just me
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It's been my experience that if you can't agree on the key definition in a premise you just and up arguing about to different things. And making false assumptions about what the person was talking about.
You sound experienced. I am not. I simply do not discuss these things readily anywhere but my keyboard and that is limited to here and maybe a there or two.
I have found I could learn more here than a lot of classes could teach with just basic communication. I am not here to argue. Never been in an actual live debate before, either, that I can remember.
I have also learned there is an art to debate unlike I ever thought of. There seem to be many ways of leading, distracting, confusing, belittling, and the sort that have an impact on a debate. To just me, the point of a debate is not to win but to better understand. I dislike hearing who won, but that seems to be the ways of the world nowadays. Ex:
Two men running for public office on TV are having a debate. I do not look for a winner; I rather look at techniques, styles, politeness or dastardliness, concern, truth to the way I understand it to be regarding the issues, and in the end I judge which of the two I would rather sit in a conversation with someone like Putin discussing things for our government.
I allowed a friend to hire a girl many years ago. He chose one. I asked what he based his decision on. His answer? She had a pretty smile. I was the one had to fire her one day.
I have learned another thing here about debate: almost what type responses to expect from different types out there. What seemed to bother me at first I now look forward to, and what seemed to make me grit my teeth I now read with a smile. All these interactions are helping me to learn about people in general, as life has been a teacher of sorts. I see new young folk coming up in my industry and they act specific ways I can spot miles away, as I have seen that many times before only in much more dastardly ways. I shake my head sometimes at other people's actions, as I have bought the t-shirt many miles ago. I am learning about debate now. It is interesting, but(debate is) not for me. I interact for the learning and challenge, but it is more of a personal challenge for me than it is most likely for most out there. I have gotten to where I do enjoy watching a debate when it is about something that doesn't test me.
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