Jet
The Token Extravert
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He was extremely attractive, even as a chinese guy, seriously.
He was extremely attractive, even as a chinese guy, seriously.
You've got to either tag or reply to me or I won't know you've respondedWhat is your opinion on love and marriage?
You've got to either tag or reply to me or I won't know you've responded
I think love makes people irrational and stupid and it is not at all a good reason to be with someone in and of itself. Love is not always kind or wonderful but it is easy and we are sold that it is the best thing there is and so we buy into the mythos of it.
Marriage is just a piece of paper that comes with certain legal benefits. Marriage does nothing to change a relationship. The wedding part of the marriage has gotten totally out of hand. "Traditional" marriage is not something that is necessarily ideal for all people yet like love people cling to it and fuck up their lives instead of figuring out what works best for them.
I've only had one relationship and I don't think I'm jaded, it was just a shitty relationship and I was young and naive when I started it.hmm...
Do you think that your views of love/marriage are due to being jaded from past relationship/s?
I've only had one relationship and I don't think I'm jaded, it was just a shitty relationship and I was young and naive when I started it.
My views on marriage stayed the same before, during, and now. Ex said he shared what i personally wanted from a relationship and the marriage was just a technicality for him to stay in the US and for tax/insurance purposes ... but obviously he lied.
As for love...young jet believed that enough love would make it work, would make it okay. It doesn't. I still love just not romantically, honestly I'm scared to love like that again because I don't always have feelz but when I do they tend to overpower my brain and I make stupid decisions.
I didn't anticipate changes in our relationship after marriage. He wanted me to become a model housewife, mother, as well as continue working and to keep him fully satisfied sexually as a "good wife should" and to forgive his straying when I didn't.So did he want more from the marriage than the Visa/insurance/tax purposes and you didn't?
Sorry if it feels as tho im prying. Just trying to understand where you're coming from.
Do it!!!!!!!I wont comment about how its apparently harder for supposibly very attractive people to partner up. That is a can of worms i dont want to open right now lol plus i have a headache. But ugh. Nails on chalkboard lol
Do it!!!!!!!
It's because you are probably thinking the same thing I was!LoL you're the only one who will enjoy reading it!! I lurv you!
i'm 33, i love my looks, i'm educated, no kids, no real baggage, i'm financially intelligent and come from good parents, i do fun stuff like DJ at clubs but also white collar job as a teacher and i have a few businesses.
i'm scared that i'm "too picky" tho i think it's a fear that's been put in my head by people around me. i haven't ever met anybody but one person who was fun intellectually, creatively, and physicallysatisfying. and that guy chased me with a knife cuz he was a junky and fnallysnapped!
i'm really not that hard to get along with, i was homecoming queen and at work i'm one of the few people that doesn't have drama with everyone at the school. Is it my moral code? For example, i've met some great guys but they act as if i need to sleep with them right away and of course i don't and i feel they humor me or the couple that i'd gained interest in over the last two years, they wouldn't give me title of wife or even girlfriend, yet both wanted to practically own me and acted very possessive and paraded me around like i was the best thing in their lives.
do other INFJ females feel the same way? that you're so smart in so many arenas that potential mates are either too boring or unintelligent or irresponsible, and the ones that would be great see you as nags or bitches when you maintain your morality?
am i destined to be alone? or with someone i don't really love? my dad asked me for a grandchild and i want a baby soooo bad, but only if it comes with a husband that i want and love. i've read every thing i could find on attracting a great mate, what else can i do?
I'm going to be honest, @Pin, this girl sounds like horrific bad news.It's easy to get married.
Most of people get married. The question is, how many people stay married? Not a lot. Why? Because men and women are simply animals these days, including INFJs.
To me it sounds like you're being too picky. I'd look for the practical things in a partner first and then work on the fantasy later. You could grow together and build a lot in common.
I'll get back to this soon but... Yeah.I'm going to be honest, @Pin, this girl sounds like horrific bad news.
I suspect that the decent men simply avoid her like the fucking plague, and so she ends up with the junkies.
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I mean, she even quoted the rank grade of one of her boyfriends. 'Hi, mom, I'd like you to meet Jim O-5... I like him better than Dave E-6 but not as good as Adam $200,000'
In my opinion, she passed up a golden opportunity.I'm going to be honest, @Pin, this girl sounds like horrific bad news.
I suspect that the decent men simply avoid her like the fucking plague, and so she ends up with the junkies.
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I mean, she even quoted the rank grade of one of her boyfriends. 'Hi, mom, I'd like you to meet Jim O-5... I like him better than Dave E-6 but not as good as Adam $200,000'