Well I just have to say first that I am now going to be talking on a more philosophically level to explain my point, in case I get misquoted.
Think for a moment about the two laws of the universe, then consider that everything has an opposite, (Day night, life and death) Now to keep it understandable and describable, lets consider that your awareness and conscious could be seen to reside on the quantum spectrum, whilst your genes are concerning the material world belonging to the same spectrum as the laws of relativity.
As you will know sprinkles that In Buddhism there is no immortal soul, only awareness, so there is no true self, even though this sounds a complete paradox, as we can clearly see our own reflection. But of course that reflection changes through time and changes into the variety of different ages and thus changing evolving You.
So it is not your personality or soul that reincarnates in Buddhism, as this is dependant upon the arising conditions and environments that we are born into as well as our genes, it is only your awareness which is in common with every other human being. This concept is very difficult for many western people to intrinsically accept, but it was also the case in the Buddha's time. Therefore its your awareness that is understood to reincarnate, and not the personality as this is impermanent. It dies when we die, so the philosophical idea in this, that there is no true self to hate or love, only our awareness.
But of course we have to live in the material world, and need personalities to communicate with each other, not just words, to fall in love, play or write music, appreciate or create art, so here again, I bring your attention to my earlier point of balance between the transcendental states of consciousness and the material world everyday world. Living or perceiving only in either one of these states would be like walking around with one of your eyes permanently closed.