how were you as a child?

[anica]

how where you as a child?

I wasn't surprised to see I had characteristics of both IFP and IFJ as a child, but I was surprised to see I had far more IFP characteristics. I don't know why I was so surprised; I flip-flop between INFJ and INFP all the time, though I consistently score as an INFJ.

As a child--and this has carried over into adulthood--I lived almost totally in my imagination. I was quite solitary and had numerous accidents (fortunately none serious) because I was living out some story in my head while my body was trying to cope with obstacles in the real world.

 

[arbygil]

I'm going to use another member (Indy's) similar way of cataloging. Red was not me; orange was a bit me, and green was very much me.

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INJ Traits

They have vivid imaginations

They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?" (Mom would always take me to the library, she said, because I'd ask a lot of questions. They always said, "look it up in the dictionary" or "look it up in the encyclopedia."
They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups
They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality
They enjoy art and music
They love books, and especially enjoy fiction
They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation
They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings
They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events
They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports
They are perfectionists
They're serious and intense
They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends
They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness (I didn't know how valued I truly was).
They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them

Potential Strengths

They're usually very intelligent (I would learn and teach myself, but my intelligence was never measured).
They can grasp the big picture easily (I remember understanding 2001: A Space Odyssey and explaining it to my Aunt and Mom when I was 12. I guess I "got" things.
They can see any far-reaching consequences of their actions Sometimes. Sometimes I did dumb things just to see what would happen.
They're very resourceful
They are extremely creative and imaginative
They easily come up with good ideas
They're usually well-liked by their peers
They will completely master a subject that interests them
Their desire to be in control of themselves makes them take responsibility for their actions
They are usually confident in their ideas, and know instinctively when they are right about something I don't remember being confident at *all.*

Potential Weaknesses

They have short attention spans Not really. I remember being overly patient at times, but I did daydream more than my fair share. But I usually paid attention. I just got bored and disappeared in my mind a lot.
They get bored easily with details or routine tasks
They won't put any effort into doing something that doesn't interest them

They frequently don't hear people No. I always heard everything and responded instantly to those I knew.
Once they have made up their mind about something, they can be very stubborn about it I wasn't that stubborn. But I remember asking, "are you sure?" a lot. I'd trust people if they said they were sure, but there was always a small kernel of doubt if I thought I was right.
They ignore details Sort of. I was always usually polite about it, though. I was far worse about it in high school.
They are unsettled by change, and don't usually adapt well to new situations HAAAATED change. HATED IT.
They're uncomfortable and somewhat overwhelmed by large groups Sometimes. I did a lot of performing with my father when I was little, so I got used to large groups.
They are rather unaware of their environment, and seem "out of it" Maybe, but only when I was playing. If anything, sometimes I was hyper-aware.
They are rather self-centered, and may be unaware of how their actions or words affect others When I was with my father, every once in a while. With my mother, absolutely not. She wouldn't stand for it. The incidents where I did this stand out in my mind, and I'm embarrassed by my horrible behavior.
They can be controlling and bossy I can't remember any time I was.
Although they come up with ideas easily, they don't do as well implementing their ideas

 

[That Girl]

::glides out of closet with creepy John Lovitz-esque smile plastered on face:: Mwahahah!

In all actuality, I was probably a born extrovert but became an introvert to cope with trauma at a young age.. something like that.

I'm probably an introverted extrovert. Now I'm just saying words!!

I actually think that I changed in a similar way. Once I hit my head/my parents got a divorce I became a very different child.

 

[Jonathan]

Wow. This really described me as a child. I can't believe that there were other kids that had these similarities to me! None of these don't apply, so...

Blue describes me perfectly
Orange is extremely close, but varied depending on the situation.
INJ Traits

1. They have vivid imaginations
2. They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"
3. They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups
4. They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality
5. They enjoy art and music
6. They love books, and especially enjoy fiction (I liked non fiction just as much)
7. They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation
8. They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings
9. They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events
10. They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports (I generally avoided sports altogether, but liked bowling, mini golf and bocce ball; all individual "sports".)
11. They are perfectionists
12. They're serious and intense (I was more serious than almost everyone I knew, but could be pretty silly a lot of the time)
13. They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends
14. They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness
15. They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them

Potential Strengths

1. They're usually very intelligent
2. They can grasp the big picture easily (Sometimes I needed some guidance in that area)
3. They can see any far-reaching consequences of their actions
4. They're very resourceful
5. They are extremely creative and imaginative
6. They easily come up with good ideas
7. They're usually well-liked by their peers (Kids in my own grade hated me, but since I came up with the 'cool new' schoolyard games, the younger kids loved me.)
8. They will completely master a subject that interests them
9. Their desire to be in control of themselves makes them take responsibility for their actions
10. They are usually confident in their ideas, and know instinctively when they are right about something

Potential Weaknesses

1. They have short attention spans
2. They get bored easily with details or routine tasks
3. They won't put any effort into doing something that doesn't interest them
4. They frequently don't hear people
5. Once they have made up their mind about something, they can be very stubborn about it
6. They ignore details
7. They are unsettled by change, and don't usually adapt well to new situations
8. They're uncomfortable and somewhat overwhelmed by large groups
9. They are rather unaware of their environment, and seem "out of it"
10. They are rather self-centered, and may be unaware of how their actions or words affect others
11. They can be controlling and bossy
12. Although they come up with ideas easily, they don't do as well implementing their ideas

Other comments...
LEARNING STYLE
No teacher in public school ever understood how to deal with my personality. I was homeschooled until Grade 3, and skipped grade 2 because, since my grandmother was my teacher, she understood my learning stlye and adapted the cirriculum to fit my interests. That allowed me to learn some subjects at a high school level when I was only 6 years old. Anyway, after I started public school, I was always daydreaming or completely tuned out, so teachers would constantly be nagging me to listen. I always wanted to be able to do things my own way, and got frustrated if I had to do a project I already knew everything about. I ended up getting my own desk in Grade 3, which was nice, but a bit embarassing. Even through high school I hated group work, for a variety of reasons.

SPECIAL NEEDS
One of the needs they mentioned was alone time. The sad fact is, I'm the oldest of 4 kids in a small house, so I virtually never had alone time, or even my own room! This led to me being generally grumpy and tired out at home, and then stressed out about school. No doubt I had headaches a lot!
I also related to the fact that INJs tend to become more social after the preteen years, which was true for me.

Very interesting! I never knew that type was different for children in that way.

 

[Afrelen]

INJ Traits

1. 
   [*] They have vivid imaginations
   [*] They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"
   [*] They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups
   [*] They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality
   [*] They enjoy art and music
   [*] They love books, and especially enjoy fiction
   [*] They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation
   [*] They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings
   [*] They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events
   [*] They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports
   [*] They are perfectionists
   [*] They're serious and intense
   [*] They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends
   [*] They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness
   [*] They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them

Items in Bold are things I've been told describe me as a child and coincide with things I can remember being. Items in Italics are things that are still pretty much accurate descriptors of my behavior now.

I generally found the INJ description to get me down to the fine details. Very interesting.

 

[dark_angel]

INJ for sure - great thread - thanks Morgain!

INJ Traits

1. They have vivid imaginations
2. They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"
3. They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups
4. They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality
5. They enjoy art and music
6. They love books, and especially enjoy fiction
7. They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation
8. They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings
9. They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events
10. They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports
11. They are perfectionists this is was funny as a kid as it was so obvious: my sister and I shared a room and my side was always neat and orderly and hers chaotic
12. They're serious and intense
13. They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends yes, still to this day
14. They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness
15. They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them

Potential Strengths

1. They're usually very intelligent wish I had applied myself more though
2. They can grasp the big picture easily
3. They can see any far-reaching consequences of their actions
4. They're very resourceful
5. They are extremely creative and imaginative
6. They easily come up with good ideas
7. They're usually well-liked by their peers sometimes it worked against me though where I appeared intimidating or threatening or just too odd to others so I retreated further especially when I could not explain myself properly
8. They will completely master a subject that interests them I tended to ask all those stupid questions (when I wasn't too withdrawn) and still do it today, at first I come across as a total idiot but then with time I can make leaps of understanding, solutions etc which I just love
9. Their desire to be in control of themselves makes them take responsibility for their actions
10. They are usually confident in their ideas, and know instinctively when they are right about something

Potential Weaknesses

1. They have short attention spans yes, my mind loves to play as I call it
2. They get bored easily with details or routine tasks still to this day
3. They won't put any effort into doing something that doesn't interest them interest in helping others figure themselves out or just helping them see the bigger picture is enough interest to put effort in for me
4. They frequently don't hear people oh yes, still today
5. Once they have made up their mind about something, they can be very stubborn about it yes I have been called a stubborn ass many a times
6. They ignore details once you see the bigger picture the details become mundane
7. They are unsettled by change, and don't usually adapt well to new situations this I have worked very hard on as my childhood was filled with change so it was either learn to swim or drown (swimming pretty nicely these days on that one)
8. They're uncomfortable and somewhat overwhelmed by large groups yes to this day
9. They are rather unaware of their environment, and seem "out of it" yes I have to force an extroverted self in some instances nowadays to avoid the whole odd ball effect
10. They are rather self-centered, and may be unaware of how their actions or words affect others becoming an F changed that for me and with my experiences I became more and more aware of my demeanour and how it affects others.
11. They can be controlling and bossy yes I hate that trait, still working on it
12. Although they come up with ideas easily, they don't do as well implementing their ideas working on this one still

 

[Matariki]

ENP Traits - Everything in Bold was like me as a child.

1. They have a lot of energy (I took part in different sports as a kid, mainly netball and figure skating)
   
2. They're curious about everything, and seem to be always asking "Why?"
3. They have lots of ideas and love to talk about them
4. They always have several projects going on
5. They want to be original and interesting
6. They like to be leaders, and resist following
7. They're very social (Social but I didn't have many friends, I was a bully victim during my time at school)
   
8. They're very independent, and want to do things for themselves
9. They want to be the center of attention
10. They probably tend to be dramatic, and enjoy acting or performing (Music and preformance was large part of my childhood)
    
11. They're outspoken and energetic, and may interrupt frequently, or finish people's sentences for them

Potential Strengths

1. They're usually cheerful, optimistic, and fun to be around
2. They're enthusiastic and fearless
3. They believe that anything is possible
4. They have very good communication skills and a strong ability to persuade others to come around to their point of view
5. They usually have a good vocabulary, and can express themselves well in written and verbal form
6. They're very clever
7. They show an unusual understanding of people and situations for a child
8. They have good people skills and are usually well-liked
9. They naturally see the possibilities of a situation and the "big picture"

Potential Weaknesses

1. They frequently forget rules, or else they never knew them in the first place
2. They have a lot of projects going on at one time, and may be scattered
3. They frequently don't finish their projects
4. They're usually very messy, and dislike cleaning up
5. They tend to speak in a very loud voice without realizing it
6. They have difficulty making decisions, and often resist decisions
7. They are often unaware of their physical environment
8. They may not take good care of themselves
9. They're not usually very aware of time or schedules
10. They don't like being controlled by others, and may be rebellious (This was a problem for me at school, I was often bullied by tutors and other students. Eventually I was removed from the public school system)
    
11. They dislike being asked to do anything, and will often act very "put upon" by any request

ENP Learning Style

ENPs like to be busy and active, and need a lot of stimulation to keep from getting bored. They find tasks that require rote memorization intensely boring. They also don't do well with following pre-defined steps that someone else has come up with. ENPs like to be involved in their projects. They will only put effort into things that they are very interested in doing, which typically means that they need to have come up with the idea or contributed to it somehow. Alternatively, they can be motivated to participate in projects if someone else has really sold them on the idea, and thus inspired them to be interested in the project. ENPs are distracted easily from the task at hand, and need to really develop their ability to focus in on what they're doing and close out environmental distractions. This is an acquired skill for ENPs. This does not mean that the ENP should be put in a room by themselves to work on their assignments. This would actually be detrimental to the ENP. They work best with others, and around others. They should be encouraged to work on their projects in the presence of others, but to remain focused on what they're doing.
ENPs have trouble finishing projects that they have begun. This is partially due to the fact that they are easily distracted environmentally, but also due to the fact that they quickly lose interest in their projects once they are past the planning phase. ENPs love to come up with interesting ideas and things to do, but find the process of actually implementing their plans to be tedious. ENPs will not finish all of their projects, and this should be understood, but the ENP should be encouraged to complete some projects all the way through to the end. This is an important step for the ENP, who needs to learn the value of following through.
The most valuable thing that can be taught to an ENP is the concept of narrowing their focus. The ENP has many ideas going on at once in their head, and believes that they can do everything. They are not realistic in their scope. They should be told repeatedly "pick one thing and do it well". The adult who is able to impress this upon the young ENP will be giving them a tremendous gift.
ENPs are not very concerned with their grades, or with doing their homework. They will resist doing assignments that they find tedious. They are far more interested in understanding the theory behind a problem than they are in actually doing the problem. They learn best by theory rather than by example. They need to understand the theory before they can do anything. Teachers should communicate the theory behind the practical application in order to get through to the ENP.
Let's use division as an example. Some children learn how to divide numbers best by doing it over and over again. They learn by example and repetition. Once they have done a lot of different division problems, they understand how it works and are comfortable with dividing numbers. ENPs learn division best by understanding the concepting of dividing a whole number into smaller parts. They see a circle with a line drawn down the middle, and understand that the whole has been cut in half, or "divided" in half. Once they understand the theory, they can apply this to their division problems and they are comfortable with dividing numbers.
ENPs are goal-oriented, and do well when given the goal and left alone to achieve it in their own way. They don't like being told explicitly how to do things. They value their own ideas and competence, and treat explicit instructions almost as an insult to their intelligence. They want to be given a goal and a general theory, and use their own resources to fill in the blanks.

 

[Morgain]

I asked my mother whether I was more like an INJ than an INP. She answered no to almost all INJ treads and yes to almost all INP treads INP it is ))

 

[jimtaylor]

INJ Traits

1. They have vivid imaginations
2. They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"
3. They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups
4. They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality
5. They enjoy art and music
6. They love books, and especially enjoy fiction
7. They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation
8. They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings
9. They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events
10. They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports
11. They are perfectionists
12. They're serious and intense
13. They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends
14. They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness
15. They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them

Potential Strengths

1. They're usually very intelligent
2. They can grasp the big picture easily
3. They can see any far-reaching consequences of their actions
4. They're very resourceful
5. They are extremely creative and imaginative
6. They easily come up with good ideas
7. They're usually well-liked by their peers
8. They will completely master a subject that interests them
9. Their desire to be in control of themselves makes them take responsibility for their actions
10. They are usually confident in their ideas, and know instinctively when they are right about something

Potential Weaknesses

1. They have short attention spans
2. They get bored easily with details or routine tasks
3. They won't put any effort into doing something that doesn't interest them
4. They frequently don't hear people
5. Once they have made up their mind about something, they can be very stubborn about it
6. They ignore details
7. They are unsettled by change, and don't usually adapt well to new situations
8. They're uncomfortable and somewhat overwhelmed by large groups
9. They are rather unaware of their environment, and seem "out of it"
10. They are rather self-centered, and may be unaware of how their actions or words affect others
11. They can be controlling and bossy
12. Although they come up with ideas easily, they don't do as well implementing their ideas

INJ Learning Style

INJs are extremely curious and intellectual children who need a wide variety of mental stimulation. When they are interested in a subject, they will naturally want to know everything about it. Teachers should be prepared to point INJ children towards sources where they can learn more about the subject.

INJ children don't do well with tasks that require following prescribed steps in a plan or rote memorization. They find these kinds of things extremely boring, and they will resist doing them. They also don't like to do things repetitively. Once they have done something once, they are done with it and want to move on to the next thing. To keep things interesting for the INJ, teachers should give them the basic theory and the desired outcome, and let them figure out how to get there on their own.
Teachers should realize the INJ's weakness of not always being aware of their environment, and recognize that if an INJ didn't hear the teacher, it doesn't necessarily mean that they weren't listening. Sometimes the INJ's private world overtakes the INJ to the point that they completely tune out their environment. As much patience as possible should be shown with this characteristic. INJs will develop some control over this as they grow older.
INJs love to come up with ideas, and naturally want to put their ideas into some kind of structure or plan. They want to do this on their own, with little or no direction. They highly prize their ideas and their competence at performing their projects, and are threatened by someone giving them too much direction. This is almost an insult to the INJ, who bases a great deal of their self-esteem on their independence.
INJs thrive doing independent projects that require creativity, such as science projects or writing projects. They will probably not enjoy group projects as much, although they are likely to be fine working with one partner on a project.
Answer the INJ's many questions as thoroughly as possible. If you don't know the answer to a question, be honest and tell them that you don't know. Offer possible avenues for discovering the answer, such as library research.
Present the rules and expectations clearly and consistently. INJs naturally crave structure and order. Although they don't want to be told exactly how to do something, they need to understand any rules clearly. INJ Special Needs

INJ children need a good amount of time alone. They get most of their energy from within themselves and their rich imaginations, so they need adequate time alone to recharge their batteries. After a long day of school, the INJ may head to their room to spend some time alone. Respect this need of your child's, and understand that once they have spent time alone they will be ready to interact with you. Don't push them to be around yourself or others until they have spent some quality alone time. An INJ who doesn't get the chance to spend any time alone will be irritable, cranky and tired.

INJs who have made up their minds about something can be quite stubborn and unwilling to compromise. When faced with an INJ who has "dug in their heels" about something, take some time to present them with clear and valid alternatives to their way of thinking. This will help the INJ to not become overly rigid, pompous and unbending in their views.
Socially, pre-teen INJ's are usually fairly reserved and may be intimidated by large numbers of people. They like to watch for awhile before participating. It's best not to push the INJ to interact socially before they are ready. Allow them to watch first, and jump in when they want to. If you are a very extraverted or gregarious adult, don't expect the same behavior your INJ child. INJs usually prefer to interact with one person at a time, and enjoy having a couple of close friends rather than a number of acquaintances. As the INJ gets a bit older, he or she will probably become more social. In the meantime, understand that your child is probably uncomfortable with large groups of people, and don't make them feel guilty for that fear. If your child is afraid of walking into large social situations alone, you might arrange to walk in with your child, or have your child go to the event with a friend.
Too many suggestions or feedback on a project while it is still going on may interfere with the INJ's creative energy. Much of the interest in actually doing the project comes from the INJ's drive to prove their inner visions and independence. Any "interference" from the external world will confuse the INJ, and it may cause them to doubt themselves or their idea. In any event, it will usually cause them to lose interest in the project and abandon it. It's probably best to wait until an INJ's project is finished before commenting. Talk through their ideas with them one-on-one. This will help the INJ to put their ideas into context within the external world. The INJ doesn't naturally have a high awareness of how their intensely personal visions fit into the world. Getting them into the habit of talking through their ideas while they are young will help them develop the ability to apply their ideas realistically and effectively.

 

[jimtaylor]

I feel INJ type fits me the best. I was a happy child. I could be serious but I also liked to smile a lot and be a goof. However whenever I got focused on something like drawing, painting, building something, or writing, I would just go into my own little world and be pretty oblivious to everything else. I was always very imaginative and could be distant at times. I hated large groups of people and standing up in front of the class but I loved interactive with smaller groups. I was a smart kid too but I could care less about grades and such. I just did what I wanted but still all the teachers said I was a smart, sweat child who always so willing to help but just doesn't apply himself to getting the homework done. ahah also I had a really bad temper. I got in a lot of fights in my earlier years and it wasn't for any reason either. Kids didn't pick on me, I was liked by most of my piers, I just got annoyed quickly and had little patience for other people at times.

 

[whytiger]

INJ Traits

They have vivid imaginations
They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"
They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups
They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality
They enjoy art and music
They love books, and especially enjoy fiction
They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation
They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings
They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events
They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports
They are perfectionists
They're serious and intense
They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends
They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness
They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them


Potential Strengths

They're usually very intelligent
They can grasp the big picture easily
They can see any far-reaching consequences of their actions
They're very resourceful
They are extremely creative and imaginative
They easily come up with good ideas
They're usually well-liked by their peers
They will completely master a subject that interests them
Their desire to be in control of themselves makes them take responsibility for their actions
They are usually confident in their ideas, and know instinctively when they are right about something

Potential Weaknesses

They have short attention spans
They get bored easily with details or routine tasks
They won't put any effort into doing something that doesn't interest them
They frequently don't hear people
Once they have made up their mind about something, they can be very stubborn about it
They ignore details
They are unsettled by change, and don't usually adapt well to new situations
They're uncomfortable and somewhat overwhelmed by large groups
They are rather unaware of their environment, and seem "out of it"
They are rather self-centered, and may be unaware of how their actions or words affect others
They can be controlling and bossy
Although they come up with ideas easily, they don't do as well implementing their ideas

--Most of the INJ traits fit me well.

ITP Traits

Logical and objective
Tend to be adventurous, and enjoy taking physical risks
They're original and value their uniqueness
They're highly independent, and don't like being told what to do
They have no interest in controlling or leading others, or telling them what to do
Quiet and serious
Honest and direct
They're very observant
Curious and interested in learning new things
Quick to learn new things
Not overly affectionate or demonstrative of their love
They enjoy books
They have a tendency to be loners, and may have one or two friends, rather than lots of acquaintances
They're very easy-going and undemanding
Often prefer to work alone rather than in groups
They want to be good at things that interest them, and they apply their own standards rather than trying to impress anyone else
They get bored easily
They value precision in communication, and are irritated by exaggerations and half-truths

Potential Strengths

When interested in something, they exhibit extreme competence and will master it completely
They're flexible and can adapt well to new situations
Laid-back and easy-going, they're usually easy to get along with
Strong sense of fairness
They're highly observant, and quickly incorporate new data into their thinking
They're usually quite intelligent, and able to do well in higher education
They're quite honest and truthful
They take things seriously, and are seldom frivolous or flighty
They have open and accepting natures, although they're not always interested in people

Potential Weaknesses

They don't have a good sense of time or schedules, and may frequently run late or miss deadlines
They will strongly resist being told what to do, which may present a discipline problem
They do not like to make decisions, and prefer to leave things open until the last possible moment
They will resist doing anything that they don't feel like doing
They're often unaware of how others are feeling, or how their own behavior affects others
They keep their own feelings closely guarded and well-hidden from others, sometimes even from themselves
When stressed out or upset, they may react with extreme emotions that are inappropriate or exaggerated for the situation
Highly objective and detached, they may have difficulty forming close bonds with people
With their risk-taking natures, they might get into some trouble.

--The ITP description fits me less well.

 

[Odyne]

INJ Traits

1. They have vivid imaginations At the age of 12, I would make up stories on the fly and tell them to my sister before bed
2. They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"
3. They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups
4. They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality
5. They enjoy art and music I still have my sketch book from when i was in primary school
6. They love books, and especially enjoy fiction
7. They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation
8. They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings
9. They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events
10. They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports
11. They are perfectionists
12. They're serious and intense
13. They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends
14. They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness
15. They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them

Potential Strengths

1. They're usually very intelligent
2. They can grasp the big picture easily
3. They can see any far-reaching consequences of their actions
4. They're very resourceful
5. They are extremely creative and imaginative
6. They easily come up with good ideas
7. They're usually well-liked by their peers Um. not really, the rest of the girls hated me and bullied me because I was a foreigner, and not one of them, although we were born in the same town...
8. They will completely master a subject that interests them
9. Their desire to be in control of themselves makes them take responsibility for their actions
10. They are usually confident in their ideas, and know instinctively when they are right about something

Potential Weaknesses

1. They have short attention spans still do soemtimes
2. They get bored easily with details or routine tasks
3. They won't put any effort into doing something that doesn't interest them
4. They frequently don't hear people
5. Once they have made up their mind about something, they can be very stubborn about it
6. They ignore details not true, I actually like details very much
7. They are unsettled by change, and don't usually adapt well to new situations Again not true, I've lived in different places and moved from one place to another, I'm very good at adapting
8. They're uncomfortable and somewhat overwhelmed by large groups
9. They are rather unaware of their environment, and seem "out of it"
10. They are rather self-centered, and may be unaware of how their actions or words affect others
11. They can be controlling and bossy Apparently...
12. Although they come up with ideas easily, they don't do as well implementing their ideas very true, I am more of an idea person, I'm good at coming up with ideas.

INJ Learning Style

INJs are extremely curious and intellectual children who need a wide variety of mental stimulation. When they are interested in a subject, they will naturally want to know everything about it. Teachers should be prepared to point INJ children towards sources where they can learn more about the subject.

INJ children don't do well with tasks that require following prescribed steps in a plan or rote memorization. They find these kinds of things extremely boring, and they will resist doing them. They also don't like to do things repetitively. Once they have done something once, they are done with it and want to move on to the next thing. To keep things interesting for the INJ, teachers should give them the basic theory and the desired outcome, and let them figure out how to get there on their own.
Teachers should realize the INJ's weakness of not always being aware of their environment, and recognize that if an INJ didn't hear the teacher, it doesn't necessarily mean that they weren't listening. Sometimes the INJ's private world overtakes the INJ to the point that they completely tune out their environment. As much patience as possible should be shown with this characteristic. INJs will develop some control over this as they grow older.
INJs love to come up with ideas, and naturally want to put their ideas into some kind of structure or plan. They want to do this on their own, with little or no direction. They highly prize their ideas and their competence at performing their projects, and are threatened by someone giving them too much direction. This is almost an insult to the INJ, who bases a great deal of their self-esteem on their independence.
INJs thrive doing independent projects that require creativity, such as science projects or writing projects. They will probably not enjoy group projects as much, although they are likely to be fine working with one partner on a project.
Answer the INJ's many questions as thoroughly as possible. If you don't know the answer to a question, be honest and tell them that you don't know. Offer possible avenues for discovering the answer, such as library research.
Present the rules and expectations clearly and consistently. INJs naturally crave structure and order. Although they don't want to be told exactly how to do something, they need to understand any rules clearly. INJ Special Needs

INJ children need a good amount of time alone. They get most of their energy from within themselves and their rich imaginations, so they need adequate time alone to recharge their batteries. After a long day of school, the INJ may head to their room to spend some time alone. Respect this need of your child's, and understand that once they have spent time alone they will be ready to interact with you. Don't push them to be around yourself or others until they have spent some quality alone time. An INJ who doesn't get the chance to spend any time alone will be irritable, cranky and tired.

INJs who have made up their minds about something can be quite stubborn and unwilling to compromise. When faced with an INJ who has "dug in their heels" about something, take some time to present them with clear and valid alternatives to their way of thinking. This will help the INJ to not become overly rigid, pompous and unbending in their views.
Socially, pre-teen INJ's are usually fairly reserved and may be intimidated by large numbers of people. They like to watch for awhile before participating. It's best not to push the INJ to interact socially before they are ready. Allow them to watch first, and jump in when they want to. If you are a very extraverted or gregarious adult, don't expect the same behavior your INJ child. INJs usually prefer to interact with one person at a time, and enjoy having a couple of close friends rather than a number of acquaintances. As the INJ gets a bit older, he or she will probably become more social. In the meantime, understand that your child is probably uncomfortable with large groups of people, and don't make them feel guilty for that fear. If your child is afraid of walking into large social situations alone, you might arrange to walk in with your child, or have your child go to the event with a friend.
Too many suggestions or feedback on a project while it is still going on may interfere with the INJ's creative energy. Much of the interest in actually doing the project comes from the INJ's drive to prove their inner visions and independence. Any "interference" from the external world will confuse the INJ, and it may cause them to doubt themselves or their idea. In any event, it will usually cause them to lose interest in the project and abandon it. It's probably best to wait until an INJ's project is finished before commenting. Talk through their ideas with them one-on-one. This will help the INJ to put their ideas into context within the external world. The INJ doesn't naturally have a high awareness of how their intensely personal visions fit into the world. Getting them into the habit of talking through their ideas while they are young will help them develop the ability to apply their ideas realistically and effectively.

 

[The Mixed Tape]

INJ Traits

They have vivid imaginations
They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?" - My Mum said I was terrible for this when I was little, I would ask why, then she would answer, and then I would still say but WHY?!
They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups - Wow this is so true!
They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality
They enjoy art and music
They love books, and especially enjoy fiction - In History lessons at school if we are given long bits of text to read it is so dull for me because I hate non-fiction
They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation - People usually force me into the conversation, or I have to get interested before I join in, or I talk too soon and get in a mess by saying something which doesn't make sense.
They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings - Quite a bit, but not totally
They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events
They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports - only because I suck at sports, I hated team sports as I didn't like letting my team down.
They are perfectionists
They're serious and intense
They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends - As much as I like my friends now, I do wish I could have some maturer friends as I'm sick as being the only sensible one.
They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness
They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them

Potential Strengths

They're usually very intelligent
They can grasp the big picture easily
They can see any far-reaching consequences of their actions
They're very resourceful
They are extremely creative and imaginative
They easily come up with good ideas
They're usually well-liked by their peers - Nope, as far as I know anyway
They will completely master a subject that interests them
Their desire to be in control of themselves makes them take responsibility for their actions
They are usually confident in their ideas, and know instinctively when they are right about something

Potential Weaknesses

They have short attention spans
They get bored easily with details or routine tasks
They won't put any effort into doing something that doesn't interest them
They frequently don't hear people
Once they have made up their mind about something, they can be very stubborn about it
They ignore details
They are unsettled by change, and don't usually adapt well to new situations
They're uncomfortable and somewhat overwhelmed by large groups
They are rather unaware of their environment, and seem "out of it"
They are rather self-centered, and may be unaware of how their actions or words affect others
They can be controlling and bossy
Although they come up with ideas easily, they don't do as well implementing their ideas

INJ Learning Style

(bolded important bits)

INJs are extremely curious and intellectual children who need a wide variety of mental stimulation. When they are interested in a subject, they will naturally want to know everything about it. Teachers should be prepared to point INJ children towards sources where they can learn more about the subject.
INJ children don't do well with tasks that require following prescribed steps in a plan or rote memorization. They find these kinds of things extremely boring, and they will resist doing them. They also don't like to do things repetitively. Once they have done something once, they are done with it and want to move on to the next thing. To keep things interesting for the INJ, teachers should give them the basic theory and the desired outcome, and let them figure out how to get there on their own.

Teachers should realize the INJ's weakness of not always being aware of their environment, and recognize that if an INJ didn't hear the teacher, it doesn't necessarily mean that they weren't listening. Sometimes the INJ's private world overtakes the INJ to the point that they completely tune out their environment. As much patience as possible should be shown with this characteristic. INJs will develop some control over this as they grow older.

INJs love to come up with ideas, and naturally want to put their ideas into some kind of structure or plan. They want to do this on their own, with little or no direction. They highly prize their ideas and their competence at performing their projects, and are threatened by someone giving them too much direction. This is almost an insult to the INJ, who bases a great deal of their self-esteem on their independence.

INJs thrive doing independent projects that require creativity, such as science projects or writing projects. They will probably not enjoy group projects as much, although they are likely to be fine working with one partner on a project.

Answer the INJ's many questions as thoroughly as possible. If you don't know the answer to a question, be honest and tell them that you don't know. Offer possible avenues for discovering the answer, such as library research.

Present the rules and expectations clearly and consistently. INJs naturally crave structure and order. Although they don't want to be told exactly how to do something, they need to understand any rules clearly.

INJ Special Needs

INJ children need a good amount of time alone. They get most of their energy from within themselves and their rich imaginations, so they need adequate time alone to recharge their batteries. After a long day of school, the INJ may head to their room to spend some time alone. Respect this need of your child's, and understand that once they have spent time alone they will be ready to interact with you. Don't push them to be around yourself or others until they have spent some quality alone time. An INJ who doesn't get the chance to spend any time alone will be irritable, cranky and tired.
INJs who have made up their minds about something can be quite stubborn and unwilling to compromise. When faced with an INJ who has "dug in their heels" about something, take some time to present them with clear and valid alternatives to their way of thinking. This will help the INJ to not become overly rigid, pompous and unbending in their views.

Socially, pre-teen INJ's are usually fairly reserved and may be intimidated by large numbers of people. They like to watch for awhile before participating. It's best not to push the INJ to interact socially before they are ready. Allow them to watch first, and jump in when they want to. If you are a very extraverted or gregarious adult, don't expect the same behavior your INJ child. INJs usually prefer to interact with one person at a time, and enjoy having a couple of close friends rather than a number of acquaintances. As the INJ gets a bit older, he or she will probably become more social. In the meantime, understand that your child is probably uncomfortable with large groups of people, and don't make them feel guilty for that fear. If your child is afraid of walking into large social situations alone, you might arrange to walk in with your child, or have your child go to the event with a friend.

Too many suggestions or feedback on a project while it is still going on may interfere with the INJ's creative energy. Much of the interest in actually doing the project comes from the INJ's drive to prove their inner visions and independence. Any "interference" from the external world will confuse the INJ, and it may cause them to doubt themselves or their idea. In any event, it will usually cause them to lose interest in the project and abandon it. It's probably best to wait until an INJ's project is finished before commenting.

Talk through their ideas with them one-on-one. This will help the INJ to put their ideas into context within the external world. The INJ doesn't naturally have a high awareness of how their intensely personal visions fit into the world. Getting them into the habit of talking through their ideas while they are young will help them develop the ability to apply their ideas realistically and effectively.

It's like I could have written it myself. There's definitely a lot bolded lol.

I relate to what it said at the bottom about not having T/F until 13, I looked like an INTJ for years, it's probably because Fe is our secondary function.

 

[eii]

I've shown INTJ traits since a child, no doubt.

 

[waterbaby]

Me as a child in a nutshell:

INJ Traits

1. They have vivid imaginations
2. They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"
3. They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups
4. They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality
5. They enjoy art and music
6. They love books, and especially enjoy fiction
7. They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation
8. They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings
9. They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events
10. They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports
11. They are perfectionists
12. They're serious and intense
13. They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends
14. They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness
15. They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them

Potential Strengths

1. They're usually very intelligent
2. They can grasp the big picture easily
3. They can see any far-reaching consequences of their actions
4. They're very resourceful
5. They are extremely creative and imaginative
6. They easily come up with good ideas
7. They're usually well-liked by their peers
8. They will completely master a subject that interests them
9. Their desire to be in control of themselves makes them take responsibility for their actions
10. They are usually confident in their ideas, and know instinctively when they are right about something

Potential Weaknesses

1. They have short attention spans
2. They get bored easily with details or routine tasks
3. They won't put any effort into doing something that doesn't interest them
4. They frequently don't hear people
5. Once they have made up their mind about something, they can be very stubborn about it
6. They ignore details
7. They are unsettled by change, and don't usually adapt well to new situations
8. They're uncomfortable and somewhat overwhelmed by large groups
9. They are rather unaware of their environment, and seem "out of it"
10. They are rather self-centered, and may be unaware of how their actions or words affect others
11. They can be controlling and bossy
12. Although they come up with ideas easily, they don't do as well implementing their ideas

INJ Learning Style

INJs are extremely curious and intellectual children who need a wide variety of mental stimulation. When they are interested in a subject, they will naturally want to know everything about it. Teachers should be prepared to point INJ children towards sources where they can learn more about the subject. INJ children don't do well with tasks that require following prescribed steps in a plan or rote memorization. They find these kinds of things extremely boring, and they will resist doing them. They also don't like to do things repetitively. Once they have done something once, they are done with it and want to move on to the next thing. To keep things interesting for the INJ, teachers should give them the basic theory and the desired outcome, and let them figure out how to get there on their own.
Teachers should realize the INJ's weakness of not always being aware of their environment, and recognize that if an INJ didn't hear the teacher, it doesn't necessarily mean that they weren't listening. Sometimes the INJ's private world overtakes the INJ to the point that they completely tune out their environment. As much patience as possible should be shown with this characteristic. INJs will develop some control over this as they grow older.
INJs love to come up with ideas, and naturally want to put their ideas into some kind of structure or plan. They want to do this on their own, with little or no direction. They highly prize their ideas and their competence at performing their projects, and are threatened by someone giving them too much direction. This is almost an insult to the INJ, who bases a great deal of their self-esteem on their independence.
INJs thrive doing independent projects that require creativity, such as science projects or writing projects. They will probably not enjoy group projects as much, although they are likely to be fine working with one partner on a project.
Answer the INJ's many questions as thoroughly as possible. If you don't know the answer to a question, be honest and tell them that you don't know. Offer possible avenues for discovering the answer, such as library research.
Present the rules and expectations clearly and consistently. INJs naturally crave structure and order. Although they don't want to be told exactly how to do something, they need to understand any rules clearly.
INJ Special Needs

INJ children need a good amount of time alone. They get most of their energy from within themselves and their rich imaginations, so they need adequate time alone to recharge their batteries. After a long day of school, the INJ may head to their room to spend some time alone. Respect this need of your child's, and understand that once they have spent time alone they will be ready to interact with you. Don't push them to be around yourself or others until they have spent some quality alone time. An INJ who doesn't get the chance to spend any time alone will be irritable, cranky and tired. INJs who have made up their minds about something can be quite stubborn and unwilling to compromise. When faced with an INJ who has "dug in their heels" about something, take some time to present them with clear and valid alternatives to their way of thinking. This will help the INJ to not become overly rigid, pompous and unbending in their views.
Socially, pre-teen INJ's are usually fairly reserved and may be intimidated by large numbers of people. They like to watch for awhile before participating. It's best not to push the INJ to interact socially before they are ready. Allow them to watch first, and jump in when they want to. If you are a very extraverted or gregarious adult, don't expect the same behavior your INJ child. INJs usually prefer to interact with one person at a time, and enjoy having a couple of close friends rather than a number of acquaintances. As the INJ gets a bit older, he or she will probably become more social. In the meantime, understand that your child is probably uncomfortable with large groups of people, and don't make them feel guilty for that fear. If your child is afraid of walking into large social situations alone, you might arrange to walk in with your child, or have your child go to the event with a friend.
Too many suggestions or feedback on a project while it is still going on may interfere with the INJ's creative energy. Much of the interest in actually doing the project comes from the INJ's drive to prove their inner visions and independence. Any "interference" from the external world will confuse the INJ, and it may cause them to doubt themselves or their idea. In any event, it will usually cause them to lose interest in the project and abandon it. It's probably best to wait until an INJ's project is finished before commenting.
Talk through their ideas with them one-on-one. This will help the INJ to put their ideas into context within the external world. The INJ doesn't naturally have a high awareness of how their intensely personal visions fit into the world. Getting them into the habit of talking through their ideas while they are young will help them develop the ability to apply their ideas realistically and effectively.

 

[waterbaby]

Now that I think about it... How long have children's type descriptions been around? I think I remember some sort of test in school (or possibly therapy)... I think I remember reading this description during childhood and thinking, "ok, maybe I'm not insane..."
I am terrible at remembering certain types of past events, though... (weak Si? idk)

 

[LadyBlahBlah]

I'm gonna describe myself as a child here before I read my type to ensure I don't adjust my thinking to fit it.

I lied A LOT! I lied to get out of trouble, I lied to sound cool, I lied to see if I could get away with lying, I lied for no reason at all. It was one of those phases where I really just wanted to push that particular boundary and see what I could do and what the consequences were. It ended at around 10ish though.

I loved Barbies. I really didn't care so much about actually playing them as much as I just liked to line them all up, pick my barbies, give them names, make up a background story for their lives and personalities, pick out their clothes, etc.

I read a lot. I could read two+ books in a day. I had a reading level much higher than my age and I started reading Sweet Valley High, Christopher Pike, and even some of my mom's Jude Devereaux books at around 9 years old.

I liked to be creative, but what I found creative was just weird to everyone else.

I deeply hated hurting anyone or anything. I cried when I stepped on my mom's toe. I cried when a friend told me about how his kitten died. I once tried to bring a bug back to life after I accidentally squished it.

I was convinced my stuffed animals were alive and had lives and relationships when I wasn't around. When I was supposed to be sleeping I'd be up for hours playing out their stuffed animal lives. Man, I just realized how far back my insomnia goes.

I believed in Santa til a rediculous age.

I was quite a brat. I pushed a girl on the ground for stealing my swing, kicked a girl for cutting in line, chased boys all over the playground. I always had an attitude, but I was pretty nice until I decided you were a general asshat and didn't deserve my niceness. This hasn't changed at all.

That's all I can think of. Now I'll look up what my type says.

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Pretty good! I felt like it was a very good description of how I felt as a child, and I thought there were a lot of good tips in there that I wish someone would have read when I was a kid! I'll have to remember this site when I have children so that maybe I'll have a better idea of how to help them.

 

[waterbaby]

^^^
Kids like you were my favorite to play with... I always admired the imagination. I was imaginative, too, but oriented differently, I guess. And it took me ages to be able to stand up for myself... but I stood up for others... wth?

Storytellers often go through a lying phase at some point. I think it's an extension of the imagination in a way to some kids.

 

[LadyBlahBlah]

^^^
Kids like you were my favorite to play with... I always admired the imagination. I was imaginative, too, but oriented differently, I guess. And it took me ages to be able to stand up for myself... but I stood up for others... wth?

Storytellers often go through a lying phase at some point. I think it's an extension of the imagination in a way to some kids.

LOL! When I was around 8 or 9, I once convinced all the kids in my neighborhood that I was really the princess of Siberia and my mother and I had escaped because my father was a bad man and would kill us if he found us.

I also convinced one of my friends that my grandmother was a poltergeist hunter and had taught me how to do it. I "ghost hunted" her house and "found" a poltergeist in their grandfather clock. I promptly dropped to the floor, convulsions and all, and was "possessed by the ghost." I was apparently so convincing, her little brother became convinced 20 minutes later that the ghost had passed from me into him and that he was possessed by the devil. He began convulsing and drooling from the mouth until we took him to our friends house across the street and performed an exorcism.

God I miss being a kid. xD

 

[VH]

LOL! When I was around 8 or 9, I once convinced all the kids in my neighborhood that I was really the princess of Siberia and my mother and I had escaped because my father was a bad man and would kill us if he found us.

I also convinced one of my friends that my grandmother was a poltergeist hunter and had taught me how to do it. I "ghost hunted" her house and "found" a poltergeist in their grandfather clock. I promptly dropped to the floor, convulsions and all, and was "possessed by the ghost." I was apparently so convincing, her little brother became convinced 20 minutes later that the ghost had passed from me into him and that he was possessed by the devil. He began convulsing and drooling from the mouth until we took him to our friends house across the street and performed an exorcism.

God I miss being a kid. xD

Okay, it's official. I love you!