grapefruit
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I get so hurt and frustrated when I witness bullying even if it is a result of ignorance or insecurity. All of the bullying articles and things say that if someone is being bullied, you should strongly voice your opinion that it stop. Well, I have experience with bullying, so I realized that my friend who is younger than me was being bullied by a group of girls older than she with one being my age before she did. They would be horrible to her and say out loud that they didn't want to work with her in class groups, they didn't care about what she had to say, and they were constantly making jokes at her expense. I escaped from an elective sometimes to join that class, so that is how I began to know. She was clearly offended, and she told me so afterword, but when the girls asked her for the benefit of the teacher, she said that she wasn't for some reason. It got to the point where she really wanted me to be there with her, but I couldn't all the time because I had a class of my own to attend. She hadn't acquired the skills to stick up for herself, and contrary to popular belief, I feel that excessive bullying does not create an avenue for self confidence, so I knew I had to help because no one else was doing anything. I did what the articles said and started telling the girls calmly and firmly that I refused to tolerate their actions, but unlike the articles where everything gets better, the bullying intensified and started shifting to me as well. I talked to the teacher, but there doesn't seem to be a lot she can do to stop it without making it worse either. What am I doing wrong and how can I alter my strategy to increase its effectiveness.