Cuddling: like or dislike.

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BenW said:
In case it wasn't obvious, I'm referring to cuddling in the context of an intimate relationship.

Though I've never had the opportunity to attempt as such, I love the idea of cuddling, and can't wait to do so with somebody I love (this is actually somewhat of a point of dissonance in my current -long distance- relationship, not solely because it isn't currently possible but because the other half doesn't like the idea).

Do you like it, dislike it, or feel completely ambivalent to it?
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Love it.
 
With a partner, definitely. With anyone else it feels awkward. I'm the guy that does the lean over hug when I meet someone. That and two / three light slaps on the back as I do it. Even with my kids. But in a relationship .. OMG. I cannot get enough of cuddling. I love physical contact but it really has to be with someone I love deeply.
 
I like leaning against a broad back. Does that count? No I'm not sure I will always like cuddling. I like squishing faces and curling into a fetal position by your feet. I think that's cuddly enough.
 
MINFJToothFairy said:
Emotional

The wife of my first love uploaded photos and videos of him and their son dancing in the rain. I am filled with joy. I smile from ear to ear watching him grin in happiness. That is the man I loved. I remember the awkward way he dances and oh how wonderful the way his kid dances the same. That smile. That laugh. His baby has his pout. I am filled with joy so immense. I am happy that he is living the life I have always thought he deserves. I realize that I am able to move on free from heartbreak because no part of me regrets loving such a wonderful man. I don't regret any bit of our story, even the leaving. I am happy that he turned out to be such a great man so worthy of my love. His wife is a very lucky woman.

Onto my recent heartbreak. One day, I wish I can look at him with joy too. While I feel no resentment anymore, remnants of pain trickle down to the pit of my stomach. While I do not wish to be the girl next to him, I still think she is both lucky and unlucky. More tragically so, I am simultaneously worried for her. I hope he too will turn out to be a good man but I'm too afraid I cannot say that for now. I know I chose him for his wounds and his darkness but now I sit on the edge anticipating his choices and praying he won't make ones that hurt more people.

I wonder about the great differences of these two loves. One I loved and let go for his goodness, the other I loved and chose for his darkness and so I must let him go.

The Perks of being a Wallflower said: we accept the love we think we deserve.

I hope one day I am able to choose the good because I see the good in me.
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You're a good person @MINFJToothFairy
 
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