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The bolded in your comment illustrates perfectly WHY any INFJ would be happy to be your friend. That's genuinely lovely. I think what I've discovered through being married to a wonderful ENFP is that being truly understood as if from within may be impossible in the deepest sense, that is an existential problem one has to just deal with, but being seen and appreciated is absolutely vital and I think few really do that. In my experience there is a mutual appreciation if a relationship forms. I think, perhaps there are other problems when it comes to intimate relationships...for me the way Ni kind of synthesizes info in a relationship setting is at some point there is enough to kind of in a seemingly "magic eightball" way to come to a "Yes" or a "No" wether it will work. It's hard to articulate and seems absolutely unfair but as one only has (around these parts) one life partner ideally it's somewhat exclusive, despite the appreciation. It's not as personal as it seems, it's not a judgement on the people in the relationship, but on the viability of the whole shebang.Hello, know what...i am dying to meet other INFJs out there. I don't know but as an enfp, they just interest me so much. I know i sound kind of selfish but it makes me happy to meet these people who takes care of other's secretly despite the fact they themselves need to be taken care of and be understood. See they're heroes. They are unsung heroes. They listen to you all the time yet most of us misinterpret them as snub or selfish or some kind of stuff but inside them they're struggling too We're glad to have them because they take care of us, but if they have their problems shared, they share it to a few and they even have to muster enough energy to tell it and most of us find them eccentric, so they just withdraw... They just can't help themselves to help others. These people aren't show off. I just can't understand why when i am with my infj friend, it's like I could stay awake all day wanting to listen to him and be with him and listen to what he says and there's no dull moments, eventhough sometimes or most of the times i dominate our talk, i always look forward to what he must say, because i know it's full of sense and meaning to him. For with the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh.. The only problem when im with him is myself, i see myself unworthy of all his time. I say things sometimes that hurt him or my intuition that is always expressed outwardly hurts him and i am afraid to so i try to keep out of him. I don't want him to be labeled as something because of me. I don't know but i feel as if he's mad at me because yes, he likes enfps but i feel that on his mind, he doesn't like me...there are even certain actions that he wants me to stop. I was hurt but nvm, it's what he wants..
JUST saying that for an ENFP like me, truly, INFJs are great, deep and intersting persons, i just don't know with the INFJ's view on ENFPs like us. I have read many posts and forums that INFJs despises ENFPs when they cross limits. And that when an infj dates an enfp, when they get home, the enfp lists of all the reasons why this relatonship can succeed, on the other hand, the infj thinks on the reasons why this relationship can't continue. I don't know, i tink it just depends on the situation. But as enfps, we are sensitive and jealous sometimes, irrational also, we want attention especially from infjs but sometimes infjs need a break and needs space, talks with other types, disregarding us, with or without knowledge that they're hurting us in a way, but as for me, i understand this trait of infj. It is what they want ...and all i see here is that we just have to respect each other even when it hurts.
I can say that for me the Ne+ aux Fi is wonderful and refreshing to be around. There are shared values and an all the N dom delight of being able to let your hair down.