blaming yourself for everything

I try to recognize my part in the problem, outside of that not really. Problem are rarely one-sided.
 
I do blame myself for a lot of things, I say sorry many times, even when it's not necessary (and people can also be really sensitive and I want to make sure I didn't hurt their feelings).
 
ilovethewind said:
I do blame myself for a lot of things, I say sorry many times, even when it's not necessary (and people can also be really sensitive and I want to make sure I didn't hurt their feelings).
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This is a tricky one. Usually there is a part of my mind whispering "No no no, this will only add to the confusion, and it will backfire in the long run.", but I don't listen to that.
 
not really. if something is my fault i will take responsibility for it. otherwise i don't.
 
May said:
not really. if something is my fault i will take responsibility for it. otherwise i don't.
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Yes me too.

I don't like blaming others ever. Though I don't usually tell them in their faces it was their fault, I'm well aware when something is my fault and when it isn't.
 
i do blame myself for some things sometimes, sometimes rightfully, and sometimes because i'm giving someone the benefit of the doubt, i'm trying to do it less, however, because sometimes it gets to me, and i know deep down that its really not my fault sometimes, i just don't like blaming others for some things. partly because i think everything happens for a reason. and partly because i feel like i should give others excuses sometimes. nobody's perfect.
 
Grey Wolf said:
just wondering,do you guys blame youselves for everything even though they might not be your fault?

I have no idea why but thats what do. even if its really the other person's fault I will still blame myself
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Yeah, I do this a lot. I've never really been able to understand emotional reactions and such very well, so I always assume it was something I said that came across as insensitive or some such and thus was my fault.
 
Rain said:
Yeah, I do this a lot. I've never really been able to understand emotional reactions and such very well, so I always assume it was something I said that came across as insensitive or some such and thus was my fault.
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yes! but working on trying no to blame myself on things that arent my fault and working on recognizing them!
 
I could do that if I wanted to but it's just too complicated to even think about so I've stopped caring a crap about anything really... a long time ago...
 
Yes. I've only very slowly come to terms with the fact that my blame barometer is slanted to my side. It doesn't mean I'm right or wrong, good or bad, just that I blame myself.
 
me too. I always find something that isn't good enough.

untill quite recently I thought I was not perfectionistic at all. But then my therapist has pointed out that I might be, and it became clear to me that I'm very perfectionistic. It is like I'm not allowed to make mistakes. En when I try not to feel guilty for something, I'm still afraid that other people will judge me on that and also on the fact that I try not to feel guilty when I should. And the stupid thing is: a lot of times other people do blame me for something I shouldn't be blamed for (my father is realy good at that)

it is sick isn't it :D
 
Morgan said:
me too. I always find something that isn't good enough.

untill quite recently I thought I was not perfectionistic at all. But then my therapist has pointed out that I might be, and it became clear to me that I'm very perfectionistic. It is like I'm not allowed to make mistakes. En when I try not to feel guilty for something, I'm still afraid that other people will judge me on that and also on the fact that I try not to feel guilty when I should. And the stupid thing is: a lot of times other people do blame me for something I shouldn't be blamed for (my father is realy good at that)

it is sick isn't it :D
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I had the same issue. I had no idea I was a perfectionist until somebody pointed it out to me.

Totally relate.
 
Wow, yes, I do have a bad habit of doing that. Even if I am indirectly related to the problem, I still start beating myself up over it and blaming myself for the problem.
 
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