Nekmunnit5725
Newbie
- MBTI
- INTJ
I’m in need of some advice.
Since 2006 I’ve spoken with someone I met on an avatar based website. Over the years we found we were more interested in each other rather than the role play, and have since been interested in pursuing a relationship. However, we’ve yet to meet. Of the three attempts made all have ended in failure on his end. Mind you distance is not a complete hindrance. He lives in south Florida and I go to college six hours away in Georgia.
I’ve analyzed this a hundred time and I’m drawing a blank. It’s frustrating. I know for certain he is who he says he is, as I’ve set him up with ‘tests’ from time to time to verify his identity. He has also seen photos and video of me, and we’re both quite happy with how the other looks and sounds.
I’m beginning to think it comes down to our personalities.
It’s undecided whether I’m INTJ or INTP, but either way I’m very analytical and independent. I’m admittedly dominant, and tend to avoid doing or saying anything affectionate. He is an INFJ, and I’m afraid some of the things I offhandedly say upset him, which I know is difficult for him to convey. I do love him, and he knows that. I just think my more impersonal nature is scaring him away from trying anything.
I really don’t like the idea of leading the way. It’s evolution. The male pursues the female. I’m not sure if it’s plain logic or stubbornness on my part. We’re both long-term thinkers, and I know it would work out in the long run.
I just want to know how I should behave to encourage him, without giving up who I am.
I’m not as emotional as most other types, but I’m still human. I can wait, but I’m not sure for how much longer.
I need to know if I should give him a chance and hold out, or end something that doesn’t seem to be working.
Thank you for your time. If anyone has personal experience with such matters I’d love to hear it.
Since 2006 I’ve spoken with someone I met on an avatar based website. Over the years we found we were more interested in each other rather than the role play, and have since been interested in pursuing a relationship. However, we’ve yet to meet. Of the three attempts made all have ended in failure on his end. Mind you distance is not a complete hindrance. He lives in south Florida and I go to college six hours away in Georgia.
I’ve analyzed this a hundred time and I’m drawing a blank. It’s frustrating. I know for certain he is who he says he is, as I’ve set him up with ‘tests’ from time to time to verify his identity. He has also seen photos and video of me, and we’re both quite happy with how the other looks and sounds.
I’m beginning to think it comes down to our personalities.
It’s undecided whether I’m INTJ or INTP, but either way I’m very analytical and independent. I’m admittedly dominant, and tend to avoid doing or saying anything affectionate. He is an INFJ, and I’m afraid some of the things I offhandedly say upset him, which I know is difficult for him to convey. I do love him, and he knows that. I just think my more impersonal nature is scaring him away from trying anything.
I really don’t like the idea of leading the way. It’s evolution. The male pursues the female. I’m not sure if it’s plain logic or stubbornness on my part. We’re both long-term thinkers, and I know it would work out in the long run.
I just want to know how I should behave to encourage him, without giving up who I am.
I’m not as emotional as most other types, but I’m still human. I can wait, but I’m not sure for how much longer.
I need to know if I should give him a chance and hold out, or end something that doesn’t seem to be working.
Thank you for your time. If anyone has personal experience with such matters I’d love to hear it.