This may sound weird, but I have a mom.. Well she is my mother in law, but I call her mom... and she is also 50 and she just found out that she is an INFJ. Well she lives in Virginia also. So, I don't know. I just want to say that I appreciate you being here and I really am glad that you are. There are so many things that I wish that I could tell her, and there is so much that I do. But then there are things that I feel I could never show her, because despite her MBTI type... well she has had a life of learning and becoming who she is, and I'm afraid that even if she accepted me.. she might be truly disappointed, and I look up to her like no other. Anyway, I'm sorry if I'm projecting.. and I'm truly glad that you, Evalura.. are here. 
