Everytime I read this I change my mind on what type I am
It feels like I could be either because there's parts of both I recognise. I
think I have an immutable position on morals. I mean, morals seem very simple to me. I consider every situation according to the extent to hurt on others. So, for instance, I would tell someone I no longer loved that I didn't love them before I left. Because that gives them certainty and quashes their hope (especially if I refuse communication afterwards). This way, they go through pain before getting over it relatively quickly. Otherwise, they could maintain hope, which might hurt less at first but will draw the process out and in the end hurt them more. So it is situational. I would act a different way in a different situation and according to the personality of the person (i.e. above was a general law but it depends on the individual), but the rules seem very clear to me. It feels like it's always that one same underlying principle that I model each moral decision on and act accordingly.
Also, I tend to be quite black and white when it comes to like and dislike about people, although most of the people I hang around with are classed as "fine", which I guess is grey. That's just that there's nothing wrong with them but if they went I wouldn't miss them. I judge based on their character (rather than actions or words) and immediately upon meeting them - just a feeling I suppose. I usually don't know why I find someone unbearable but then at some point they'll say something and I'll go "oh, there it is" - though it might take years. My friends don't have to live by my morals. Like they can cheat on someone, I'll be disappointed, but I'll find common ground to help them and I'll know all along that they never meant to hurt someone because their intentions are sound. But I will not think the act is "ok because it was a nice person that did it", I will think the act was wrong but the person isn't. I may have read your theory wrong and got the wrong end of the stick but it seems to me I could go either way.
I very rarely miss people and this kind of explains why...(I have such bad Si I forget what they looked like anyway....I realised last night that I can't remember whether a man I was in a 1.5 year relationship with and was deeply in love with not two years ago had a beard or not.)
Thanks for the good description
