I fundamentally don't see any merits in forming friendships that aren't potential "real" friendships. I think it's a complete waste of time and energy to be friends with someone for "networking purposes," or just bumming around, or whatever. Although it seems that many people do like having a circle of acquaintainces. Anyways, I'd rather be alone than have friends who aren't super close to me. However, once in a while, I'll feel that a social life is something I should definitely be pursuing, and actively spend time with people who don't really "matter" to me, etc. Then I switch back to my regular mode and stop contacting those people, and well, it doesn't really matter because if I decide to go back to my shell, they'll stop talking to me as before, so they didn't matter too much in the first place.
There are times in my life [like right now] where I'm utterly frustrated with humanity and hurt from certain people. At these times, I want minimal contact with people. However, in time, I'll probably start socializing again...but I don't know. Perhaps there are only a certain number of times that your heart can be stomped on before you decide that you'll have no more, and sweep the remaining pieces into a coffin and let it rust there instead of having it become crushed out of existence. I think this is the stage I'm at right now, though I'm not exactly sure. There is someone who's a small ray of hope for me, I suppose. Haha. I don't mean to sound overdramatic, but I think you guys should understand how an INFJ can easily get their heart shredded by falling for someone who takes advantage of our kindness and abusing us...and we let ourselves get abused. I'm just too traumatized from my past experiences, and I'm going to shut myself off for an indefinite period of time.
Anyways, I'm sorry to have gone off on a tangent...but I think this does relate to the thread in a way. At the end of the day, when I look into my heart, I think I realize that I'm alone. No one else besides yourself is a gurantee. My parents will probably be there for me until they die...but they will die one day, and even before that, they aren't there for all aspects for my life, and they really don't understand me too well to begin with. Friends and love is difficult. I do have one friend who I believe could easily be my friend for the rest of my life though =) We don't talk so much anymore, but I think that in our hearts, we are true friends to each other. I feel very lucky to have met him, and sometimes, if I'm feeling down, I think about him, and I feel a little better to know that he'll always be there. Well, I shouldn't say "always," but given the amount of time I've known him and such...I'd say it's a safe gamble. Stability if a huge issue for me...I guess.
I do believe that INFJs can be quite codependent. We want to share our lives with other people. We want to find those connections and give away our love. That's what we value. However, I think that we need to kind of "suck it up" [for the lack of a better phrase] and realize that those connections may never be found. They CAN be, but there is NO gurantee, and we need to accept that. We need to accept that there are no gurantees with any sort of relationships, and that we should take care of ourselves. We should be prepared for the failure of a friendship or relationship. It's hard, and I'm pretty sure I'm not quite capable of doing this [at least not right now], but it's definitely something that should be done..