Loaded Questions

Wonky Oracle said:
Agreed, I was coming from a real life point of view. Internet drama is just, meh... Out of all the things a troll could be doing with their life, they choose to stir shit on the internet... It's beneath contempt, to be honest.
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It works IRL too. Which is why I follow up all work calls with an email to clarify what was discussed and to remove any plausible deniability that may get turned back on me. I also save all work emails to my archive drive (properly categorized of course).

No I will not take your word for it. No I will not do something I am uncomfortable with or think is incorrect unless you give me a specific direction to do such a thing at which point its no longer my problem since I'm not the one in the position of authority.
 
ruji said:
No, it only works for the elite. The plebs have to answer the question no matter what.
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If people practically have to answer questions in terms imposed by others, it is because they haven't internalised the concept that everyone is equal, regardless of any tinsel.
 
Nothing wrong with loaded questions. Most of the time its unintentional. Although it can be mind numbingly boring trying to get around it.
 
Flavus Aquila said:
If people practically have to answer questions in terms imposed by others, it is because they haven't internalised the concept that everyone is equal, regardless of any tinsel.
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People are not equal from a societal stand point and the sad reality is that refusing to answer or turning a question around to answer something else can have very real and negative consequences for a great many people.
 
Jet said:
People are not equal from a societal stand point and the sad reality is that refusing to answer or turning a question around to answer something else can have very real and negative consequences for a great many people.
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What kind of consequences?
 
Jet said:
Depends on the question obviously.
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You claimed that there could be serious consequences for a great many people, should they reframe questions.

I'm trying to get a sense of what you mean by "serious consequences", because it sounds exaggerated to me. I may be wrong, but nothing is convincing me that I am.
 
Flavus Aquila said:
You claimed that there could be serious consequences for a great many people, should they reframe questions.

I'm trying to get a sense of what you mean by "serious consequences", because it sounds exaggerated to me. I may be wrong, but nothing is convincing me that I am.
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Talking back to your superiors at work could lead to serious consequences like getting fired, especially since most states are now at will states.

Almost any child who refuses to answer a question or turns it around on their parent, teacher, pretty much any adult is going to have some pretty serious consequences.

A college girl at a party turning something on the drunk frat boy...

A POC in a bad neighborhood who gets questioned by the cops...

A North Korean citizen to any official...

Its honestly not hard to think of many situations in which reframing a question is going to get you in trouble.
 
Jet said:
Talking back to your superiors at work could lead to serious consequences like getting fired, especially since most states are now at will states.

Almost any child who refuses to answer a question or turns it around on their parent, teacher, pretty much any adult is going to have some pretty serious consequences.

A college girl at a party turning something on the drunk frat boy...

A POC in a bad neighborhood who gets questioned by the cops...

A North Korean citizen to any official...

Its honestly not hard to think of many situations in which reframing a question is going to get you in trouble.
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Those are good examples... it's funny, because in virtually all those scenarios, I would be OK. (Is that what people mean by privilege?): I've usually been the boss; my parents always discussed and never really ordered my brother and me around; and the two times I've ever been stopped by the police ended with us chatting and having a laugh on one occasion, and the police man apologising on the other occasion.

I can definitely see that some people end up obligated into submissive behavior... but at the same time it seems to be an avoidable position (because I know that I avoid it without consequences).

Hmmmmm..... this is going to keep me up thinking about why some people have a hard time.
 
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Flavus Aquila said:
Those are good examples... it's funny, because in virtually all those scenarios, I would be OK. (Is that what people mean by privilege?): I've usually been the boss; my parents always discussed and never really ordered my brother and me around; and the two times I've ever been stopped by the police ended with us chatting and having a laugh on one occasion, and the police man apologising on the other occasion.

I can definitely see that some people end up obligated into submissive behavior... but at the same time it seems to be an avoidable position (because I know that I avoid it without consequences).

Hmmmmm..... this is going to keep me up thinking about why some people have a hard time.
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Well we evolved to feel empathy for those that remind us of ourselves or those that are in our tribe. It makes sense that an Asian in a majority Black country will have difficulty finding people that will empathize with him.
 
ruji said:
Many people would put up with random strangers or
people they don't know that well simply because they fear social backlash.
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People will not only put up with random strangers because of the above, people will go out of their way to give them a piece of their mind for even seemingly mundane things.

Wear any- ANY sports-branded clothing item in a public place and I guarantee you someone will make a comment eventually.
 
I don't like "loaded" questions as they're really not a question most of the time. Anything where the answer is suggested or implied or a deliberate attempt to twist the truth or facts.

As soon as I read this thread title I did think of one brilliant one though, which was asked by the late great Caroline Ahearne on her TV show Mrs Merton to Debbie McGee, who was the assistant to a famous UK TV magician Paul Daniels

 
I don't actively hate loaded questions. They require some level of understanding of what the other person is saying.
Most of the time we (the people) don't listen to what anyone is saying.
We're too busy thinking about ourselves.
 
Trifoilum said:
What is wrong with people asking loaded questions and saying loaded statements?

And how do you deal with these kind of people?

(I'm waiting for someone to call me out on the irony)
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They usually feel insecure and want to feel important so they advise you condescendingly. See reality is universal but morality is relative, so even if they sound like they know what they are talking about it doesn't make it right or you wrong. You disable these types by either a strong opinion or great support of evidence.
 
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