Are there any women who like infps or find honestly?

Women like men of all types. I always tease and joke on here that I have to absolutely date an INTP—which would be nice haha, but I honestly don’t care which type I end up with.

Just because the interwebz says INFJs and ISTJs are the least compatible doesn’t mean that it is a doomed relationship. Each type has their potential to work and most women will like you regards if you are an INFP or not.

Just don’t be an asshole, selfish, narcissistic, self-absorbed dweeb. Simple as that, yo.
 
Whatever happened to Darc? I liked Darc. However, he had a defeatist attitude. All Darc's posts had the same defeatism. Others can't break through that, no matter what they say or do. If a person's attitude is that he won't win, he won't win. Sometimes this attitude is caused by depression and the person needs professional help, other times it is just about changing one's attitude.

Fi is not the problem. INFPs are well liked. Healthy INFPs use their Fi to relate to others via their own emotional experiences. They can be helpful, giving, nurturing, caring, and kind. Those are likable traits. INFP idealism is inspiring.

If a person's current crowd of friends makes them feel alone, they need to find new friends.

Defeatism is unattractive. It's bullheaded and self-centered. It's frustrating to repeatedly offer solutions and ideas that are rejected by default. The dynamics of the relationship are frustrating because the person's default self-pity asks for attention, but the defeatism rejects that attention. In some cases, the defeatist also rejects the people who care about them. The only choices are to become wrapped up in the unhealthy spiral, or walk away.
 
JennyDaniella said:
Women like men of all types. I always tease and joke on here that I have to absolutely date an INTP—which would be nice haha, but I honestly don’t care which type I end up with.

Just because the interwebz says INFJs and ISTJs are the least compatible doesn’t mean that it is a doomed relationship. Each type has their potential to work and most women will like you regards if you are an INFP or not.

Just don’t be an asshole, selfish, narcissistic, self-absorbed dweeb. Simple as that, yo.
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Yeah...gotta agree with the interwebz on the INFJ/ISTJ pairing.
Any personality pairing can make a relationship work, but the key word there is "work".
How much work does someone want to put in just to have a relationship that stays together?
And if it's a constant effort just to obtain the result of unification, then I wonder why people value surviving together more than enjoying the process of being with someone.

I speak as a divorcee from an ISTJ.
Literally, I was THE worst version of myself and the most unhealthy INFJ on planet Earth.
When I realized that the internal workings and experiences of the relationship were more important than the perceived outcome, I did good by both of us for leaving.
 
Asa said:
I thought of you when I read @JennyDaniella's post. TBH, I wondered what you would say. You had a successful relationship with an ISTJ for a little while and you have a beautiful child together, but the relationship was ultimately wrong for you.
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Thanks Asa, I think successful is a generous evaluation.
I think we both tried very, very hard for too long to make things flow smoothly.
Our daughter was the best result of our pairing and now she gets to see two different ways of wandering the world.
Your intuition is always mesmerizing to me. Or maybe I'm too predictable. LOL :yum:
 
The thing that bothers me about the whole "improve yourself" discourse whenever standards for men are brought up is that women only talk that way some of the time. While you do have your Cosmopolitans and so on, when women are personally discussing relationships with each other, there is often an undertone of "Why is this thing that way? Should it be that way? If not, what can we do to change it?".

Men need to learn to coordinate with each other and act as a group as well as individuals if they want to really maximize their value in the dating and casual sex markets. We shouldn't just accept the standards that are handed down by a few each generation, we should be actively shaping them towards what benefits men as a whole.
 
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Okay so I had this short fling with an istp/istj and I actually like her a lot, I've never meant many istj over been that romantically attracted to, as I've found a lot of them to be kind of stuffy.

But like, there's been some conflict over our beliefs, but it wasn't that extreme and I felt like there was some wiggle room in that sense and I feel like we balance each other out very well, she says she really likes spending time with her but the thinking thing came up and she thinks I think too much and that it doesn't really matter like most people. I've been friending a lot of suggestions from Facebook and oddly enough most of them are America. In Canada everyone just wants me to accept the doctrine or whateve whilst they carry through (the upper classes) with whatever nonsense they feel and call it liberal but I hesitate to call it that.

Not very many people accept me and um there's like no subcultures and hardly anymore and being like an artist or culture is not realy very respected or appreciated anymore.


But I think I'm in some instances a typical Infp, but I've overcome a lot of my weaknesses, and I am not handicapped by being an Infp, but I find many will not tolerate my peculiarities. I'm a complicated person, but I'm good at being romantic which women really like. But everyone wants to push me into a corner, and control me. I don't really fit the status quo, I'm a out of the box thinker and I don' want to chase the cheese, but I do care about the world. But I guess, it' just typical Fi values stuff, like philosophy, art, and stuff like that.

Pretty much no one accepts me, but everyone says it's confidence but uh I feel like it's social norms most often hinging on very capitalism and consumerist goals. I keep thinking that once the music works out a bit for me I'll gain more acceptance that way perhaps kinda? I feel like people like me are more accepted that way, but then like I said it's hard to find any place that' very tolerant or accepting of art anymore, especially anything sensitive or thoughtful.
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Okay, what we have going on here is not just your type, nor is it society. Don't blame that. Your reactions and woe-is-me is coming from a place of pain. Have you considered therapy? Sometimes it takes being with another person, describing your feelings to help you come to the realization that there are small changes that can be made to help you not only to survive, but to live and love living.

Please, do consider it, even for a few sessions. I don't like seeing anyone in pain.

Let me conclude by saying I do understand the feelings of not being accepted. I'm very high on the introverted scale, not really because I choose to be here, but because I don't feel respected. It comes from being a female engineer in a workplace that think women are silly. To add to that, I do not have that perfect body and face I'd love to have... another social thing that is pressed upon women. Yes, I get not belonging, and just wanting to hide, saying "screw you" to the world.... but we can't let the those feelings win. The air and sunshine was made for us all. Enjoy life.
 
In the Wings said:
Men need to learn to coordinate with each other and act as a group as well as individuals if they want to really maximize their value in the dating and casual sex markets.
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This sounds more stressful than the Olympics. Glad I'm not in the games.
 
In the Wings said:
The thing that bothers me about the whole "improve yourself" discourse whenever standards for men are brought up is that women only talk that way some of the time. While you do have your Cosmopolitans and so on, when women are personally discussing relationships with each other, there is often an undertone of "Why is this thing that way? Should it be that way? If not, what can we do to change it?".

Men need to learn to coordinate with each other and act as a group as well as individuals if they want to really maximize their value in the dating and casual sex markets. We shouldn't just accept the standards that are handed down by a few each generation, we should be actively shaping them towards what benefits men as a whole.
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In my opinion, it's insane for a man to dwell on relationships for too long. Life doesn't need to be so complicated. If a man goes out and does well, he'll eventually find himself in a relationship.
 
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