I know, it's dreadful. Most of the time it doesn't bother, I like being secretive, misunderstood. It makes me feel secure if I refuse to share. Though sometimes, you just want clarification, someone to peel away a few layers and confirm you're real.
I think it's beyond me... But you're an INFJ, you have an excess of emotional depth, and you revolve around people.
There's no hope for me, but I think you'd do wonderfully with practice.