How does love feel?

I'm starting to question the idea that love is ultimately a feeling. Sometimes, it's seem more knowing than feeling. Feelings seems skewed to personal perceptions of the person. When I begin to think outside of myself to consider the person's preferences, likes, and needs, I see the beginnings of real love, not romantic love. When you are willing to put your feelings or thoughts aside, to allow them to express their thoughts or ideas with you, this could be love, although it doesn't have to be. When you're willing to sacrifice your wants to help them, this could be love. Of course, if they're not willing to do the same for you, then love or not, there should be apprehensions.
 
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Rite said:
I'm starting to question the idea that love is ultimately a feeling. Sometimes, it's seem more knowing than feeling
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Right, love is ultimately a knowing. What I described earlier in the thread is the epitome of new love, or puppy love. Somewhere between Philia and Eros.

Love, as it becomes more of a knowing and more of an almost instictive act or behavior toward nurturing and/or developement (see Agape); things can sometimes become scary, if there is fear among one partner it will affect the other. Ultimately a lot of feelings become intertwined, and if one partner is not doing what's best for the both of you you will both feel suffering.


It's easy to see where the whole "two become one" idea came from, not only from the standpoint of child rearing.
 
Wyote said:
Right, love is ultimately a knowing. What I described earlier in the thread is the epitome of new love, or puppy love. Somewhere between Philia and Eros.

Love, as it becomes more of a knowing and more of an almost instictive act or behavior toward nurturing and/or developement (see Agape); things can sometimes become scary, if there is fear among one partner it will affect the other. Ultimately a lot of feelings become intertwined, and if one partner is not doing what's best for the both of you you will both feel suffering.


It's easy to see where the whole "two become one" idea came from, not only from the standpoint of child rearing.
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Agree, it does become more instinctive, where you stop thinking of me vs. you. Instead, you think in terms of us. Not that you don't have your own wants or needs, but you incorporate "us" into the picture. And that nurturing things is quite true.
 
It is VERY important to sort of view the "us" train of thought as a third person in the relationship, because losing your own identity is one of the worst follies.
 
In the beginning it's euphoric. The sense of being accepted for who you are allows you to let down your guard enough to usher in all sorts of gooey feelings. Then as Wyote said,
it becomes more of a knowing and more of an almost instictive act or behavior toward nurturing and/or developement (see Agape)....
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If you are a person that strives to evolve or change this will impact the dynamic of your relationship. Some people fear that change and thus unconsciously try to stifle growth. The thing is, by doing this, they are limiting themselves to what can be rekindled from the past. Which is a shame because there is nothing like experiencing all those gooey feelings, all over again, for someone you have been actively supporting while they have changed and matured.
 
I've been trying to reply to this thread since I first saw it. . but there is too much to say. . until it hit me. . .
. . . . .twinkley
 
Love is one of the most beautiful things in the world. Words can't even begin to describe it, but I suppose I can begin to try.

Love is like being lit on fire without being burnt.

You can trip over love and get up. But fall in love, and you fall forever. (quote by ???)

Sorry, too cheesy??
 
Its like feeling death for the first time and knowing it has to be.
 
It feels like putting on clothes that were just pulled from the dryer.
 
Haven said:
Its like feeling death for the first time and knowing it has to be.
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I like the death reference....

I would go with scary and disruptive

Not in a really bad way but it isn't all roses and freaking lollipops
 
Feels like you're stronger.. because you have someone's love who will protect you, cherish you, and adore you. Even if you're apart, you are filled with inner warmth, because you know you have someone special thinking of you incessantly. You feel invincible.
 
Rite said:
I'm starting to question the idea that love is ultimately a feeling. Sometimes, it's seem more knowing than feeling...
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Words, words, words. Knowing or feeling or...whatever, it doesn't matter. Whatever it is, though, it sure knocks you for a loop. It certainly disrupted my life in the beginning. But, it soon became the ultimate comfort and meaning in life. Those who can't love have empty lives.
 
still haven't had the chance to experience it, whatever it is. And the reason why is because it's been too easy to confuse love with infatuation. Love has to involve action and goes beyond whether you like the person or what they can do for you. It involves a level of selflessness which you don't feel for anyone else. And you can't simply transfer those feelings to someone else. And I think it's something you have with the person, not for them. I honestly, can't any longer see defining love as one-sided. It has to be mutual. And I would describe less as a feeling than a unique experience you share with someone, sometimes without reservation. It's scary because we can't believe we found something so calming or satisfying or all encompassing. It's surprising because it's unexpected how whole it makes you feel. In some cases, you feel unworthy of it because it's more than you imagined.
 
Rite said:
still haven't had the chance to experience it, whatever it is. And the reason why is because it's been too easy to confuse love with infatuation. Love has to involve action and goes beyond whether you like the person or what they can do for you. It involves a level of selflessness which you don't feel for anyone else. And you can't simply transfer those feelings to someone else. And I think it's something you have with the person, not for them. I honestly, can't any longer see defining love as one-sided. It has to be mutual. And I would describe less as a feeling than a unique experience you share with someone, sometimes without reservation. It's scary because we can't believe we found something so calming or satisfying or all encompassing. It's surprising because it's unexpected how whole it makes you feel. In some cases, you feel unworthy of it because it's more than you imagined.
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and more than I deserve. .as it seemingly comes out of no where. .
 
It's distracting. Somehow everything, no matter how unrelated, somehow reminds you of her - and when you think of her explicitly, or worse, when you actually see her, you get a shot of good adrenaline and feel totally transported into a different, more alive state.
 
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