- Aug 21, 2015
Yeah, I just feel that I didn't have enough contact with Elizabeth for that to have actually been the case, unless it was somewhat or just part of it.
To be honest, I am afraid I might've spooked her and her friends without intending to, by what you just described above. I'll tell you, it was probably 50% a coincidence and 50% I moved because of her. I did get a lot of job offers there that I did not get in other towns that seemed like great offers. However, I did kind of intentionally look there for more offers when I remembered that she lived there. Before, I moved, I told her, Sarah, and Mike that I got a new job here and that is basically why I am moving. However, after I moved, I started to open up more honestly, and say that it wasn't only the job, but also because of connections with Elizabeth and Sarah and I was looking for a new friend group and thought they'd be great people. I think I might've made it sound like they led me on to move when I told them and other people. They did talk about excitement to see me, but I wouldn't say they "LED ME ON" like that, but I might've made it sound that way with the way I told people. I think I admitted to Elizabeth that she was one of the reasons that I moved and she was like: "Aww, that is so sweet." However, I know some girls might say that phrase when they might feel a little weirded out by a situation. And people were starting to find out more and more that I had high hopes and expectations of being part of the ministry, especially Mike. Mike originally thought I moved for just a job, but after everything that happened, he appears to be learning more that I moved because of the ministry with the expectation of being able to join it. Do you think that can definitely spook people? I know it is likely very unusual. I'm afraid that in itself kind of spooked Elizabeth, and probably more so her friends in that ministry.
Not to mention, this kind of behavior is very normal for me personally to move or relocate because I want to make friends with someone specific or develop closer relationships with people I met once. This is NOT the first time I have done something like this, and I even do it for platonic reasons and NOT only if I have romantic feelings. That being said, I do think it's very unusual, and those others didn't know me well to know that this is a very common practice for me.
You're underestimating how creepy men can be with women and how common it is for men to be a real threat to women. For women, it is better to play it safe as soon as red flags pop up.
By blocking you on Spotify, she is setting a boundary. I think you should leave her alone.
While it is common for close friends to move closer to each other, it's unusual for people to move closer to people they don't know well. That freaks people out.
I know you didn't mean to be threatening or weird and that you were hoping to make deeper friendships with people you felt a connection with. It's unfortunate it turned out this way, and I'm sorry you are going through this.