SamE
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- MBTI
- INFP
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- 4w5
Are INFJs or INFPs or another personality the most private personality to know. Are INFJs the toughest personality to become friends with on a deeper level to be known because of your privacy and guardedness?
I know INFJ are said to be socially active when it comes to be comfortable and do create the haven for the social outlet but how much are you comfortable in being personable with others, letting them into your world and trusting them to be good friends?
As opposed to being social for the sake of being social on the surface and wanting the privacy and distance. And then there is the doorslam after events become unfavorable, uncomfortable. I've noticed INFPs and INFJs respond differently. While INFP create a buffer and let the good the bad and ugly in and then just share the parts of themselves while ignoring and avoiding other parts without letting go as much. Still do after time probably, depends on experience. While INFJ's seem more decisive and final and do some kind of mental spring cleaning where they feel the need to be invisible, remove any connections that don't feel like connections and are insincere or untrusted to preserve that feeling of privacy. Again this mayn't be the norm which is why I am interested in discussion to understand this better and how often does trust and safety come into it?
Why do friendships drift when communication is absent, personally when I am connected to a person on any level whether I communicate or not I leave the option for communication becoming known irrespective of whether I am social or not as expected. And I like that because I am aware of energy and having energy in my life matters for I have a sense of friends and people more accurately just by their energy and know there is trust, safety and integrity in the friends and people I know without needing to communicate. I wouldn't want to know them otherwise. Why is this different to understand for some people, and why is being social and communicate important, why do friends have to prove their trust and safety by the way they socialise. I already know how people are. Which is strange And I know while I know others don't and I then have to put effort in proving that I am trusted and safe with integrity so people know what I'm on about. If I don't do that the opposite happens, I fall bellow the radar and people don't gain a sense of me and friends, people think I am being insincere and unauthentic. And carry on when I don't create enough of an impression of meaning.
And that is an interesting question what does having an impression of meaning mean to INFJs and INFPs?
I know INFJ are said to be socially active when it comes to be comfortable and do create the haven for the social outlet but how much are you comfortable in being personable with others, letting them into your world and trusting them to be good friends?
As opposed to being social for the sake of being social on the surface and wanting the privacy and distance. And then there is the doorslam after events become unfavorable, uncomfortable. I've noticed INFPs and INFJs respond differently. While INFP create a buffer and let the good the bad and ugly in and then just share the parts of themselves while ignoring and avoiding other parts without letting go as much. Still do after time probably, depends on experience. While INFJ's seem more decisive and final and do some kind of mental spring cleaning where they feel the need to be invisible, remove any connections that don't feel like connections and are insincere or untrusted to preserve that feeling of privacy. Again this mayn't be the norm which is why I am interested in discussion to understand this better and how often does trust and safety come into it?
Why do friendships drift when communication is absent, personally when I am connected to a person on any level whether I communicate or not I leave the option for communication becoming known irrespective of whether I am social or not as expected. And I like that because I am aware of energy and having energy in my life matters for I have a sense of friends and people more accurately just by their energy and know there is trust, safety and integrity in the friends and people I know without needing to communicate. I wouldn't want to know them otherwise. Why is this different to understand for some people, and why is being social and communicate important, why do friends have to prove their trust and safety by the way they socialise. I already know how people are. Which is strange And I know while I know others don't and I then have to put effort in proving that I am trusted and safe with integrity so people know what I'm on about. If I don't do that the opposite happens, I fall bellow the radar and people don't gain a sense of me and friends, people think I am being insincere and unauthentic. And carry on when I don't create enough of an impression of meaning.
And that is an interesting question what does having an impression of meaning mean to INFJs and INFPs?