Agapooka
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I was teased a lot in school.
I think that kids don't ask themselves what they are doing and why. It doesn't occur to them.
I'm curious as to how they would respond if they actually felt challenged to respond to some questions.
Sometimes children suffer in silence, because they are afraid that talking is either weak (more of a reason to get teased) or that the bully will find out (they will get a beating). They need to be given the assurance that:
1. There is someone with whom they can talk.
2. Talking to someone will not result in either of the above consequences.
The conditions that would make this capable would be:
1. The existence of someone they can look up to, whom they can see as an ally. (kids normally achieve this goal by reaching out towards other kids, making groups of friends or befriending "stronger" kids) Perhaps older kids can be taught to mentor younger kids?
2. Understanding that they are not the only ones who experience/have experienced this.
etc.
And there is quite a bit more than I could say, because this issue involves so many people (e.g. students, parents, teachers) and within these categories, there are subgroups and interpersonal interactions... not my forte, so I'll leave the ball to someone else.
Agapooka
I think that kids don't ask themselves what they are doing and why. It doesn't occur to them.
I'm curious as to how they would respond if they actually felt challenged to respond to some questions.
Sometimes children suffer in silence, because they are afraid that talking is either weak (more of a reason to get teased) or that the bully will find out (they will get a beating). They need to be given the assurance that:
1. There is someone with whom they can talk.
2. Talking to someone will not result in either of the above consequences.
The conditions that would make this capable would be:
1. The existence of someone they can look up to, whom they can see as an ally. (kids normally achieve this goal by reaching out towards other kids, making groups of friends or befriending "stronger" kids) Perhaps older kids can be taught to mentor younger kids?
2. Understanding that they are not the only ones who experience/have experienced this.
etc.
And there is quite a bit more than I could say, because this issue involves so many people (e.g. students, parents, teachers) and within these categories, there are subgroups and interpersonal interactions... not my forte, so I'll leave the ball to someone else.
Agapooka
