@Jacobi


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And I thought this one would be interesting to watch as well though it isn’t a meditation.

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I think Reiki only works when the client is ready to Receive.

The healing energies flow through the Reiki practitioner and can only move into the client's energy field IF they are open to Receive it.

There is also the point of whether it's for the Highest Good of the client. Meaning when we came here to have a human experience that included the full range of the good stuff and the bad stuff. Generally over the last thousands of years we experienced these ranges throughout lifetimes and not all in one. Yet in this current time(line) many of us came here with a boat load of variety of experiences to finish and tie up loose ends and experiencing physical pain is most certainly one of them.

With those points in mind it would make sense to me a person seeking a reduction in pain - who is not aware there is a lesson in that pain for them - might not see much reduction because it's not for their Highest Good - yet.

I have come to know.... that without someone on the other side of me ready to receive the energy flow I'm directing towards them....it stays stymied within me. Likewise I am seeing the effects of the energy flowing through me to others who are open to Receiving it.

Having participated in Quantitative and Qualitative research projects trying to fit a social experience into a scientific measurable conclusion - I believe a research project with random selection of participants will not demonstrate the efficacy of Reiki....until everyone on the planet "wakes up" to Receiving. ...and that's not speculated to happen for many years now.

On another note: This video of Reiki practitioners engaging with a wild wolf on their place will blow your mind.
All the inhabitants on Earth - including the animals - have raised their vibrational frequency to match the planet as it rises....EXCEPT for Humans. We are still lagging behind trapped in our fears.
You can clearly see this Wolf demonstrating its awareness in the following video as the Wolf allows the humans to assist her with a neurological disorder.
I cried and cried as I watched this....as I was remembering such a long long time ages past where Human and Animal cooperated with each other in a spirit of compassion and co-creation.

I hope it teases your curiosity.

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I think Reiki only works when the client is ready to Receive.

The healing energies flow through the Reiki practitioner and can only move into the client's energy field IF they are open to Receive it.

There is also the point of whether it's for the Highest Good of the client. Meaning when we came here to have a human experience that included the full range of the good stuff and the bad stuff. Generally over the last thousands of years we experienced these ranges throughout lifetimes and not all in one. Yet in this current time(line) many of us came here with a boat load of variety of experiences to finish and tie up loose ends and experiencing physical pain is most certainly one of them.

With those points in mind it would make sense to me a person seeking a reduction in pain - who is not aware there is a lesson in that pain for them - might not see much reduction because it's not for their Highest Good - yet.

I have come to know.... that without someone on the other side of me ready to receive the energy flow I'm directing towards them....it stays stymied within me. Likewise I am seeing the effects of the energy flowing through me to others who are open to Receiving it.

Having participated in Quantitative and Qualitative research projects trying to fit a social experience into a scientific measurable conclusion - I believe a research project with random selection of participants will not demonstrate the efficacy of Reiki....until everyone on the planet "wakes up" to Receiving. ...and that's not speculated to happen for many years now.

On another note: This video of Reiki practitioners engaging with a wild wolf on their place will blow your mind.
All the inhabitants on Earth - including the animals - have raised their vibrational frequency to match the planet as it rises....EXCEPT for Humans. We are still lagging behind trapped in our fears.
You can clearly see this Wolf demonstrating its awareness in the following video as the Wolf allows the humans to assist her with a neurological disorder.
I cried and cried as I watched this....as I was remembering such a long long time ages past where Human and Animal cooperated with each other in a spirit of compassion and co-creation.

I hope it teases your curiosity.

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What a wonderful video!!! Thank you for posting that…so beautiful!
It is amazing how far away from nature man has moved itself…at least some of them…I love that I live so close to the forest that I can walk there.
There are kids in cities who have never seen the forest, or the ocean, or a real river running down the mountainside undirected by the hand of man.
That’s pretty sad.

But there is also change taking place…it’s moving in waves now - today we are in a trough and pretty chill…a couple days ago - pretty shitty as the wave crested and crashed. That’s my perception anyhow.

I agree that you must be open to such things or it probably won’t work…subconsciously you are blocking those energies with your disbelief.
Still…I think someone who is really good can break through those folks most of the time…it just may not be AS beneficial as it could have been.
Also…yes, pain teaches a great many lessons - I have learned what I feel is a great deal from my own experiences…but also I have come to understand that some of my pain I chose when I worked in the medical profession…I now know that I gave those healing energies to others who needed it at the time, and this is the burden of that choice my heart and spirit chose subconsciously.

I can live with that choice…I would chose it again.
Just as I would chose to marry my Ex-wife again if I could go back, because without her and that marriage I wouldn’t have a child who calls me “Papa”…not my biological Son but the one who chose me to be his Dad. I think I have said before the look he gave me when we first met…for years I didn’t understand this smile and look he had given me and then one day I realized - He recognized me…he smiled at me like I was his oldest friend.

Thank you as always Kgal for your wonderful insight.
Lots of love!
 
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I have had Reiki a handful of times with mixed results (I’m sure it varies from person to person), but you as the recipient need to be in the right frame of mind too (which can be difficult when you really hurt).
I have actually found meditation and biofeedback to be the most helpful personally…I’ll see if I can find a good guided one on youtube for him.
Also - acupuncture…again, it’s about finding the right person…(find the oldest Asian dude you can).
It would be nice to see his medication list and the surgery summary, so I can’t really offer any suggestions other than make sure his Doctor is aware that he is in bad pain…a lot of times they can help but (especially men) try to just “tough it out”.
Of course he can’t just meditate all day long, that is extremely difficult firstly and secondly you can’t get anything else accomplished…but for the pain that already hurts to the point where your day is going to be wasted anyhow, it is very helpful.
Believe it or not - reading and music…both stimulators of Dopamine…actually so does meditation and acupuncture…this is one of the body’s natural mood booster/pain killer. Laugher IS the best medicine…it actually does decrease pain in studies done.
I’ll post up that video in a bit if you think he would be open to it…I just put on eye shades…get in a cozy position, and pop in the earphones.
Other than that - hot baths (if he can…you may want to check with his discharge instructions as to when a bath is suitable).

Thanks for the advice. I doubt he'd be into meditation, though he is leaning towards acupuncture. I don't really know much about the medication he's currently taking, I know for the pain he's taking a combination of brufen and paracetamol. He was taking stronger medication, but it caused constipation. And yeah, he's definitely the type of guy to try to shrug off the pain (the fact that he's even talking about it speaks volumes) or downplay it to the doctor.

Thanks for the youtube links, but he lives very far out in the country; no wifi connection and no access to the internet. It's sad, but he can't even read. He was taken out of school at a very young age when his father was sick and needed help on the farm. He's had it fairly tough. And now he's got another six months of chemo because they couldn't get all the cancer.

Laughter definitely has helped him. I was with him a few days ago and just being there and joking with one another made him feel a lot better. As for hot baths, he has a colostomy bag and I'm not sure if that might restrict their use.

Thanks for all the advice man, really appreciate it.
 
Thanks for the advice. I doubt he'd be into meditation, though he is leaning towards acupuncture. I don't really know much about the medication he's currently taking, I know for the pain he's taking a combination of brufen and paracetamol. He was taking stronger medication, but it caused constipation. And yeah, he's definitely the type of guy to try to shrug off the pain (the fact that he's even talking about it speaks volumes) or downplay it to the doctor.

Thanks for the youtube links, but he lives very far out in the country; no wifi connection and no access to the internet. It's sad, but he can't even read. He was taken out of school at a very young age when his father was sick and needed help on the farm. He's had it fairly tough. And now he's got another six months of chemo because they couldn't get all the cancer.

Laughter definitely has helped him. I was with him a few days ago and just being there and joking with one another made him feel a lot better. As for hot baths, he has a colostomy bag and I'm not sure if that might restrict their use.

Thanks for all the advice man, really appreciate it.

Yeah an ostomy bag would hinder a bath..though the seals on those things are pretty damn good…it’s like a sticky wax shit.
I would say go with just trying to cheer him up and do your best to keep his spirits up then…that seems like the best course of action..though I would try acupuncture if he is open to it.
Let me know if I can help in any way…shit man, that’s a tough hand to play.
Talk to his wife ( I assume he is married ) and make sure the Doctor is aware of his pain if he is a non-sharing type of guy.
There are options to solve the constipation associated with certain narcotics, and other type of synthetic narcs like Tramadol are less likely to cause constipation though usually they just need to take a couple of stool softeners along with their meds.
I’m here for you man!
 
Yeah an ostomy bag would hinder a bath..though the seals on those things are pretty damn good…it’s like a sticky wax shit.
I would say go with just trying to cheer him up and do your best to keep his spirits up then…that seems like the best course of action..though I would try acupuncture if he is open to it.
Let me know if I can help in any way…shit man, that’s a tough hand to play.
Talk to his wife ( I assume he is married ) and make sure the Doctor is aware of his pain if he is a non-sharing type of guy.
There are options to solve the constipation associated with certain narcotics, and other type of synthetic narcs like Tramadol are less likely to cause constipation though usually they just need to take a couple of stool softeners along with their meds.
I’m here for you man!

Yeah I figure all I can do is be there and try to cheer him up. He's going to give acupuncture a try, though he's skeptical about it.
I've talked with my aunt and letting the doctor know about the pain is the plan. But they're in a very rural area and the local GP is fairly old-fashioned as well so I'm not sure how it'll all go.
Actually the current medication, despite only being over the counter, seems to be helping more than the stronger stuff. Though that might stops being the case when the body get's used to it. Then I'll suggest the synthetic narcs. We're hoping it's only short term, but if it keeps going he's only going to get more depressed. I'm sure you know better than most.
Thank you skarekrow. You're an awesome guy.
 
I believe the power of focused loving touch can heal the mind, body and spirit. The simple power of loving touch has tremendous healing abilities, but when combined with focused intent, belief and openness, we all have the ability to heal. My academic training wants to find ways to show that Reiki does indeed possess healing capabilities and deserves a place in modern medicine.

Healing happens in many ways, through science, technology and LOVE. Even if you cannot physically heal a persons body you can heal their spirit. I have a variety of different Reiki experiences, the strongest are an exchange of energy. It's like a Vulcan mind meld. I see them and they see me. Sometimes I see traumatic experiences in people's lives, sometimes I feel an abundance of love, sometimes I feel someone else's stress, sometimes I feel nothing. I'm looking forward to becoming a Reiki Master. Partly because I believe in its power to help healing, but partly because I want to work to help Reiki become more acceptable in mainstream society.

Never underestimate the power of loving touch. Modern medicine can do wonders to heal people, and even produce miracles, but focused loving touch can heal the spirit, which can aid in healing the body. And then the two together, well, the possibilities might be endless.
 
Yeah I figure all I can do is be there and try to cheer him up. He's going to give acupuncture a try, though he's skeptical about it.
I've talked with my aunt and letting the doctor know about the pain is the plan. But they're in a very rural area and the local GP is fairly old-fashioned as well so I'm not sure how it'll all go.
Actually the current medication, despite only being over the counter, seems to be helping more than the stronger stuff. Though that might stops being the case when the body get's used to it. Then I'll suggest the synthetic narcs. We're hoping it's only short term, but if it keeps going he's only going to get more depressed. I'm sure you know better than most.
Thank you skarekrow. You're an awesome guy.

It’s really a no win situation in so many ways…so where were they working exactly where they hit the sciatic nerve, his back, his hips?
It depends on the injury really…what happened exactly…a lot of times if the nerve was being compressed by a disc or tumor, etc. it can have a hypersensitivity and give the person painful or strange sensations as it goes back to it’s normal position.
If they burned it with the electrocautery it will just take time to heal, but the pain should eventually go away.
Ask the Doctor or your Aunt about Neurontin, or Lyrica…not sure what they are called in your country, but they could be very beneficial to nerve pain and nerve injuries.
Just make him laugh…you’re funny as fuck when you want to be…I have no doubt that you will help him.

I believe the power of focused loving touch can heal the mind, body and spirit. The simple power of loving touch has tremendous healing abilities, but when combined with focused intent, belief and openness, we all have the ability to heal. My academic training wants to find ways to show that Reiki does indeed possess healing capabilities and deserves a place in modern medicine.

Healing happens in many ways, through science, technology and LOVE. Even if you cannot physically heal a persons body you can heal their spirit. I have a variety of different Reiki experiences, the strongest are an exchange of energy. It's like a Vulcan mind meld. I see them and they see me. Sometimes I see traumatic experiences in people's lives, sometimes I feel an abundance of love, sometimes I feel someone else's stress, sometimes I feel nothing. I'm looking forward to becoming a Reiki Master. Partly because I believe in its power to help healing, but partly because I want to work to help Reiki become more acceptable in mainstream society.

Never underestimate the power of loving touch. Modern medicine can do wonders to heal people, and even produce miracles, but focused loving touch can heal the spirit, which can aid in healing the body. And then the two together, well, the possibilities might be endless.

I completely agree…wise words!!
There is a lot of power in touch…an amazing amount really to those who have experienced it.
 
It’s really a no win situation in so many ways…so where were they working exactly where they hit the sciatic nerve, his back, his hips?
It depends on the injury really…what happened exactly…a lot of times if the nerve was being compressed by a disc or tumor, etc. it can have a hypersensitivity and give the person painful or strange sensations as it goes back to it’s normal position.
If they burned it with the electrocautery it will just take time to heal, but the pain should eventually go away.
Ask the Doctor or your Aunt about Neurontin, or Lyrica…not sure what they are called in your country, but they could be very beneficial to nerve pain and nerve injuries.
Just make him laugh…you’re funny as fuck when you want to be…I have no doubt that you will help him.

I don't know exactly, the surgeons haven't been very forthcoming with information. We're not even sure if it is the sciatic nerve, it's only a guess going on what they said. My mother's a nurse and has worked with surgeons before and that's what she believes. It could simply be back pain from being on the operating table for nine hours, though it's been three weeks now so that's unlikely.

There's a piece of the cancer right next to the sciatic nerve in his back (it's the bit they couldn't remove). And so they were working very closely near there. It may go away soon or it may be permanent. Not much we can do but wait and see how it turns out.

Ha ha, thanks. I think I got my absurd sense of humor from him so we're not lacking in things to joke about.
 
I don't know exactly, the surgeons haven't been very forthcoming with information. We're not even sure if it is the sciatic nerve, it's only a guess going on what they said. My mother's a nurse and has worked with surgeons before and that's what she believes. It could simply be back pain from being on the operating table for nine hours, though it's been three weeks now so that's unlikely.

There's a piece of the cancer right next to the sciatic nerve in his back (it's the bit they couldn't remove). And so they were working very closely near there. It may go away soon or it may be permanent. Not much we can do but wait and see how it turns out.

Ha ha, thanks. I think I got my absurd sense of humor from him so we're not lacking in things to joke about.

Glad to see you seeming to have a positive state of mind about it all.
Nine hour surgery? Hmmm…must have been pretty extensive whatever they did…my guess is he is feeling the burned nerves that they probably had to sacrifice to remove said tumor or partial removal at any rate.
Those nerves probably fed into or from the Sciatic nerve and it’s like he’s recovering from a third degree burn in a way.
Most of the time people don’t feel things like repairing a bowel or something similar because there are no nerves (besides on the way in) to cause pain.
If they had to work close to the main nerve he could have gotten some hopefully non-permanent damage done.
For Neuro cases or working around nerve we usually used a bi-polar electrocautery device…they looked like tweezers with a cord…so it would only cauterize what is in-between the tips of the device when they activate it with a foot pedal. I have seen some surgeons use the mono polar electrocautery close to nerves and the spinal cord.
So this is more of a single tipped device that you can cut with like a scalpel or cauterize any bleeding.
My best guess is they ran into some bleeding that they couldn’t get under control with the bi-polar and had to use the Bovie (mono-polar) which works via a grounding pad…usually stuck to the patient’s buttock or thigh…so there is more dissipation of the heat and electrocautery with this device…it has more “spread” we would call it.
Sometimes it’s all you can do to stop the bleeding and if they were close to the nerve then it could just need time to heal.
I would for sure, tell his Doctor that he is in pain though…also the Neurontin aka Gabapentin or another - Lyrica works really well for this type of pain.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gabapentin
 
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There is always the possibility of some nerve damage being done because of how he was positioned…if there were pressure on certain areas and nerves for a nine hour surgery, this could lead to damage.
That’s why sometimes we’ll spend like 45 mins just positioning and padding, strapping, taping, bolstering, etc. etc. to make sure this type of damage doesn’t occur, but it still can and does sometimes.
Usually it's the axillary nerve in your arm that has the most potential for damage if someone is face down for back surgery..but his sciatic nerve could have been compressed just as easily depending on his position.
Just a thought.
 
Glad to see you seeming to have a positive state of mind about it all.
Nine hour surgery? Hmmm…must have been pretty extensive whatever they did…my guess is he is feeling the burned nerves that they probably had to sacrifice to remove said tumor or partial removal at any rate.
Those nerves probably fed into or from the Sciatic nerve and it’s like he’s recovering from a third degree burn in a way.
Most of the time people don’t feel things like repairing a bowel or something similar because there are no nerves (besides on the way in) to cause pain.
If they had to work close to the main nerve he could have gotten some hopefully non-permanent damage done.
For Neuro cases or working around nerve we usually used a bi-polar electrocautery device…they looked like tweezers with a cord…so it would only cauterize what is in-between the tips of the device when they activate it with a foot pedal. I have seen some surgeons use the mono polar electrocautery close to nerves and the spinal cord.
So this is more of a single tipped device that you can cut with like a scalpel or cauterize any bleeding.
My best guess is they ran into some bleeding that they couldn’t get under control with the bi-polar and had to use the Bovie (mono-polar) which works via a grounding pad…usually stuck to the patient’s buttock or thigh…so there is more dissipation of the heat and electrocautery with this device…it has more “spread” we would call it.
Sometimes it’s all you can do to stop the bleeding and if they were close to the nerve then it could just need time to heal.
I would for sure, tell his Doctor that he is in pain though…also the Neurontin aka Gabapentin or another - Lyrica works really well for this type of pain.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gabapentin

Well hopefully that's all it is and the pain will eventually subside. His doctor has been informed of the pain and put on a whole lot of stuff (don't know what exactly). He seems very concerned with helping to lessen it.

As I mentioned, not all of the cancer could be removed. A small bit is still there which we're hoping to chemo will hit. So I was wondering if you have any idea on how likely it is the chemo will work. I can't really find much online that gives any kind of clear answer. The surgeon said that there was no way they could go back in, that where the cancer is too difficult to get too and they'd only cause damage if they kept trying. So if it doesn't work, the cancer will probably spread all over again.

I know that it's unfair to ask you this. I mean you know very little about his case and you might worry about giving false hope, or you simply might not know. Still, if you have any idea I'd be grateful.
 
Well hopefully that's all it is and the pain will eventually subside. His doctor has been informed of the pain and put on a whole lot of stuff (don't know what exactly). He seems very concerned with helping to lessen it.

As I mentioned, not all of the cancer could be removed. A small bit is still there which we're hoping to chemo will hit. So I was wondering if you have any idea on how likely it is the chemo will work. I can't really find much online that gives any kind of clear answer. The surgeon said that there was no way they could go back in, that where the cancer is too difficult to get too and they'd only cause damage if they kept trying. So if it doesn't work, the cancer will probably spread all over again.

I know that it's unfair to ask you this. I mean you know very little about his case and you might worry about giving false hope, or you simply might not know. Still, if you have any idea I'd be grateful.

I can’t tell you anything about his chances if I don’t know the type of cancer he was diagnosed with and what stage?
Don’t think for a second that it’s unfair to ask me anything.
You’re my friend.
 
I can’t tell you anything about his chances if I don’t know the type of cancer he was diagnosed with and what stage?
Don’t think for a second that it’s unfair to ask me anything.
You’re my friend.

Thank you. I know it's cancer of the bowel, but I don't know what stage. I'll find out the particulars and let you know.
 
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To see a World in a Grain of Sand
And a Heaven in a Wild Flower,
Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand
And Eternity in an hour.

~ William Blake

The individuation process is a term created by the famous psychologist Carl Gustav Jung to describe the process of becoming aware of oneself, of one’s make-up, and the way to discover one’s true, inner self.

Although the structure is basic and simple, the contents require a much deeper understanding.
For as long as mankind has existed, there were always people who asked themselves that most intriguing question: "Who am I".

There is no simple answer, but Jung’s individuation process provides us with some clear guidelines.
First you need to understand a couple of terms, frequently used in psychology.

The ego.
We are all familiar with the ego, or are we?

What is the ego?
When we say "I" or "me", what are we pointing to?

The ego is the center of consciousness, but it is not what you are, as most people think.
It is rather a function that allows you to distinguish yourself from others.

It is a structure that orders your psychological qualities, so you can make sense of yourself and your actions. It gives you a sense of uniqueness, but know that we all have that in common.

What we also have in common is a conscious and an unconscious.
With the conscious we are able to experience everyday life.

The unconscious is a part of ourselves that kind of remains in the background, but is in no way inactive or inert.

The unconscious is composed of hidden aspects of ourselves that continue to work on the conscious and thus on our everyday life, although we are not mostly not aware of it.

The unconscious tries to bring man back into balance.
In life we are not always able to do or be what we would like.

Thus, the unconscious will influence our behavior and actions in a way that will compensate.
These unconscious tendencies can be stronger than our conscious, and can even go against our will.

Thus we tell things in a flare of anger, of which we will be very sorry afterwards.
Jung divided the unconscious in two parts: the personal unconscious and the collective unconscious.

The personal conscious only belongs to yourself.
It is the collection of subliminal perceptions, repressed or forgotten memories, wishes, and emotions in an individual.

The memories of the personal unconscious can be evoked, although they cannot be totally controlled by will. Sometimes an accidental association will bring them to light.

Sometimes they appear in dreams and fantasies.
Hypnosis can also reveal them.

Another important term is the Self.
The Self is often confused with the ego.

As the ego is only a temporal structure that gives us an identity in this life, the Self is from a higher order than the ego.

The Self is that what we are in essence.
In psychological terms, it encompasses the conscious, the unconscious, and the ego.

The Self is the central archetype in the collective unconscious, like the Sun is the center of the solar system. The Self is the archetype of order, organization and unity.

It unifies the personality.
The Self is our goal of life, because it is the most complete expression of the highest unity that we call individuality.

The Collective Unconscious

The collective unconscious is an important concept in the psychology of Carl Gustav Jung.
The collective unconscious is shared by us all.

This means that it is present in each of us, a vast reservoir of the archetypes of the whole of humanity.
It is accessible to everyone.

In general, the collective unconscious consists of characteristics that many people have in common and which each of us inherit at birth.

Fear and happiness, for example are inherited human characteristics.
They arise without conscious motives but simply arise from inner necessity.

These archetypes are the result of the many experiences of life that repeat themselves: sunrise and sunset, the seasons, life and death, food, danger, and so on.

They are symbols for the experiences of mankind.
The content of the archetype is basically unconscious.

It undergoes a transformation when it becomes conscious or when it is being perceived.
The way it is transformed depends on the state of consciousness of the individual in which the archetype has arisen.

An archetype is experienced as image and as emotion.
It is especially recognizable in such typical and important human situations as birth and death, adolescence, extreme fear or a fearful experience.

During such life phases and experiences archetypes will often appear clearly in dreams.
The form of the archetype is only partially determined.

Its content is a primal image that can only be given form when it is has become conscious, and thus has become filled with material from the conscious.

Thus archetypes, when becoming conscious, will shape themselves, for example in myths and fairy tales, depending upon the cultural background of the people.

A fairy in Europe, for example will be dressed in medieval or renaissance clothing, while in the East it will wear ancient Eastern clothing and be more djinn like of appearance.

The underlying content, however, remains the same wherever you go.
Archetypes are like a frame.

The frame remains the same, but the image that appears inside the frame will be dependent upon the circumstances.

Archetypes cannot be brushed aside.
They will always manifest.

When a society undergoes a change its manifestations of the archetypes will change too.
They get another form, another image in the frame.

Archetypes by themselves are neutral, without value judgments attached to them, but they can be interpreted in a positive, negative or neutral way.

Individuation

Individuation means that one becomes a person, an individual, a totally integrated personality.
It is a process of self realization during which one integrates those contents of the psyche that have the ability to become conscious.

It is a search for totality.
It is an experience that could be formulated as the discovery of the divine in yourself, or the discovery of the totality of your Self.

This does not always happen without pain, but it is necessary to accept many things that normally we would shy away from.

Once a person has accepted the contents of his unconsciousness and has reached the goal of the individuation process, he is conscious of his relationships with everything that lives, with the entire cosmos.

Individuation is a natural, inherent process in man.
It cannot be stimulated by something external, but it grows from the inside.

Just as the body can become deformed or sick by lack of nutrition or movement, the personality can be deformed by lack of experience or education.

Jung stresses that our modern world does not give enough opportunity to experience the archetype of the Shadow.

When a child expresses his animal instincts, generally it is punished by its parents.
Punishment does not lead to the extinction of the Shadow (repressed tendencies, more about this later on), which is impossible, but it leads to the suppression of this archetype.

The Shadow retreats to an unconscious state, primitive and undifferentiated.
Then, when the Shadow breaks through the repressive barrier, and this does happen once in a while, it manifests itself in a sinister, pathological way.

Transcendence

The first step of integration is individuation of all aspects of the personality, which is called the individuation process.

There is a second phase that Jung called the transcendental function.
This function has the capacity to unify the opposite tendencies of the personality.

The goal of transcendence is the realization of all aspects of the personality as they were originally concealed in the one’s center, and the development of the potential unity.

The transcendence is the means to realize the unity of the archetype of the Self.

The Individuation Process

The individuation process begins with becoming conscious of the Persona, the mask we take on in our every day life.

After this we become conscious of the Shadow, the repressed characteristics of the ego.
Then we become conscious of the Anima, the inner woman in each man, or the Animus, the inner man in each woman.

Then the image of the old wise man, or the old wise mother appears, after which the experience of the Self happens.

These phases are not necessarily chronological in order or separated from each other.
They can overlap each other or run parallel.

The Persona

The Persona is the mask we all wear, a mask that pretends individuality.
It makes us believe that one is a certain individual, but it nothing else than a well played role.

The persona is a compromise one creates between himself and the community about how one appears to be. One adopts a name, a title, an occupation, and identifies oneself with this or that.

One thinks that one is a businessman, a good father or a misfit, but all this are masks, ways we would like to be or appear to other people and does not always reflect who we really are.

The Persona is a complicated system for connecting the individual consciousness with society.
One could call it a mask that makes an impression on other people, but also hides the true nature of the person.

It partly results from the demands of a society that one has to play the role that has been ascribed to him.
In your profession you need to fulfill the demands of that profession as well as possible.

A society demands this as a sort of security measure.
From a shoemaker is expected that he repairs shoes to the best of his abilities, not that he is a poet.

It is not even wanted that he is a poet, because then society thinks that he is not totally reliable as a shoemaker.

In academic circles, a similar person would be regarded as a dilettante, in politics he would be considered as unreliable, in the religious area he would become a free-thinker.

As soon as one deviates from his role, he becomes a suspicious person, despite the fact that he might still be an excellent worker in his profession.

Therefore, if one wants to make it in society, one can only devote himself to one single thing.
Of course, few people are able to do this, as we all have more than one interest.

To accommodate to the wishes of society, we create a mask, a Persona.
What is behind that mask we call ‘privacy’.

This split in our behavior is not without consequences.
If we neglect the development of the Persona, then people might find us insulting or they make our lives difficult, because they expect us to behave in the way society demands.

At the other side, there is danger of identifying too much with the role that one is trying to fulfill.

The Shadow

The Shadow represents unknown or little known characteristics of the ego.
When one tries to see his Shadow, he becomes conscious, and often ashamed of, the characteristics and impulses that he denies in himself but sees clearly in other people: for example: egotism, spiritual laziness, unreal fantasies, intrigues, indifference, cowardliness, greed, and all those little things of which we say "Oh, it doesn’t matter. Nobody will notice, and besides other people are doing it too".

The Shadow is the inferior being in all of us, it wants to do all those things that we do not allow ourselves to do, or that we don’t want to be.

It is the Mr. Hyde in relation to Mr. Jekyll.
The Shadow is not only about not doing something, but also about impulsive and ill considered deeds.

Before you have time to think about it, a nasty remarks slips out, leaving you confronted with the result of something that you didn’t really intended.

The Shadow is all those uncivilized desires and emotions that are incompatible with the norms of society and with our ideal personality.

It is all we are ashamed of, that we do not wish to be.

When a person joins other people, he automatically feels the need to behave as they do in order to be accepted.

Thus, he suppresses more of his tendencies, and thus makes his Shadow bigger.
The Shadow can also be a collective phenomenon in regards to the whole of humanity, like the devil or the witch.

While it is necessary to have a certain degree of suppression of one’s characteristics in regards to one’s role in society, the Shadow, remaining the unconscious, will increase in strength.

When a moment arises that the Shadow must appear, it can be so powerful and dangerous that it can overwhelm the personality.

It shows, for example, when one suddenly gets very angry.
It certainly is true with the collective Shadow, when a mass of people is protesting and apparently innocent people turn violent.

In dreams the Shadow appears as a person of the same sex as the dreamer.
The Shadow does not have to be an opponent.

As it is a part of ourselves we need to take it, give it love and compassion, control it, guide it.
The Shadow will only become hostile when it is not understood or is neglected.

The Anima

"There is in the unconscious of each man an inherent image of woman who helps him to understand her being."

The anima is the personification of all female psychological tendencies in the psyche of a man, including feelings, moods, intuition, receptivity for the irrational, the ability for personal love, a feel for nature, and the man's attitude toward the unconscious.

This image becomes conscious by real contacts with women, especially the first woman he encounters in his life.

Normally this first woman is his mother, who is the most powerful in shaping him.
There are men who have never been able to free themselves from her fascinating power.

A man's experience of his mother is of course subjective.
How she behaves is less important than his experience of how she behaves.

The image he builds is not an exact representation of how she really is, but it is colored and shaped by his inherent ability to produce an image of her, that is, his anima.

If man has the feeling that his mother has had a negative influence on him, then the anima will often be expressed with irritating, depressive moods, insecurity, a feeling of being unsafe, and touchiness.

This negative anima can be expressed in nasty, effeminate remarks, with which he demolishes everything possible.

Another anima trick is pseudo-intellectual dialogs which prevents a man from feeling life closely and coming to real decisions.

He thinks so much about life that he cannot live, and he losses all spontaneity and the flow of life.
Without a healthy anima, a man becomes effeminate, or becomes the prey of women, and he is not capable of handling the difficulties of life.

Such men can be very sentimental or touchy.
When he is grown up his image of the anima is projected onto the women that attract him.

It is then that a lot of misunderstandings arise, as most men are not aware that their projection does not correspond with who the woman is in reality.

This is the cause of a lot of strange love affairs and divorces.
Unfortunately, this projection does not happen in a rational way.

It is not that a man is actively projecting, but that the projection happens to him automatically.
Because the anima is an archetype, she has characteristics that continue to appear throughout the ages.

She has a quality of eternity.
Often she looks young, although she has the feeling that she already has years of experience.

She is wise but not overpowering.
She often has the feeling of being special, or having a secret knowledge.

She is often connected to the earth or water and can have great power.
She has both a light and a dark aspect.

She can be the pure, good, noble figure, almost a goddess, but she can also be a prostitute, a seductress or a witch.

Especially in children’s dreams these opposite aspects are pronounced.
The dark aspect will most likely appear when a man has suppressed or underestimated his female nature, treating women with contempt or carelessness.

The anima can also appear in the form a fey or an elf and lure men away from their work or home, like the sirens in ancient times.

In mythology and literature she continues to appear as a goddess and ‘femme fatale’.
In the life of men the anima expresses herself not only in the projection to women, but also in his creative activities, in his fantasies, his moods, premonitions, and emotional explosions.

An old Chinese text says that when a man wakes up in the morning with a heavy or bad mood, it is his soul, or anima, that is responsible for this.

She disturbs his concentration by whispering absurd ideas and spoils his day by supplying him with a vague feeling that something is not all right, or she wanders through his dreams with seductive visions.

Positive and negative as just two sides of a coin.
In essence the anima is a guide to the psychological development of a man.

Each time when man’s logical mind is not able to recognize or understand unconscious contents, his anima will help him to dig them out.

His anima helps him to tune himself to the correct inner values and thereby helping him to open the door to his inner world.

Thus the anima takes the role of guide and mediator in his inner world.
Then man has to take serious those feelings, moods, expectations and fantasies sent by his anima, and fix them in one form or another, like writing, painting, sculpting.

When he is working on this with patience then his unconscious contents will well up and connect with earlier material.

Whatever results from it has to be examined both intellectually as well as with his feelings.
It is important to consider it is not just ‘fantasy’, but that is very real.

The Animus

The animus in women is the counterpart of the anima in men.
Like the anima, the animus has three roots: the collective image of a man that a woman acquires, her own experiences with men in her life, and the latent male principle in herself.

The animus also has good and bad aspects.
In contrast with the anima in men which appears most often in the form of erotic fantasies or moods, the animus has a stronger tendency to appear in the form of ‘sacred’ convictions.

This male part in women is apparent when she lectures with a loud, obtrusive, male voice, or by unreasonable, emotional scenes.

Even in a woman who at the outside is very feminine, the anima can be a hard, unforgiving power.
That woman can suddenly become stubborn, cold and completely inaccessible.

Typical for such women is the endless repetition of thoughts like: "The only thing in the world I want is love, but he doesn’t love me."

Or "In this situation there are only two possibilities, and both are as bad".
The animus never believes in exceptions.

In general one cannot contradict an animus, because usually it is right, but at the same time it doesn’t quite fit the individual situation.

It is mostly only a reasoning, an opinion.
It looks right, but is beside the point.

Just as the anima of a man is formed by his experience of his mother, so the animus of a woman is formed through hers of her father.

The father gives her indisputable ‘true’ convictions that never include the personal reality of the daughter herself.

In his negative aspect, the animus is personified by a cocoon of dreamy thoughts, filled with desires and judgments of ‘how things must be’, excluding the reality of her own life.

In his positive aspect, he can be very valuable aid in building a bridge to the Self by his creative ability.
The animus often appears (especially in dreams) as a group of men, this shows that the animus personifies a collective element rather than a personal element.

Because of the collective aspect, women usually in reference to "they’ or ‘everybody’ include ‘always’, should’ and ‘must’.

The animus is a kind of a collection of fathers and similar authorities, who pass an intellectualized, indisputable judgment.

It is mostly formed from words and opinions picked up from childhood on and later brought together into a canon of half-truths, a treasure chest of preconceptions.

They are justified by "It is always done like that" or "Everybody is saying that it like this".
This critical judgment can sometimes act against her self resulting in an inferiority complex limiting her self-initiative.

In other situations she can turn against people in a completely destructive way.
She will criticize her neighbors, demolish the reputation of strangers without any reasonable explanation, or she makes belittling remarks to her family members or people with whom she works with the opinion that "it is good for them", or "I like to call things by their name", or "I just do not want to spoil them".

An intelligent and developed woman is just as susceptible to the negative aspects of the animus as less developed one.

A less developed woman will quote a newspaper instead of the state or a university.
If her opinion is being questioned she will become quarrelsome or dogmatic.

This side of a woman craves for power.
She can become aggressive, dominating and unreasonable.

Because of this aspect of the animus it is very difficult for a woman to think in a non-prejudiced way.
She always has to be aware of that inner voice that constantly tells her "that it needs to be this way", or "they should do it this way".

The positive side of the animus is that when a woman needs the courage and the aggressively he will be there to support her.

When a woman realizes that her opinions are based on generalities and authorities, then the animus can help her to look for knowledge and wisdom.

Significance of Anima and Animus

The way anima and animus function can be made conscious, but they are themselves factors that are transcendent to the conscious, and thus to perception and will.

They remain autonomous and one needs to keep an eye on them.
Anima and animus are mediators between the conscious and the unconscious psyche.

They can be understood when they appear, personified, in fantasies, dreams, visions.

The Old Wise Man

After the anima and animus, the archetypes of the old wise man and the great mother arise, respectively in man and woman.

The old wise man appears in the form of king, hero, medicine man, savior, magician, saint, ruler over man and spirits, God's closest friend and so on.

This archetype is a real danger for the personality, because once it has been aroused, a man can easily believe that he possesses ‘mana’, real magical power, and wisdom.

He who is possessed by this archetype believes he is gifted with great (maybe esoteric) wisdom, prophetic gifts, the ability to heal and so on.

Such a man can gather followers, as he has entered the unconscious way further than anybody else.

The archetype has a fascinating power, intuitively felt by people and not easily resisted.
They are fascinated by what he is saying, but after analysis it is often not intelligent.

The power of the old wise man can be destructive as it forces a man to act above his power and capacity.
He does not posses the wisdom he claims.

In reality it is the voice of the unconscious that should be subjected to criticism and analysis.

The Great Mother

In a woman the archetype of the great mother acts in a similar way to the old wise man in a man.
Any woman possessed by this archetype, believes that she is gifted with an unlimited capacity to love and to understand, to help and to protect, and she will exhaust herself in service to others.

The archetype can be destructive when the woman is fixated on the belief that anybody within her sphere of influence are ‘her children" and therefore they are helpless or dependent on her.

The Experience of the Self

The process of individuation is not easy for Western man because he has difficulty with the concept of paradoxes.

Nevertheless it is necessary to accept both the superior and the inferior, the rational and the irrational, the order and the chaos, light and darkness, yin and yang.

The Self, according to Jung, is not a kind of universal consciousness.
It is rather an awareness of our unique nature and our intimate connection with all life.

This life is not only human but also animal, with plants and minerals, and even the entire cosmos.
It gives us a sense of ‘unity’ and acceptance of life as it is, and not as we might think we want it to be.

The Self is symbolized in the form a child, Christ, Buddha, and so on.
In dreams it can sprout forth from an animal or an egg.

The hermaphrodite, an often used alchemical image, is another symbol, it joins the opposites of male and female.

Other images are the difficult to obtain treasure, a jewel, a flower, a golden egg or golden ball, a chalice like the Grail, and all fourfold images like mandalas.

Importance of the Environment

Jung thought that that heritage can play a role in the balance of a personality.
Man can have inherent extrovert or introvert tendencies, or he can be a rather emotional type instead of an intellectual, and his anima can be strong or weak.

The other major component in the development of a personality is the environment.
The environment in which one grows up or lives, can deform, stimulate, or stabilize one’s development.

The environment can interfere with the growth of the personality by taking away the necessary stimuli or by making inappropriate contacts.

Parents play an extremely important role in the development of the character of the child.
They are responsible for the mistakes of the child and for stimulating his good tendencies.

During its first years, the child does not have its own identity.
His psyche is a reflection of the psyche of his parents.

Every psychic disorder of the parents is reflected in the child.
When the child goes to school it starts to develop its own individuality.

The influence of its parents can still be strong if they are overprotective, make decisions that the child should have made, and prevent the child from having sufficient experiences.

Under these circumstances the individuation of the child is stunned.
The individuation process is also limited by parents who try to impose their own psychic tendencies onto the child, or when one of the parents is seeking to compensate for his/her own shortcomings through the child.

Jung was convinced that the educators have a much stronger influence on the individuation of a child than the parents.

The educators should bring the unconscious in the student into the conscious.
They could expand the conscious of students by providing him with a multitude of experiences.

Educators are in a position to discover imbalances in the child and to help it to overcome weaknesses in it's character.

A child who is an overly developed intellectual type could be stimulated to come into contact with his feelings. An introvert student could be stimulated to show his extrovert side.

However, the most important task of educators is the recognition of the individuality of each student and the promotion of a balanced development of individuality.



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Thank you. I know it's cancer of the bowel, but I don't know what stage. I'll find out the particulars and let you know.

Yeah…there are several different types of bowel cancer, but if he is getting tumors other places then it has metastasized somewhat at least, which always make treatment more difficult. Please let me know if you can get the diagnosis and I can give you a better idea.
Just treasure the time you have with him now…it maybe 10 years it maybe 10 weeks…no one knows…we take it all for granted all the time.
 
Having participated in Quantitative and Qualitative research projects trying to fit a social experience into a scientific measurable conclusion - I believe a research project with random selection of participants will not demonstrate the efficacy of Reiki....until everyone on the planet "wakes up" to Receiving. ...and that's not speculated to happen for many years now.

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I hope it teases your curiosity.

It does tease my curiosity, but it does not ease it. I am Infinite Awareness and I am infinitely curious. :m200:

In what ways do you think that holistic thinking is catching on in society today?
 
It does tease my curiosity, but it does not ease it. I am Infinite Awareness and I am infinitely curious. :m200:

In what ways do you think that holistic thinking is catching on in society today?

My clients are starting to come to me with ideas that include a more holistic way of thinking about the human body.
Usually they are totally reliant upon what the doctor says and would never consider thinking outside the box for themselves.

Even when they don't necessarily bring up alternative ways of healing there have been times where I asked them a few questions and then they respond positively to ideas.
Most of those instances involved some kind of supplement or food though.

When people at work found out I was seeing an acupuncturist they were interested to hear why I chose to seek one and didn't laugh at me when I explained I feel "out of balance" and am hoping the work on me will get my meridians flowing again. It's especially effective if I weave the idea of the Lymph system being sluggish due to blockages of energy.

Frankly - if the people in this little rural town are interested in alternatives to healing.... then the whole world must be waking up to the idea. It is said "If one wants to be anywhere when the end of the world comes...it should be in east texas....because everything comes 20 years later to this place. :lol:
 
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