No failure, a learning expierence.
Firstly, we don't. We keep trying to find the way to a solution of a problem that is not our own. Accepting that though we deeply want to, we cannot fix another person. Accepting that we understand, love and care deeply for them, and take responsibility for our part in the ending of the relationship, we let go in love...it is because we love them that we cut ties in hopes that they find their way to what or who will provide the path to happiness. We enter relationships in love, and we all should learn to exit them in in the same manner. With this it means truely letting go. No going back to peek into their life and check to see if they are doing OK without us.
Secondly, accepting that it is healthy to put ourself first. Ocassionally we have to pour all the Fe into ourself to regain a sense of balance so as not to fill up the cup of resentment and anger that comes with giving too much. Instead, we give to ourself the things we would offer another, and we become stronger for it. In this new power of strength we are able to share with the other and not empty our cup of love and compassion. Thus, we are able to love in a more healthy way for all involved.
