Dohavior - For what you said, I'm glad to hear some negative parts of this kind of relationship, but, I cannot say that would be true for all INTJs. The guy I'm with now has so far not lied to me, if he has done something wrong, he tells me, if he has something to say no matter how forward it might be, he says it. I'm not going to spill his business here as to why he's become how he is, but I do think that the conflict is very real. So far I have not seen any real red flags, at least not in my eyes and yes, he's told me things that you just don't tell to other people for the simple fact that...well, it would scare a lot of people away. I am not trying to be biased, but I've been a good read on people before. On the note of saying its both our 3rd real relationship, I didn't mean it as "3rd times a charm" was just stating our past experience in relationships before, as those are what curve our mindset going forth into a new relationship.
What is a lie to you? For a lie to ever be plausibly believable it must bare some deception of truth.
INTJ is true for that which is INTJ, this is undeniable. I know all about "relevance" that is what you insinuated I did not have, and if you knew enough about it which you did not when you ascribed such to my character you could have stated that word, I just quoted it. I think in negatives and counterfactuals for this is my type INTP, I like to transcribe and verify and it saddens me that you have such an opinion of my methods.
Have you ever heard the term Antihero or Martyr? The authors of MBTI Meyers and Briggs used the research of Carl Jung to form the tests. He describes the function of Introverted Feeling as a self destructive impulse quite similar to martyrdom and false heroism.
"He's become how he is...", yes but what has he done? He rubs his misdeeds in your face and you do nothing. It will escalate I hope you know this. Its all about control, everything. One could think of your relationship as a sandbox or experiment, and he is INTJ the "scientist".
Any past is experience, use everything you have to be all that you can be. Try finding someone or something that you can spill his business to even if its just talking out loud to yourself or a pet. This should remove that curved mindset going forth into a new relationship and provide clarity.
Have you ever heard of posturing or stances? One often hears about such when discussing any of the careers that are recommended to INTJ by the MBTI. When a type is under distress they fall back to their subconscious Anima which is of the opposite type, such in this case would be ESFP also known as the Actor. Now Actors in general don't get angry they posture, its all an act. To an INTJ if one is angry which they never are then they are at fault for they are not like them and vice versa hence the Tall poppy syndrome that might be disturbing you at this point. Its a term often used in UK, Canada, Australia, New Zealand which are culturally well known for their leaning towards Extraverted Feeling.
Often times complexity is mistaken for intelligence. Intelligence is the ability to maximize possibilities. Now if one plans too aggressively they remove the will/possibilities of another, seeing as plans are fixated/static/defined by some sense this will always occur. If one is left with no possibilities and therefor by inflation/deflation/sympathy the other has all the possibilities this is the best strategy to put all the cards in one's hand so to speak and they get to be that "false hero" they wanted to be towards that other person. This is the premise behind Machievellianism a self defeating method that destroys one's net worth in reaping the success of others and is much laughed at by the Dilbert Principle, it has been more modernly redubbed Objectivism.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PL0Xq0FFQZ4
I will pm you more sources if you like so they aren't as viciously assaulted like my thumb count. What beautiful Notoriety my audience has given me. I love you too! (^_^) ,O *thumbs down* /denial Now to plug those usernames into a list and refine my algorithms, for your opinions will always be assimilated and put to use.
