[INFJ] INFJ male and ENFP female

Wyote said:
Ah yes, that sweet bunker life. Just before the end.
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that's amazing
 
Tends to get messy between these two. Both attract each other but also demand huge amount of energy. That spark you felt, it can blaze until it burns both of you.

Been there done that both romantically and in friendships. Lots of fun and great memories while it lasts thou. :sweatsmile:
 
TheFool said:
Tends to get messy between these two. Both attract each other but also demand huge amount of energy. That spark you felt, it can blaze until it burns both of you.

Been there done that both romantically and in friendships. Lots of fun and great memories while it lasts thou. :sweatsmile:
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it tends to go that way friendship wise too? That spark could be one sided! I could be assuming and shouldn’t.
 
Id be curious how you would describe your chemistry with your s/o as you do with the infj male....
As in depth as that was?...The said chemistry, deep looks, etc.
If they've been friends all along, then why not him instead? Does he have some qualities that made your s/o a more sensible and safe as a partner vs a real connection?
Honest curiosity really, it sounds like a Nicholas Sparks type situation....
 
CaitlinRae2192 said:
Id be curious how you would describe your chemistry with your s/o as you do with the infj male....
As in depth as that was?...The said chemistry, deep looks, etc.
If they've been friends all along, then why not him instead? Does he have some qualities that made your s/o a more sensible and safe as a partner vs a real connection?
Honest curiosity really, it sounds like a Nicholas Sparks type situation....
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my s/o is very logical and I am much abstract. We are opposites which works really well except in this area. My s/o knows how I feel. None of this is news to him.

I don’t see the friend often which makes it easier. But on that note, I’ve gotten to know him over the years and the red flags are endless. I don’t think we would ever make a good match long term and quite frankly if anything happened between my s/o and me, I’d cut ties - who needs that drama? I don’t entertain thoughts of us together. I just can’t.

When I do see him he’s super into catching up, seeing how I am, we get our updates. If I seem more quiet he will try to engage and start a conversation, or look for my input or opinion. If I try to bail he encourages me stay. All of this can be friendly, though. The chemistry I speak of could be one sided. I feel like I have to break eye contact or change the subject so we don’t get “carried away” in whatever we could talk about. Then my s/o steps in and the friend has to explain it. One of the last times I saw him I asked if he saw a show and he got super flustered and muttered “I can’t think of you sexually, ah stop!” which is not the point of the show AT ALL.

But we don’t stay in touch independently. Perhaps I’m making it a nick sparks novel out of boredom.
 
Chickensoup said:
If he’s anything like me, he’ll re-intiate your friendship when he feels more safe emotionally. Maybe just be careful in the future about the unspoken roles he’s asked to play in your life because he’ll step in before knowing what he’s into.
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But could any of this JUST be friendly?
I can’t imagine him stepping in, really. They’re best friends. He’d never risk it.
 
Yvonne Larkin said:
But could any of this JUST be friendly?
I can’t imagine him stepping in, really. They’re best friends. He’d never risk it.
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I can’t say, I don’t know him. I think if you’re picking up a vibe, then you’re picking up a vibe. You needed caretaking and he stepped in to help - your boundaries got muddled. He’s backing off now, which I think is the key thing. So, no harm, no foul, I say.
 
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