family members who are everything the INFJ despises

[Beneath the surface]

Same, all my family gives me problems, I'm sort of like the weird oddball who is always getting criticize because of my personality

Me too. I always get told to be 'more social/more outspoken' and to speak up and not to be so quiet, and my older sister, who I admit to not taking a liking to, (rather mockingly) asks why I am so quiet. Perhaps they have a valid point and I'm just being extremely sensitive (something that I can't really help), but I have always been softly-spoken and extremely introverted, and it hurts me that they can't just accept that's the way I am.

...and yes, both my mum and sister annoy me for the reasons mentioned in the opening post and more- arrogance, lack of consideration for others, lack of empathy, shallowness, emphasis on appearance.....etc. Basically everything I despise in a person.