ClevelandINTP
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To stop challenging everything and everyone
That would be inauthentic to not voice opinion. I don’t challenge everything and everyone, mr. absolute
To stop challenging everything and everyone
I don't even know what you're talking about here.
You asked for clarification, I answered. Simple as that.
That would be inauthentic to not voice opinion. I don’t challenge everything and everyone, mr. absolute
You said yourself that it is your MO. You very often say one thing and then reverse your statement in order to win the appeal of a person.
That's very inauthentic.
I challenge bullshit
Bullshit is relative. Your challenging is based on what you personally consider bullshit.
Stop.
You made a circular argument
Infinite loop, bro
Starting to think INFJs are not equipped for debate. This is an assumption I’m reconsidering. Thanks!
You made a circular argument
Infinite loop, bro
This is an interesting narrative.
I don't think the 'entire message board' 'erupted'... and I don't think the reaction you've received is anything to do with calling INFJs 'too sensitive'. INFJs are sensitive, everybody knows this, it's the way you've gone about saying it.
It's the whole faux-objectivity, 'your feelings are meaningless' schtick.
Hey I get you. I'm sometimes misunderstood on here when I take devil's advocate positions and expect people to dispassionately prove me wrong in the name of good faith debate (Te), but the INFJ tertiary Ti equates positions/arguments with some kind of deeply held belief or character flaw, so that's more problematic than I sometimes hope it will be.
The thing is, though, you can't hold that your 'INTPness' (or 'INTJness') makes you exempt from upsetting people simply because that's not how you work. That's just immature.
Also, it's not a circular argument.
It's not an argument at all, it's just what you do.
You're the one trapped in it.
Most truths are subjective except for physics
Fair.I guess what I’m getting at is shit goes both ways and don’t be a taker (myself included)
True.And by the way, what you (myself included) think you’re giving is not always seen and appreciated to the degree of the other
Why?If you’re (myself included) having to change more of the core of who you are for someone else, that’s bullshit
This is an INFJ space, though, so you've got to expect that discussions will be had in ways that INFJs prefer.I get this
But I would say this is sort of my point
INFJs (broadly speaking) expect things presented to fit their preferences
If that concession is made, and no reciprocal effort is made to the other person
An INFJ has tilted the balance of a relationship by making the other be accommodating to them
I don’t think that’s immature per se to notice that discrepancy
INFJ says insensitive or uninformed things and no one cares or can really call them out on it because they don’t take negative feedback well either generally speaking from my experience
Errr um prefer sugar coating after avoidance
Which by the way is not a preference of all other types
So by default, it’s accommodate the INFJ generally speaking
I’m not saying I do this all the time in the real world but I notice it enough to bring it forward for intelligent conversation