Your right, your 100% right. God won't force you to love him, he won't tell you to love him. No God is begging you to,He wants you to love him so much that when time came, when nothing short of everything would would prove his affection he gave everything.
He didn't send a prophet to teach, he didn't send a judge to guide or a king ot rule. No when God wanted to show the world how much it meant to him, he came himself to die for it. No roars of thunder or fire from heaven, just God hanging on a cross so that we wouldn't have to.
Let me say this, Love is first, love is always first. Nothing else matters, nothing else is important, who cares if I have faith in christ and love not, doesn't Satan have the same. What good have I commited if I live a life without wine or women if I loved not.
Love first, love one another, love God. Everything, every good deed follows from this. It is why Christianity only has one law.
And tell me are you free, realy free. I doubt it, look at your life and all your decisions, whom do they serve. Selfish desires, firends, money, family, the poor, the sick and the down trodden. The only difference between my slavery and yours is that I've chosen mine. My act of freedom was to choose to serve a new master.
So tell me what waits for you in death? do you have hope in death?
I live knowing that I have hope in death not in life.
Ok, I a few problems with what you said, and for these arguements, lets assume God exsists as you describe him, Jesus was truly his son, and really rose after 3 days:
You say he gave everything for us by dying on the cross, but was that actually giving everything? Is dying fully in the knowledge that you will rise in 3 DAYS really a sacrifice. Thats very much like going under anesthesia for surgery, excpet with MORE certainty of waking up. Is that truly a sacrifice? I say no.
Also, you say God loves us, utterly and truly. Then why does he punish those who don't love him? That's simply unrequited love. I have lived my life with unrequited love, and yet I punish none of the objects of my affection. Why? Because I LOVE them (ok, maybe it wasn't truly love in its fullest form, but its close, and I know this doesn't change my point). So, simply because we don't love God we're to be punished in hell? Is that truly love? I say no.
I'm now done with those assumptions.
Am I free? Not entirely. There are people in this nation who would deny me my rights, and are doing a damned good job at it. I have societal expectations imposed on me, that I am yet to throw off (I'm yet to defeat that Dragon, so to speak [anyone get it? eh? eh?]). However, those very same expectations are the very same ones YOU are subject to. So you are no more free than I am in that respect. Religiously, am I free? Yes, absolutely, 100% Who do I serve? Myself, and only myself. I find it my best interest to assist those who I care for, and them some, because doing so brings me happiness and peace of mind. But no religion forces me to do it. I have no spiritual master but my own soul. I choose to respect my Gods because I find it to be a fulfilling relationship, but I don't have to do so.
What do I have to look forward to in death? In whose perspective? In yours I can look to truly proving myself for all existence, by steadfastly holding by my standards and values. Your depiction of God does not fulfill these standards/values, and so I will deny him straight to hell, with a smile on my face. In my perspective. I look forward to going to what I like to call the Summerlands. This is a place to walk with Deity, a place of plenty, where no real stress exists. However, I can't imagine it being a place of laziness, with every need handed to you, simply because that would be boring. I imagine reat adventures to be had, and work to be done to sustain one's self, but not so much that its overly difficult. I imagine a place less focused on reality so that magick can be worked to wonderful effect. THATS what I have to look forward to.
One final thing, you said you have hope in death, and not in life. why? I have hope in both. I live my life to be enjoyed, because thats how life should be lived. Then in death, the enjoyment should be continued.