personal preference but I think you step outside the bounds of reasonableness when you apply YOUR criteria to others. By all means, date and procreate with those who fit your ideals, but don't point a disapproving finger at those who don't like they have done something wrong. Remember, even Tammy Faye Baker had at least 2 men who married her and thought she was wonderful and she had a ton of makeup all over her face.
 
Personally, I dress for myself. I enjoy looking good. My idea of looking good includes makeup, hair style, and fashion. But, everyone has different taste. To each their own, you know? Calling it rubbish is a bit much. You may not see a need for it, but some people (like me) do. I'm not being someone else. I am being myself. Just like the way you dress and present yourself is an extension of who you are. It's a form of expression.
 
Sonyab said:
Isn't this better titled What Do You Want to Look Like?

I agree with Korg (heaven forbid!) Inclusive versus Exclusive is a better ideology to embrace. Creating us versus them categories breeds dissention. What about those people who are not born with pale skin? You are certainly entitled to personal preference but I think you step outside the bounds of reasonableness when you apply YOUR criteria to others. By all means, date and procreate with those who fit your ideals, but don't point a disapproving finger at those who don't like they have done something wrong. Remember, even Tammy Faye Baker had at least 2 men who married her and thought she was wonderful and she had a ton of makeup all over her face.
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part of me believes that every look is equally deliberately constructed and so criticisms are invalid. and it's considerate of others to wash regularly and be properly groomed.

but on the other hand i don't like the way tans look. if you look at it properly the skin looks really damaged. i don't think it's very healthy. and i feel sorry for people who spend endless stacks of time and money on things like cosmetics and botox and fashions. they could be spending it on a class or a new computer or a book or even something much bigger when it all adds up, like a house. but whatever floats your boat.
 
detectivepope said:
Its a tribal thing and most humans adhere to. So to say its rubbish is a little strong, rather its not for you.
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Korg said:
Who cares what other people do? Focus on what you want.
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The Jester said:
I used to go against the stream because I didn't want to be influenced by others, but then I realised that by purposely doing the opposite, you let them influence you. So now I do whatever I'm more comfortable with.
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Sonyab said:
Inclusive versus Exclusive is a better ideology to embrace... ...You are certainly entitled to personal preference but I think you step outside the bounds of reasonableness when you apply YOUR criteria to others.
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DevilDoll said:
...everyone has different taste. To each their own, you know? Calling it rubbish is a bit much. You may not see a need for it, but some people (like me) do. I'm not being someone else. I am being myself. Just like the way you dress and present yourself is an extension of who you are. It's a form of expression.
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invisible said:
part of me believes that every look is equally deliberately constructed and so criticisms are invalid.
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I value all of these statements. Well-done! :thumb: There
 
I dress in the way I like. I don't care how the crowd dress.

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As long as a person is happy with themselves at the end of the day, that is what truly matters, not what they do or don't do to their appearances. Although I do honestly get the feeling many of the sorts of women the OP is referring to probably don't really accept themselves exactly as they are. However, I can't just assume that, so I won't say it definitely. It is just a gut feeling.

Although, I'll admit as far as personal preferences go (aesthetically speaking), I strongly prefer when I see a woman with less make up as opposed to more. A little make up used in the right ways can be extremely beautiful, but eyeliner that makes them look like a raccoon and so much foundation/tanning that they look orange...well...in my personal opinion, that is no longer attractive. That looks like someone is trying way too hard.

But sometimes it is just plain fun to make yourself up.
 
Yes expression, freedom for being difference, self-confidence, "live and let live" I fully agree with all these. But pointing out what's wrong with the role-models is not a sign of non tolerance. And criticizing people who their taste reveals that they have shallow values maybe is not polite but for sure is beneficial.
My understanding is that you see you are not exactly as miss world or something. And you see that most people are not as well. Then, you see that most people are trying to look like that and sometimes that is so big effort that you consider it a waste. I agree.
On the other hand, you are feeling good with your features and you are promoting them to yourself. So you are doing the same thing with all those people who try to make their appearance to live up their expectation, you are finding a place to feel good. That is not bad. In fact that can be very fun and very art. The difference is that you try to be self-aware and know your limits and what is essential for you.
If that is how the things are, that's great, keep thinking, I am with you.
 
I agree with you...I look better pale than orange :) And dress wise, I try to keep it classy.
 
I remember hearing a story once that featured a top fashion designer. He was saying something similar, extolling the virtues of a toned-down, classy look while punching holes in all the faux trends out there. While I appreciate the effort the ladies do take to look nice, for many guys out there (including me and apparently one top fashion designer), a conspicously over-done look is a bit of a red flag.
 
i agree with the OP, sometimes glamourous, dressy look is too often promoted as a universal standard. I've seen some gorgeous and beautiful women hold the attention of crowded room, and they didn't have a stitch of makeup on.
 
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