TL;DR Are you the type of person that likes to receive warm affection from your loved ones when you're feeling sad or distressed? Or are you more the type of person that likes to withdraw and into your shell?
Personally, I've always had trouble getting comforted because I like being the pillar of strength while the situation is still going on. I go into Ti-mode(sort of speak) and begin analyzing all the solutions to the current situation. I withdraw to my room and don't let anyone know what's going inside my head. I want to be the problem-solver not wallowing into sadness. Of course, that's not always optimal because people need the human connection and warm touch to let you know that everything is going to be fine etc but letting myself get vulnerable after the fact has always been my Achilles's heel. Not to say that I don't appreciate it, but it's sometimes difficult to just let go.
What about you?
Personally, I've always had trouble getting comforted because I like being the pillar of strength while the situation is still going on. I go into Ti-mode(sort of speak) and begin analyzing all the solutions to the current situation. I withdraw to my room and don't let anyone know what's going inside my head. I want to be the problem-solver not wallowing into sadness. Of course, that's not always optimal because people need the human connection and warm touch to let you know that everything is going to be fine etc but letting myself get vulnerable after the fact has always been my Achilles's heel. Not to say that I don't appreciate it, but it's sometimes difficult to just let go.
What about you?
, because I am not always receptive or appreciative. What's seemingly comforting to one person can feel, inadequate, intrusive or insensitive to someone else. Odd, isn't it? I like venting and having someone there to listen, but I can end up overdoing the venting, and get on someone's nerves. People don't necessarily want to hear a problem talked to death. I don't expect anyone to have answers for me or try to solve my problem. Sometimes, I just want someone to listen and understand, not to do anything. Not expecting agreement, just understanding of what I may be feeling. Just be willing to hear me out because I don't share my stuff with everyone, so if I let it all out, it's because I've been holding it inside to avoid dumping it on other people who definitely don't want to hear it, shouldn't have to deal with it, or who may not really want to listen or understand. In the end, just listen. That's pretty much all I ask. I don't want to be a burden to anyone, but I want to know someone is there who is willing to just let me let it all out sometimes, with no judgment.
