Is it really weird to crave affection?

Skarekrow said:
I know it's cliche but find a hobby...do something to keep yourself busy....I recently discovered that I was really damn good at carving things out of wood....who would have thunk.....I never knew I could do that....
Find something cathartic....something that gets your endorphins flowing....
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That's definitely a good plan!! I was thinking that once January is over and all these essays are out of the way I'd crack on with something, but perhaps I should think sooner than that. Endorphins are never a bad thing :)
 
Bollington said:
That's definitely a good plan!! I was thinking that once January is over and all these essays are out of the way I'd crack on with something, but perhaps I should think sooner than that. Endorphins are never a bad thing :)
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Go run, swim, hell even meditating releases endorphins...in fact I wrote a paper on the relationship between Buddhist visions and self-induced overdose of endorphins...was really interested in neuro-chemistry at one point in time...lol....they are so good for you...there is no medication that the Doc can give you that would work better to improve your mood....
 
Skarekrow said:
Go run, swim, hell even meditating releases endorphins...in fact I wrote a paper on the relationship between Buddhist visions and self-induced overdose of endorphins...was really interested in neuro-chemistry at one point in time...lol....they are so good for you...there is no medication that the Doc can give you that would work better to improve your mood....
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This is exactly the kind of thing I need to hear. I won't go now, as it's midnight, but tomorrow I'm going to do something endorphiny (if that's not a word it should be!)
 
Bollington said:
This is exactly the kind of thing I need to hear. I won't go now, as it's midnight, but tomorrow I'm going to do something endorphiny (if that's not a word it should be!)
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Meditate before bed....there is a Buddhist meditation to appreciate your position in life and that is to simply envision all those in the world that have it worse than you...it isn't really a comfortable meditation, but it gives you better perspective on you own situation... and like I said even that will release endorphins.
 
Skarekrow said:
Meditate before bed....there is a Buddhist meditation to appreciate your position in life and that is to simply envision all those in the world that have it worse than you...it isn't really a comfortable meditation, but it gives you better perspective on you own situation... and like I said even that will release endorphins.
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Hmmm, I'd never really considered that kind of meditation. Perhaps I'll give it a go. Actually, speaking of which... :)

Thanks again, by the way.
 
No prob, good luck...let me know how it goes...
 
You are not alone, everyone deals with it to some extent or another.
 
Phew, thanks guys :)
 
Im sending you a big hug Bollington.
I'm addicted to affection too. Which is a little bit ironic because I also love independence and need a lot of time to myself.
Im lucky though because I have the cuddliest toddler in the world that needs constant affection. Her nickname is cuddle pie. I live with my sister (INFP) and she is the same. People are sickened by how nice we are to each other. I like to slip little bits of card into my loved ones pockets that say 'hug' so they can feel loved and creeped out all at the same time.

Its a hard thing to go without. Ive been in situations before that were hostile and have been let down before by people when I really needed them. Its hard not to feel lonely and unloved when this happens.
The most important way Ive been able to remedy this is to love myself. I consider myself my best friend and I make sure I get what I need to make me happy, because I cant guarantee that anyone else will. Its my responsibility to make sure I'm happy.

I really hope you find someone to share your affection with. In the mean time maybe you could consider volunteering for a charity. That often helps curb my cravings for affection.

I believe in free hugs for everyone
 
Thank you very much, [MENTION=4956]Asarya[/MENTION] (I love your signature by the way!)

I'm glad that you, and others above, can understand the need for affection and someone to hug you every now and then! And I must say, I'm quite envious if you have all that love in your life... I really hope I can get myself a set-up even half as cool! (I'd definitely slip messages too, or possibly make a packed lunch for my partner and cut heart-shaped sandwiches, just to be a bit cutsie) There can never be enough love, if you ask me.

The making myself happy thing is a process which I can see taking some time... I've been fortunate enough to get some great advice from this forum so far and I intend to use it, but I don't think it's going to be an overnight fix.

Your idea about charity work is great! I've volunteered for a couple of things over the last couple of years and it gives such a great feeling :) I'm in my final year of a degree at the moment, so I might not go for much charity work right now; however, I do intend to do a few things when this round of assignments is over, and a hell of a lot more once my degree is finished entirely.

I also believe in free hugs for everyone :)
 
i would like to think that everyone has a need to be completely understood by someone who understands our mind, body and soul. i don't know if i'd call it affection, but more like an absolute understanding.
 
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