arbygil
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They seem to have a handle on some of the reasons behind the increase in women arrested DUI, but they didn't identify a reason that the numbers are decreasing for men. Women taking on more external stress and police being more willing to make the arrest mid-day with kids in the car are important reasons. The decrease for men is important to examine to see if we can accomplish more of that. People willing to put their own children at risk are calloused to an extent that it is difficult to know how to get through to them. DUI's are a problem where I live. Publishing the names of DUI arrests in the paper is common in the U.S., and from what I understand about where I live now, they come in to make the official arrest at the person's place of employment the next day.
For some reason it never set in my mind as a gender issue. I remember back in the '80's when various movies and media made DUI look cute and adventurous. That always exasperated me. It usually showed teenagers of both genders from what I remember.
I think it's one of those "hidden" problems, Julia - the ones people don't like talking about or dealing with. If someone gets to the point where they seriously justify drunk driving with their *kids* in the car, they're way past the point of rational thought. I would hope, for their sake (and the sake of all lives around them) that they would get busted before anyone gets killed.
But people don't like thinking about women with problems, either...not problems like this. They prefer believing that a mother will defend and protect her children no matter what, and seeing this and hearing this somehow brings chills down my spine. It feels worse, somehow, that the protective and loving mother ideal is slowly being chipped away, and it brings to mind the callousness (as you said) of a world gone wrong.
It used to be that you imagined the mother being the more sensitive, caring parent. Now? Neither one cares for their young the way they should. And that's such a shame.
I remember seeing a late 1970s movie (a comedy) where the men were totally drunk but driving their car home after a night on the town. I was appalled. But it still absolutely floors me that anyone would get behind the wheel of a vehicle after having more drinks than are safe. After two drinks within an hour, IMO, we *all* need to check ourselves. We might think we're okay, but it takes an hour for one ounce of alcohol to process out of our systems. And the effects of alcohol change depending on one's gender and body type.
But in short, no one can "hold their liquor." That's a sad, sad myth.