Duvessa
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- MBTI
- Infj
No. They are so egoistic they cannot see true reactions from those around them.
They only see what they want to see.
My Mom was a Narcissist. One time I sat and had a conversation with my therapist counselor about Narcissism and the mental disorder in general. He told me that is one of a handful of disorders considered by Psychologists and Licensed Professional Counselors as Untreatable. He said the Narcissist will not take responsibility for their hurtful or harmful actions and push it all off on others.
From what I've seen even though I forgave my Mom towards the end of her life and had good "person to person" talks with her....she never forgave anyone whom she thought had done her wrong....which was every one. She never changed. She was a queen...and by god you better treat her like one or she shut you out. The only people around her - other than my sister and myself - were ones who needed her money. She died a miserable death - in pain both mentally and physically - and friendless.
I'm 60 yo...and that's one of the saddest lives I've ever seen.
With my mom getting older, I feared the exact situation you described. I know I will never see any change in her attitudes and I think that caring for her will be a difficult process, with so many unresolved questions and perhaps lingering resentment for the hurt she has caused myself and my siblings.
From what I have seen narcissists definitely have a combination of the worst traits: inflated ego/importance, complete lack of self awareness, paranoia (assume the worst about other people), especially if it elevates them above the other. They place themselves on a pedestal and ignore their wrongdoings relentlessly which is very frustrating for those of us who are real introspects and love to grow.
At this stage in my life, past the hurt and longing for normality, I find it really sad, for them really. As I can see the relationships they have destroyed and wonder what kind of life they will/did look back on later. As someone who would take pride in being a parent, I can say I see their lives as the greatest of failures. How do they see theirs..., I've always been curious.